1057: How to Improve Your Next Conversation with Jefferson Fisher

Instead of saying, I disagree, what I want you to say is, I see things differently. It works because you're not arguing their point, you're talking about their perspective. When you set out to win an argument, you often will lose the relationship. Instead of seeing arguments as something to win, see them as something to unravel, where there's not in the conversation, not in the communication. And when you can have the discipline to try and see where the other person is coming from, you're always going to find a much better conversation at the end of that.

That's Jefferson Fisher. He's a trial lawyer, writer, and speaker who helps people communicate during life's everyday arguments and conversations. He's helped thousands of people, including Fortune 500 companies and government agencies, And today we're chatting about insights from his latest book, The Next Conversation. Argue less, talk more.

So you'll learn one, the best first word to use, two, how to set boundaries people will respect. And three, two tricks for handling disagreements. And if you want a quick summary write-up of some of these actionable takeaways, I recommend you visit awesomeatyourjob.com and sign up for the free gold nugget email newsletter. I'm Pete McKitis. This is how to be awesome at your job.

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