Sex Scientist: Phone Addiction Is Killing Your Sex Life More Than Porn!

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So you can put your penis in this device. They've actually done research on this. So 30 minutes, twice a day, and it does show improvements in length, about two centimeters.
Uh
And that's not all. So they actually did a study on pistachios. Where guys did 100 grams of pistachios every day and they saw a decrease in erectile dysfunction. Because if you're not having erections, now you're no longer getting blood flow to your penis, and it will shrink over time. And the same goes for women with their clitoris, because it's the same type of tissue. But also when you look at people who have sex once a week, they live
Forty nine percent longer than people who only have sex once a year. Forty-nine percent longer. Yeah. And for every hundred orgasms men had, it lived like thirteen percent longer.
Be right back. Dr. Rina Malik has become the world's most watched urologist after sharing everything you need to know about hormones, sexual health, and how to have better sex.
Based on the data. So, how can you have the best sex possible? So there's four main pillars of sexual health. So, pillar one is fuel. So, how you nourish your body. And it's a huge part of sexual activity. And then pillar two is strength. When people think about strength, they always think about going to the gym and lifting weights. It's much more than that. So when you look at the data, any sort of cardiovascular
exercise is going to improve sexual function. It's gonna improve blood flow to the penis and to the clitoris. And then also if you do 120 minutes a week, it is the same amount of improvement as you would see when you take a medication like Viagra. And the other part of it is the pelvic floor. It's under evaluated and under-discussed and we'll get into that. But pillar three is environment.
So things like stress.
sleep and endocrine disrupting chemicals. For example, they looked at data on men sleeping five hours a night versus eight hours a night.
Guys who sleep five hours a night, their testosterone drops by fifteen percent.
Yeah.
And then the last of the four pillars that we don't talk about enough.
Is
And that's so important.
Rena, I wanna talk about morning erections, squirting, clitoral stimulation, and certain positions that are going to increase the probability that my partner has an orgasm. Let's talk about all of that.
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If somebody was to come up to you in the street, having watched your videos online
And they were a a follower of the content you've produced over the last couple of years.
If you had to guess the question they would ask you, because it's probably the most frequent popular question you get asked.
What do you think they would say?
They would say, What can I be doing right now to improve my sex life?
Who would be asking you that question and why do you think they'd be asking it?
I think everyone can agree that sex is something we enjoy. It's something that's important that we want to have, right? And there is
Um, a desire to have
Good sex, or feel like maybe you're missing out on something that could be even better. So how can you have the best sex possible? Because you hear all these people talking about.
Amazing sex in the media. You might see it on pornography. You might feel like this is something amazing. Why am I not having that? I want that.
Right. So on that point you said it's obvious that it's important.
I think it appears to be increasingly
Not obvious that it's important.
Because when you look at some of these stats, I'll throw this graph that I've I found.
Yeah, up on screen.
And it shows that people are becoming more sexless, especially young adults between eighteen
And thirty. This graph is pretty stark.
Mm-hmm.
Think about fifty years ago. There was no cell phones, there might be some TV programs, but there was ads.
in between TV programs and there was only certain T V shows you could watch at a certain time that you enjoyed and then there was nothing to watch. There was no email. So you went to work and you came home and there was really not a lot of communication between you and your co workers or your job. They made dinner with their family. They hung out
And then maybe they watched a program or two, and then they lied down in bed. They didn't have a phone to scroll on, they didn't have anything to keep them up. And so then they were like next to their partner and maybe they're talking, maybe they're cuddling. And so there was more like opportunity and space for sex, right? You it was a thing that you did for enjoyment, for pleasure, for fun.
Now we have all these distractions that keep our mind away from sex.
Order to enjoy sex, you need to have space for it. You need to be able to enjoy your partner and feel like you want that, right? And now we're sort of.
I there's not as much room for it. That's one. Two is younger people
How are they dating, right? How are they meeting each other?

Ups.
Through um DMs.
And so they're not actually like really having these deep meaningful connections. There have there's a big hookup culture, there's a big like clean culture. And imagine first time sex for most people is not great. You don't know your partner. You don't know what they like. And you may not be able to express what you like. You're never taught how to talk about sex, right? So you don't know how to say like, hey, I like it.
Like this, and you may be self-conscious, because it's your first time. So you have like mediocre sex or bad sex. And they're like, Well, I don't really want that. And there's just no like follow through, right? There's there's not a lot of um education on what sex should look like. The only education people are getting are from often erotic films.
And so they're seeing sex that's not real, that's curated, and they're trying to emulate that. And that's not pleasurable for most people. And
younger people these days are um actually having a rise in more what we call rough sex.
So
Choking has become very, very common. As common as like they call choking almost like vanilla sex.
So young people, if you look at data like
Sixty percent of women and
I think it's twenty percent of men have been choked.
During sex of that age group, like college age group. And of those people who get choked, 20% have been choked 25 times or more.
I think it's fine if you're into that, but I can't imagine that that many people are into choking. And there's data to support that. So when you look at qualitative data, and this is by uh Debbie Herbinick, she's a sex researcher and she did qualitative research and she asked people, like, what is it like? Do you enjoy being choked? Tell us about it, right?
Women were like, Yeah, it's okay. Sometimes I'm scared because my partner is big and strong and I'm you know, smaller and they have big hands. Sometimes it's fine and sometimes I don't really care for it, but like it's just a part of sex. It's just as normal as k as kissing, for example. And so
If you're having sex and you're doing things just because you think that's what your partner wants or what it should look like and you're not enjoying it.
Well that's
not gonna be sex that you wanna have.
Uh that point you said about the the lifestyles we lead and how that might be impacting our sex lives, I thought was really interesting because we don't talk enough about this, but when you look at some of the data on this demographic
Um you know people.
thirty and below, around that age.
The extreme outliers are spending eight to ten hours.
on their phones on social media and on the internet. And roughly
About
fifteen to twenty percent of young people describe their usage as almost constant, effectively scrolling during
All waking hours.
While they're eating, while they're in the bathroom and before they go to sleep. So I was wondering from a dopamine perspective.
If there's correlation between these like
Dopamogenic activities that are are now like hijacking our lives, whether it's short form videos on social media, whether it's pornography or food.
Whether it's having an impact on what then happens in the bedroom and our performance in the bedroom.
If you think about what you need to have good sex is you need to be sort of in the mind space for sex. And if you're constantly like hijacked by all these other things, you're never like really getting in the mood, right? You're just like, oh, I'm gonna be turned on when I see my partner.
And we're gonna have sex and it's gonna be over. And it's just really a mechanical thing at that point, right? You're not actually you're just trying to get an orgasm. You're not actually like
Spending the time to enjoy and to experience that fully because you're just so like you're just your brain is always doing something else, right? Because people are constantly scrolling, like every sixty seconds there's a new video, there's something else. And so it's really hard to focus. And so that can translate to the bedroom where you're like
You're having sex, but your brain is somewhere else, thinking about something else you saw, or something you have to do, or something you want to see, or something you want to look up, whatever it is, but you're not really in there in the moment. You're just going through the motions. And so I think that's really where the challenge is, is that people are becoming increasingly distractable.
I find it really hard I'm gonna be honest to have sex if I've had like a really, really busy day or if I'm really, really thinking about something.
I almost have to I have to like intentionally create quite a lot of space.
Exactly. In order to be able to
Be in the mood.
Yeah, be aroused, right? It takes
Like time and energy. I think I appreciate you for saying that because a lot of people think that men are just ready to go at any moment. And that's not fair, right? Because everyone needs time to be aroused. It's not just instant for everybody, especially when you have a lot of work stress or life stress or other things going on.
It's actually like you have to m make time and space for it.
Yeah, because as a man, you've got to get an erection. And I I I always think that an erection is a consequence, usually, especially when it comes to sex. And I'm not talking about morning glories here, but
An erection is a consequence of like a story. Mm-hmm. Use the word aroused. There's like a story in my head which makes me go, Oh, that's kinda hot.
Yeah.
You need something. You need some stimuli, right? You need to think about something, see something, smell something, feel something, right? You need to just be together and and sort of allow yourselves to be intimate before that sort of desire and arousal come together. And for me as well, it's not just touch.
Like that doesn't necessarily d for me it really is quite like a psychological thing. I was wondering if
This is
There's any data around this or
I mean, just even anecdotally, like people get aroused in very, very different ways, don't they?
Yeah, absolutely. I mean some people um are very like visual. So they you know, they see their partner and they get aroused very quickly. Basically when you get aroused, you need to be in a parasympathetic nervous system state. So in order to get nervous, you need to be
In this state, which is like rest and digest. So if you're stressed, if you're thinking about other things, if you're essentially on the go, you are not allowing your nervous system to calm down. And so for some people, that's a whole bunch of different things. Some people can switch more easily into that state, and some people need more of like uh, you know, to feel
Yeah either.
mentally stimulated or they need to have some associations, like it might be like they need a certain scent, they need to like relax their body, they need to like go take a bath, whatever it is, but some people need different things. And knowing what that is for your partner is super important, right? Because then you can incorporate that.
Everything is scheduled in our lives, right? And then you're like, oh, but I now sex is like the last thing on the schedule, right? And like I don't even think about it. Like, oh, okay, now yeah, maybe let's have sex. But it's like if you actually make time to be intimate, allow yourself to be in that brain space, be together.
That's when it can actually happen, especially when you've been in a long term relationship, it doesn't come as easily, like spontaneously, which we call spontaneous desire. It it comes more of as a response to these other cues that allow you to feel desire and to feel aroused.
Hm.
I also think I was thinking about a previous relationship I had where
On the days where I'd been like working very hard and I was like tired or stressed or I'd been travelling and I was jet lagged.
I think there was also
Because I didn't see this person often. There was also an expectation that when I did see them we were gonna have sex. And
Um
that was that was very hard because actually the expectation of it stressed me out more. Yeah. And that can happen, like y if it becomes the the elephant in the room.
it can become a little bit heavy, which then is sort of counterproductive to performance. And this is, you know, sort of a variation on performance anxiety. So
When you feel like you have to perform on demand and maybe you're worried it might not happen, it creates this vicious loop, right? So you may maybe you have trouble with an erection, or maybe it's like I'm expected to have sex, but I really can't get there mentally. Whatever it is, now you're thinking about that, right? And then you're with your partner, and you're like, Oh my God, am I gonna have trouble? You're not enjoying the pleasurable sensations or the visual.
Or like feeling each other. You are literally thinking in your own head about how you're gonna respond. And then that anxiety.
makes it so that you can't get an erection or you can't be aroused. And so now you're like anxious and you're not focused. You're just almost spectatoring. You're just watching yourself have sex. You're not actually like in the moment. So then you know you have a negative outcome because you're when you're stressed, your sympathetic nervous system is on, right? You can't really get an erection or you can't really
get aroused. And so then you're like, Oh man, now I've let my partner down. Now I haven't performed which I hate that word, but like perform the way I should or sh or I'm expected to, and now something's wrong with me. And now that just keeps going in a vicious cycle.
Have you spoken to people that have experienced this? Absolutely.
It's common.
Very common. I tell people anytime you have problems in the bedroom, it stays with you. So how do you break the cycle?
Yeah, so I tell people when you're with your partner, take the pressure off
um penetration. Just explore each other's body. Do what's called like sensate focus. Like explore the rest of your body. Figure out other erogenous zones, other things that can turn you guys both on that don't involve erections and penetration.
And then once you realize you're focused on that, you're really like exploring, enjoying, playing, you're having a good time, and you're not thinking about your erection, now you'll notice, oh, the erection just comes, right? And then once you get to that point, then you can start even touching genitals, but still hold off on penetration. And then after you realize like the genitals are
you know, it's always working the way I want it to, and I'm not s thinking about it, I'm not stressed. Then finally you can then introduce penetrative sex again. So it's just sort of like a gradiated sort of slow advance into
um you know having sex again, but now kind of focusing on being more present and mindful and enjoying those sensations.
We'll be able to do that.
But there's also a big contingent of people that
Just
Avoid sex.
Mm-hmm.
It's
It's a sore subject in their relationship.

both partners don't know how to communicate, they haven't got the tools to talk about these kind of things openly and honestly.
Do you see that a lot as well? Absolutely. I mean, so I think it's really sad. I see people come in and they're like I ask every patient, like are you s are you having sex? Why not? Right? Because sometimes they'll say no and most doctors are okay.
But I always say why not? Right? Why are you not having sex? Is it because you're having an issue? Is it because you're having pain? What's going on, right? And oftentimes I'll hear from people that
My partner's just not into it and I just sort of gave up.
And I'm just we just don't have sex anymore. You know, for me that's a red flag because
Sex is
A huge important part of our lives. It is a way we connect with another human being. It's also telling that things are working really well. So when you have good sexual function, meaning you get interaction well or you get aroused well and you have a good orgasm and everything feels good, that tells me that hey, you've got great blood flow to your genitals.
Your nerves are working great, your hormones are sending signals, like all these things are good, right? But also
Секс і морга секс. І also
Helps you live longer.
So there's been a a few studies looking at sex and longevity. And when you look at people who have sex once a week compared to people who have sex once a year, the difference in all cause mortality is forty nine percent.
They live forty nine percent longer than people who only have sex once a year. Forty nine percent longer. Yeah.
Yeah.
Be right back. No judgment. So and but even if you're doing like less than once a week, but more than once a year, it still improves your longevity. There was actually an interesting study in 1997, I think it was, where they looked at the number of orgasms men had. And they found that men who had for every hundred orgasms men had,
They lived like thirteen percent longer.
They had a 13% increase in life expectancy. And so it it was really interesting to me to just just showing you that like this is not just an active pleasure and fun. It is, obviously, but it's much more than that because people who are having sex clearly have better health.
And there this connection with people, I mean, loneliness is a big
Issue right now. The WHO made loneliness like an epidemic. So they've said that loneliness is as bad as having like 15 cigarettes.
And so
Sex is a way to feel connected to another human being. On that data, uh we're we're not saying that it's the sex itself that's causing people to live longer. I guess it's it's hard to establish causation in terms of Yeah, it's not necessarily sex, but they've looked at like they try to control for other things like age and comorbidities and all these studies. And um it's also like
Sex is a cardiovascular workout, right? For many people as a cardiovascular workout, you are getting a ph physical physical activity with your partner. Um, you are increasing your heart rate. You are doing these things that are also good for your body. And the fact that you're able to have sex.
Right, tells me a lot about it, right? You're you're able to hold a certain position, you're able to um maintain this level of activity without getting short of breath, right? Like these are things that having sex, you know, keeps you
Healthy to some degree. If I want to make sure that I have great sex, what are some of the foundational things that I need to be thinking of in terms of my lifestyle?
Yeah, so there's four main pillars of sexual health. And I like to think of it like your sexual health is your house, and these pillars are the foundation. And if you don't have the foundation, it doesn't matter what else you do. Um you can try to do everything else to patch up your house, but it's always gonna break again because the foundation's not there.
So
You've got fuel.
And fuel is how you nourish your body. A lot of the data I'm gonna talk about is about men because there's just a lot more data on men in sexual health. But that doesn't mean that the same things don't apply to women, there's just less d less robust data on it.
So when you talk about fuel, the Mediterranean diet is the most studied diet. So including things like
Healthy fats like avocados.
Leafy greens, nuts, and we're gonna talk about nuts in a little more detail. These things are super helpful. And obviously having lean proteins, having uh an abundance of fruits, which we're gonna talk about as well. There's a study called the Health Professionals follow up study. They look at twenty thousand men, and they saw that men who adhered to a Mediterranean diet
had a twenty two percent lower risk of erectile dysfunction.
So what specific things in that diet, right? People are like, What are the super foods I need to have? Almonds are great, but pistachios, they actually did a study on pistachios where they looked at a hundred grams of pistachios, guys eat a hundred grams of pistachios every day, and they saw decrease in erectile dysfunction. So pistachio nuts will make my
Penis harder.
I mean so I always say like I don't love to talk about superfoods because then people like oh I just gotta eat pistachio and it's all good, right? It's it's part of a whole diet. But certainly having nuts because they have great omega threes, they have healthy fats, these are the reasons that they they really sort of improve diet.
Fruit, um anything that has sort of flavonoids, so like colorful fruit, like blueberries, citrus fruits, um, lycopene, which is red fruits, all these things improve antioxidants and also have been shown to reduce the incidence of erectile dysfunction. So having stronger erections. Specifically, blueberries actually came out to have
I think something around twenty percent also improvement in erectile function when you're eating.
blueberries regularly. So lots of I think things in the diet that can be helpful. Also fiber is one that we don't talk about enough. When you
eat fiber in your gut, it converts to short chain fatty acids. These short chain fatty acids then sort of have these endothela protective mechanisms. They protect the blood vessels. They make them healthier. And so when your blood vessels are healthy, you get better metabolic health. So you get
Less diabetes, less high blood pressure, less high cholesterol, and these all of these things together improve erectile function. So I think making sure that you meet the criteria for fiber, which is thirty eight grams for men, twenty-five grams for women, um, is really, really important.
And then obviously.
Managing your calories in a maintenance, right? Because we don't want to gain weight, because excess adipose tissue or excess fat also puts you at higher risk for
Erectile dysfunction and other sexual dysfunctions.
Next we have uh strength.
Alright.
Yeah.
So there's strength where we think about cardiovascular and resistance exercise, but there's also pelvic floor strength. So we'll start with cardiovascular exercise.
The one study that's quoted very often is 150 minutes of exercise, of cardiovascular exercise, moderate intensity.
When you look at the improvement in erectile function scores.
It is the same amount of improvement as you would see when you take a medication like Viagra.
So literally if you do one hundred fifty minutes a week, you are getting the same improvement as you could get with a medication, potentially. And so I tell people like look, if you don't wanna take a pill, this is a great way to improve sexual function. Now you might say, Okay, well
I you know, maybe you're listening and you have heart issues and you can't really do moderate intensity exercise. They actually looked at that too. So there was a group where they looked at men who had
heart disease and they weren't really able to do moderate intensity exercise. So they did like a five minute warm up, they did twenty minutes of walking and five minutes of a cool down.
And with this supervised protocol, they still improved erectile function by seventy percent. So it's
Oh, relative to where you're starting. But any sort of cardiovascular exercise that's above what you are capable like what you're doing now is going to improve sexual function, particularly erectile function,'cause it's gonna improve blood flow to the genitals, gonna improve blood flow to the penis, it's gonna improve blood flow to the clitoris for women. So
That's where cardiovascular exercise is so, so important. In terms of resistance exercise, now these little weights are probably not sufficient for doing much, especially for men, in terms of improving um muscular health. But obviously, we're not gonna bring like really heavy weights to the table here. So one, we know that resistance training is
Significantly correlated with testosterone. So when you do heavy resistance training of your large muscle groups, so like your lower extremities, your glutes, you're doing like Olympic deadlifts, squats, that sort of stuff, you actually see improvements in testosterone.
Now it's not gonna be like you do it once and you get this sustained improvement, but continuous sort of regular resistance exercise improves testosterone.
There's also data that shows that when men do resistance exercise to maintain muscle mass. So we know that muscle mass
decreases about seven percent every decade of life after around forty. When you maintain it through resistance exercise, they're three times less likely to have erectile dysfunction. Oh really? Yeah, so they maintain a rectile function, they maintain sexual desire, they maintain um satisfaction with sex. I read a quote yesterday that said muscle is medicine.
And I thought that's really true.
based on everything I've learnt on this podcast around, you know, like
glucose control and
And testosterone and
Now you're telling me about
Your sex life.
Yeah.
It is. I think people push back because they think, like, why should I have to go to the gym? But our lives have changed. We sit at a computer or we sit at podcasts or we sit all the time. We're not moving, we're not doing manual labor, which is what a lot of our historic history is, right? Doing manual labor, farming, doing things outside, being
physical and we're meant to be physical. We're meant to lift heavy things. We're meant to move our bodies and we're just doing less and less of it.
So I think it's so important. Um the other thing is we want to prevent sarcopia. So sarcopenia is muscle loss.
And when you have muscle loss
Um that also increases your risk of having sexual dysfunction. What about the pelvic floor? Like how does that come into this story of the floor. Oh yeah, so we missed that part.
Um the pelvic floor.
Here's your pelvis, right? It's this bony structure where all your organs live. This is a female. So I'm taking out the uh internal structures, which is the uterus, the rectum, and the bladder. And so that's what sits inside the pelvis. And so you can see this.
bowl of muscles here, right? And you can see them from the inside and you could see them from the outside. That's your anus, and in this person there's a vagina, so that's the hole for the vagina. So you can see that your anus and your vagina run through the pelvic floor and in men your penis runs through the pelvic floor.
And so this show you on this model. In this model, you can see they kind of show you the muscles here on the side.
Yeah. So these are your pelvic floor muscles that are around.
The penis.
And their anus.
Okay. Okay. These structures are very important for a variety of things.
Um they attach to your bony landmarks here, your hips.
Your sacrum, your pubic symphysis, they attach to all these.
And they sort of just work in the background for most people.
How they affect your sexual function is when you orgasm.
These muscles contract and
and release at a at a rhythmic contraction of 0.8 seconds. And so you may feel that, right? There's like this pulsing feeling when you orgasm. And that's these muscles sort of doing that. And when men ejaculate, the pelvic floor muscles are contracting to help shoot the ejaculate out.
They squeeze when you need to keep things in, so they'll keep urine in, they'll keep um
Your stool in and they relax when you need to pee and when you need to defecate. So when you try to hold a wee
You're like
Tightening your pelvic fluid. Correct. Correct. But these are also responsive to stress. So just like people get TMJ, where they get tense in their jaw because they are stressed and they like sleep at night and they clench up their jaw. They don't really know they're doing it. The same thing can happen. These muscles can get very
tight or they can get misaligned. So so you have a hip injury or so you have a back injury, the muscles can compensate by tightening up. And so a lot of people unknowingly have
tension in these muscles. And it can present in a multiple different ways. It can present with back pain. It can present with d constipation. It can present with urgency frequency. Cause remember your bladder is sitting
Right here, on top of these muscles. So when the muscles are tense, your bladder is
Feeling
Like there's something something activating it. And so it's like, Oh man, I gotta pee. That means I have to pee. This tension is telling my bladder I have to pee, but it's really that your bladder's not that full. It's that these muscles are telling you to do that. You can also have trouble peeing because you can see that your urethra goes through here. And if the muscles are really tight, sometimes it can be difficult to urinate because it clenches off the pee.
And then with sex.
It can cause pain.
if they're really tight, it can prevent blood from getting to the genital organs. So for men, they can have erectile dysfunction. For women, they can have difficulty getting orgasms or difficulty getting arousal because they're not getting blood flow to the clitoris.
Sometimes it can also cause premature ejaculation in men. And so these muscles are so important. And all we hear about is Kegels. And Kegels are exercises to strengthen these muscles. But Kegels are good when you have a normal
pelvic floor, meaning like there's no tension, it's completely normal, it's acting normal, you're not having any symptoms at all. But if you have any of the symptoms I talked about, doing ketos might make it worse because you're now tightening muscles that are already tight.
We also talk about pelvic floor relaxation, doing exercise to specifically relax these muscles. So that can be diaphragmatic breathing.
that can be doing like a figure four stretch.
That can be doing happy baby pose, which are yoga poses, or child's pose. All these things can sort of stretch and lengthen these muscles so they can learn to relax again. Now, when it's really bad, you have to go see a pelvic floor physical therapist who can really work with you to identify which of the muscles are maybe more dysfunctional and maybe work specifically on those.
Um but I think it's it's so important it's under
Evaluated under discussed when it comes to sexual function. It's a hugely important part of.
Sexual function.
How many people are struggling with these issues, s specifically the like erectile dysfunction issues?
And what age are they? Yeah. So it starts early. I think there's always been a sort of a disconnect where we think young guys don't have this, or if they have it, it's all in their head. That's not necessarily true. Many young men do develop erectile dysfunction because of biologic factors. But the data is really robust on older guys. So above the age of fifty.
We see fifty two percent of men having erectile dysfunction, which is fifty two percent. Yeah.
And it goes up
Ten percent every decade. So sixty percent of sixty year olds, seventy percent of seventy year olds. So erectile dysfunction continues to worsen. This happens because one, you know
Our blood vessels get older, they get stiffer, they're not functioning as well as they should. And we're seeing also a rise in all these other comorbid conditions like diabetes, cholesterol, high blood pressure, all these affect how healthy your blood vessels are. And so with these, they see the problem in their penis, or in in women's case in their clitoris, before they see
heart disease or b strokes or brain issues or dementia.
I think this is worth pausing on, which is
A
A rectile dysfunction problem is a s often a symptom of a cardiovascular
Issue, right? Yeah, we call it a canary in a coal mine. So it is like telling you that something bad is coming.
So the data would support that when you have erectile dysfunction, if it's because of an organic reason, right, not psychogenic, but most people I think have a combination of both, that within three to five years you will start developing issues with your heart.
And so it precedes those issues, and if seven years later, fourteen percent of those guys will have a heart attack.
And so it's really an opportunity. Sexual problems are an opportunity to look inside, to figure out what's going on, and to investigate and to change your life. And when you say erectile dysfunction, we should probably define what that means. Because there's gonna be a lot of guys sitting at home now thinking, Oh my God, like
My penis is a bit softer than usual. Yeah. So erectile dysfunction is defined as the inability to maintain an erection that's sufficient for intercourse. So you can get an erection, but it goes away before you ejaculate or climax. And so that's typically I think it's really important to differentiate that from something like premature ejaculation.
Where you climax too soon. So you ejaculate before you're want to. Um, but that doesn't mean that you have a problem maintaining your erection. That's a whole different
Process.
I've got a friend.
People are gonna think I'm talking about myself, because I use that phrase a lot. I've got I've got a friend. He's um he's almost forty years old. And
I've heard him say
on several occasions that he's lost his erection during sex.
Is that a rectile dysfunction? But what if he can

What's important.
Well, so that's more multifactorial, right? So I think
If you lose it once or twice, right, most guys will have an issue where they lose an erection at some point in their life. I think the important thing is not to catastrophize. It's a problem when it becomes a routine. Now, if someone is telling me, hey, I can watch porn and maintain my erection, but I can't with a partner, there's multiple different reasons for that that could be at play.
One is that there's no pressure, right? You're by yourself, you're watching porn, there's no pressure of performance, there's no anxiety of performance, so that may be part of it.
Other thing may be that that level of arousal that you're getting from porn, if you're watching like let's say the same kind of porn every time, you're masturbating the same way every time, maybe using a firm grip, or some people will masturbate like uh facing the bed or um you know, uh against hard objects. And so that against hard objects.
Yeah, like the their fist or something. And so that um can't be replicated by a person.
Right, you can't replicate those behaviors by a vagina or a mouth. If you become habituated to a certain thing that turns you on, and that's the only thing that really gets you going, and that's that's something that you can't really get with your partner, then it will be difficult to reach the level of arousal that you need to get an erection.
Okay, so two questions then. So
That doesn't count as erectile dysfunction if you can get an erection watching corn but can't get it with your partner. Yeah, it may or may not be. So if you wake up with your morning erection
That's great. That's a sign. That's when there's nothing else at play, right? You are just that tells me that your body's functioning well. You've got good blood flow, good um good hormones working, got a good amount of testosterone, and your nerves are working well and you're getting a good morning erection. Now morning erections or nighttime erections are normal.
and they're healthy. So when you're a young boy, you get actually like erections three to five times a night and they can last up to forty minutes long. So you can spend a lot of your night
With an erection. When you get older, like in your forties, that drops to about half the time. So maybe your erections are a little shorter, that they m maybe max out at thirty minutes, but sometimes they're shorter. You should still be getting three to five erections a night. You won't know all of these, but typically you'll wake up with a morning erection. And so if you're not getting morning erections, that tells me that hey
There's something going on that we should address.
And on your other point about
how you masturbate impacting your sex life.
I
imagine that applies to men and women. Absolutely. And are are you saying that if there's a particular way you get yourself off in private
that is very hard for the other person to replicate. You might become desensitized.
You might just get habituated. I don't think desensitized, but habituated is like you might just your body just might respond really well to that particular stimulation. Now that's not inherently a bad thing, right? If that's
What gets you off and you and your partner are okay with you doing that together, right? You may mutually masturbate together and that's fun for you and you guys enjoy it. There's no problem with it. It's just knowing what's going on, right? And sort of deciding like, okay, if this is a problem, let me try to diversify.
what I do during my solo sex period. So let me take a little break and kind of uh try something, you know, just not masturbate for a little while and come back to it later. The fact that we get an erection in the morning, does that mean that's
We're supposed to have sex in the morning from like an evolutionary perspective. Not necessarily. It's just it's the way your body releases testosterone is one of the reasons this happens, is overnight your body is making more testosterone. That's when your body sort of cr has nocturnal testosterone production, and so it's highest in the morning, which is why very often you get a morning erection.
And you know, it just means that some people will have more desire also in the morning, because testosterone is a hormone of desire. Is it the same for women?
Yeah. So women um women also have
Nocturnal clitoral tumescence.
Same sort of pattern and they won't necessarily know it, right? Because they can't visualize it. But you know, you can some women may know sort of feel that pelvic congestion or like feeling like there's a bunch of like blood flow in the area, but most will not, and that's okay. But your body protects itself. So you've heard the term use it or lose it, right? People are like
Your body's protecting itself. You don't have to have sex. If your body is healthy, it will do this all night to keep your genitals healthy.
It will make sure that your genitals are getting blood flow, even if you're not having sex. But if you stop having those nighttime erections, now is it becomes more of a problem because over time, say you stop having erections or chlorotumes for months, years, right? And then there's no blood flow to those areas.
Over time and actually I can show you here.
This is a

Pelvic model.
And here this
This purple thing here is called the corpo cavernosa. And this is like a really nice spongy tissue that fills with blood. And when it fills with blood, it expands and lengthens. And then um the blood stays there until you're done with your stimulation and then it goes back.
And so if there's no healthy, fresh blood getting to the penis on a regular basis, either through nighttime erections or through sex with your partner, then you will get fibrosis of these tissues. That means you're a little scar in the t in the tissues. And then over time you might see some shrinkage of the penis.
And so it is really important to maintain also good health of these tissues. And the same goes for women with their clitoris, because it's the same type of tissue. In fact, if you look at the clitoris, it is
This is the part that you see. We don't we don't have a clutterist, do we?
This is a uterus.

You're gonna keep that in. Actually I can show you here. Does this come back?
Okay, yeah, this is good. This is good. They told me it was glitters.
That's a little bit of a. That's uh Yeah. Okay.
Yeah.
You're not gonna live that one down. You asked the team where the glitter is. Did you ask the team where the glitter is? Well I'm I'm worried about who said that too. Um okay. So
So let's talk about the female anatomy. This is a pelvic model. And here um you can see this is the vagina. This is the urethra where you pee from. This is your labia menora. And you can't see the labia majora, but they would be out here, right? So inner lips, outer lips. Now
This up here is your clitoral glands. So it's the same as the glands of the penis. And so this is all you see, right? It also has a little covering, which you can't see here. Just like men have foreskin, women have a clitoral hood that covers the the head of the pe the clitoris. And so when you look at the clitoris on the inside,
Which we can't see perfectly here, but I'm gonna just take this off.
Um it actually
Goes all the way back.
Like this. So if you were to feel from the vagina from the vaginal side, it would be at the very top of the vagina, going all the way back.
These are the these blue are the clitoral
Bulbs here.
Um so and these are the legs.
Yeah.
And so this is
Essentially.
The homologue of the penis. So if I take the penis and we don't have a uh like a full model here. What does homologues mean so homologues means that they're essentially the same structure. They're made from the same cells, but they're in the male and the female. So here you can see this is
If this is your penis.
This is what you see up to here. This is the bone. This is your fat up here.
And then here it goes deep into the pelvis.
And so here's your testicles, right? And so below the testicles, this area of the perineum, you uh also have penile tissue sort of that you can palpate from this side.
Um that's coming all the way down. And if you had sort of a three D model, you'd see that it forks out just like the cleric does. So it is
Clitoral stimulation feel like.
Stimulating someone's tip of their penis. Exactly. And so you could think if someone just stimulated the head of the penis.
They uh
It would be fine, it'll be nice, but it's probably better if you stimulate
more of the clitoris or more of the penis. That's why you could stimulate obviously the external the the clitoris, but you can also stimulate from the inside. And some people are more responsive to that than others. What you hear of is like the G spot or the G zone, right? And the G spot or G zone is if you were to go
in the inside of the vagina at the top side, which I can't really stick this in here, but it would be about two centimeters in at the top. And that's because that's an area where there's a lot of nerves endings.
One, you can palpate the clitoris at
Basically throughout the entire anterior wall, but also there's the skeins glands, which are these glands that sit underneath the urethra, and they're the homologue of the male prostate.
And so they're right there and then the vagina is there. And so that's an area that can be very enjoyable to stimulate. It's not necessarily always gonna lead to orgasm because some people have different sort of
distance between the clitoral body and the vagina. So some people who have less distance may feel it better than some that don't. Uh but ultimately um that's why that area is so sensitive for many women. On this point of um morning erections I was thinking
Much of the reason why I've always been cautious of having sex in the morning, or even like masturbating in the morning or anything like that.
is I'm worried that it will cause a dopamine crash which will make me feel lazy and lethargic.
Well, so when you think about what happens during an orgasm is you have this release of dopamine and then you your prolactin goes up and sort of like everything calms down. Now some people feel
A sense of clarity. They call it post-knot clarity, right? They feel clear, they feel like motivated to do stuff, they feel uh excited to go do something else, and they sort of move on from what they're doing. There's some people who feel post-coidal dysphoria. They actually feel sad or they feel depressed after they orgasm. And we don't know exactly why this happens, but it is because of this dramatic change.
change in sort of neurochemical signaling in the brain. And for those people who have it, it can be days where they sort of like feel bad. It can be hours where they feel sad. And so it can be really traumatic.

So pillar two, what's pillar two of the
Four pillars of men's sexual health. We talked about strength. Okay, so we did strength, we did fuel.
What's pillar three? Pillar three is environment. So we can start with the easy stuff.
And that's stress, right? Everyone knows stress is bad. But I think the thing is people just think like, uh, I'll just I'll deal with it. Everyone's stressed. Like what's what's normal to be stressed. If you are chronically stressed, that means your cortisol is raised all the time, which is dampening your testosterone.
Which is also keeping you in the sympathetic state, and you just cannot get in your mind space and in the nervous system place to actually have.
Facts.
So that's super important. And I think you know, there's lots of different ways to alleviate stress. You gotta figure out what works for you.
Um, for some people using a stress ball even just at work. And I think part of it you can actually incorporate some intimacy. There's uh some evidence, you know, the Gotmans have been on your podcast doing a twenty second hug. So sta standing with your partner or loved one and hugging for twenty seconds on your own like independent gravity.
Actually helps alleviate stress and break sort of a stress loop. Doing a six second kiss with your partner. And so it seems like six seconds no big deal, but actually if you time it's like hmm, if I'm just doing a kiss and I'm not like actually it's a little bit longer than normal. And so these sort of small things can help alleviate stress. Any type of movement.
can be really beneficial. The other thing is just having like
interactions with people. And so that's where we're becoming more isolated, but even just like talking to the barista or talking to someone at the grocery store. This again tells your brain that you're in a safe space. Like you're talking to someone, you're having a normal social interaction.
So and then being creative. And we've been trying to work with this, uh work on this for with our kids because there's so much external stimuli all the time, right? They want to play video games, they want to watch TV, they wanna play sports. But we want them to be bored and be creative. Like come up with creative ideas to keep themselves
uh interested and engaged in a different way. So I think that's so so important.
Outside of stress, sleep, um sleep.
Is there's just so much abundance of data on how sleep affects hormonal health. They looked at data on men sleeping five hours a night versus eight hours a night. So you take the same guy and he sleeps eight hours and you you know do a five five hours for a little few days, his test for a week, his testosterone drops by fifteen percent.
Um.
That's like as much testosterone drop as would happen with ten years of life.
And do you know how long they did that for? It was short, it was like a week. So a week of sleep deprivation will will tank your testosterone.
And sleep apnea is another one that I think people one don't realize they have, and two, don't realize that fixing it could actually improve their hormonal health. Wait, so does this mean that people who have chronically bad sleep probably have low testosterone? Probably, yeah. And what is the symptoms of low testosterone?
So low testosterone is there's sometimes very vague. So it can be fatigue, it can be brain fog, it can be depression, it can be low desire, it can be erectile dysfunction. That's what people always think it's just erectile dysfunction, but it's this whole constellation of symptoms. It can also be increased fat mass, decreased muscle mass.
So all of these things can happen because we have testosterone receptors all over our body. We have them in our brain, we have them in our muscle, we have them in our bone, and these can all have really serious consequences when it's low.
When you have sleep apnea and how you know you have sleep apnea is uh your partner might tell you that you're like waking up in the middle of the night like ch gasping for air. If you have one really easy way to check is take a
a measuring tape and measure your neck circumference. If it's more than seventeen inches for a guy or sixteen inches for a female, it means it's very likely that you may have sleep apnea.
And that's because when you have excess mass basically here, it's compressing your airway and can make it difficult to get air into your um into your body.
When you improve sleep apnea, we've seen improvements in testosterone as high as two hundred nanograms per deciliter. So huge jumps in testosterone after fixing sleep apnea. And the same goes for other sleep disorders, although the data is not as
Abundant.
Sleep is so important.
Then we talk about what's in your environment. So

Okay.
So
You get a g bottle of water.
So many of my patients actually they only buy like cases of plastic bottled water. Once in a while a plastic bott bottled water, like don't stress yourself out. This goes back to stress. People get really stressed like what's in my environment, what am I drinking, what am I eating? Like do what you can control. So
Plastic water bottles have things like phthalates and BPAs, which can affect hormonal health. They can mimic estrogen, they can reduce the production of testosterone based on these mechanisms. Also things like
plastics in the environment, PFAS, so the things like non stick cookware, all those things can affect hormone health. Now how do you sort of protect yourself, right? I tell people again, don't stress, there's only so much you can control. So like I love that we're dr not drinking out of plastic. If you have to drink out of plastic because you're at an event or whatever,
Try to make sure it's not a um a warm bottle so it hasn't been like sitting in the sun for hours and hours and hours because as it gets warm, it releases more microplastics and more chemicals into the water.
When you're eating food, if you are eating out of say you get takeout, put it on a plate and warm it up. Don't ever warm up that plastic. And when you store food,
In the fridge, put it in a glass container or a metal container. But don't ever leave the food in the plastic and put it in the fridge. These are simple things you can control. You could also limit sort of your exposure to dust because dust has microplastics. You can try to wear more cotton fabrics, less synthetic fabrics, because they shed less microplastics.
But again, I think do what you can do, but don't let the stress of these chemicals.
Like derail you because stress is not helping either.
And h how much of a difference does
You know.
Microplastics make on my hormonal health. Is it really a big
Big deal. I think it depends. It's all dose dependent, right? So we're all exposed. Like if you look at the data, like people are, you know, consuming quite a bit of microplastics and we're seeing them actually even in testicles, in penis, uh tissue samples, like they're in our bodies. And so I think that
It's definitely playing a role how much we don't know yet. We just know that there are mechanisms and we know that they do affect
hormonal health.
And so do the best you can. Do you and your family drink out of plastic bottles?
No, we drink we we have like metal water bottles for the kids and myself and what about non stick pans. We buy ceramic.
We we do our best to like avoid those as much as possible. So the other thing's the company you keep.
I think we don't talk about this enough and we talk about it in terms of business, like you wanna keep people who are successful around you, you wanna keep people who can help you, but it also plays a role in your sexual environment, right? So my husband is in these groups with a bunch of other male physicians.
And there's a lot of discussion about how they never have sex anymore. And they're all just like oh yeah, this is just like normal. Like we're getting older, our partners don't want to have sex, it's so frustrating. And there's a lot of discussion about this. And and it's it's almost like
Oh, that's okay. Like that's just normal. Right. They're normalizing this experience where that sex has not become a priority because life is so stressful, things are so crazy. Maybe you're having relationship discord. So it absolutely plays a role. And there's actually some evidence that it may help you make better choices. So there's one study where they looked at
I think it was like fifty thousand people and they um did an intervention where they tried to encourage these people to surround themselves with positive influences that were like, have safe sex and avoid negative influences. And they saw that four that these people had an increase in
Like sexual positive behaviour, so like safe sex practices by forty six percent.
So just by changing who they spent their time with, they saw this major difference in how they approached their sex lives.
Okay, so if your friends are very pessimistic about sex and they're not having it and they're complaining about it, that's

Contagious.
Yeah, and I think it it extrapolates to everything what kind of relationships you're you're in, how do they view their relationship with their partner? Is it a priority? Do they make it a priority? Right? Or are they just busy doing their own thing and they're just like living in parallel lives. They're doing their own thing, you're doing your own thing, you never really spend time with your partner, and then when you go hang out with your friends.
you're like, Oh God, I'm so glad to get away and you're not like talking about
how much you enjoy your partner. People tend to talk negatively, right? They wanna like sort of like vent. And so when you have people who don't make that a part of their lives, it also affects you. They value their partner and they talk about them in a positive way.
That's a a great thing to say, like, okay, this is the right kind of person I want because I want to value my partner too. And I don't want that to rub off on me because it absolutely does.
And the other thing you said in this category of environmental stuff is things like pornography consumption. Is it possible to consume too much porn?
So it's not the amount of porn that you watch. It is the sort of the way you feel about it.
Ma many people watch porn for a variety of different reasons. Most often it's for pleasure and enjoyment. But there's some people who watch porn because they want to
get away from negative feelings, right? This is giving them dopamine and they're using it as a way to just feel better in the moment. And so that become that can become a compulsion where they're watching porn and it's like giving them these positive feelings and they feel negative in life and they're going back to porn to sort of again have that compulsion to watch porn again.
But that's a small subset of people. The other thing is that there's a lot of negative discussion around porn, right? People are like porn is bad, it's dangerous, it's evil. And I think you know it's more nuanced than that. But if you feel
That porn is bad. Every time you watch porn, you feel negative, you feel bad about yourself. That's where we see people having the most dysfunction associated with it because they feel guilty. They could watch it once a year and they could feel super guilty about it and it could affect their sexual function. They could see themselves as a bad person, they could see themselves as
wrong or immoral. And that's really when it becomes an issue. If you are finding yourself either compulsively watching pornography and using it as a scapegoat, maybe time to reevaluate. Say, why am I doing this? How can I
switch this out for something else that makes me feel better that might be healthy, like exercise or
W going for walks or whatever that may be. And then if it's something that's really making you feel m like
bad or guilty because maybe that's how you were raised, maybe that's what you feel about morality, then yeah, maybe like you either need to work through that because
Porn is maybe something that you still want to watch at times, or you need to abstain, but usually those are it's very difficult to abstain for most people to abstain for prolonged periods of time. So I think it's it's something that you have to work through if you find yourself having these sort of feelings about pornography, or you're compulsively watching it.
But for the most people, it's adults, for most adults, it is fantasy. It's a place where you can experience, uh, see things that you may never do in real life that may be enjoyable, that are fun to watch, that around you to feel arousal. We see that when couples watch porn together, they are more likely to be more satisfied in their relationship.
And when there's a discord, like one person really doesn't like it or doesn't use it and the other one uses it a lot, that's where we see the problem.
porn consumption going to impact my intimacy.
With my partner.
So it depends. I think a lot of people watch it without an issue, right? They watch it in masturbate and I c ejaculate.
I'm not gonna then be able to ejaculate very quickly necessarily.
With my partner.
Yeah, so that obviously that is, you know, there's a refractory period after you ejaculate. Now when you're younger, that refractory period could be minutes. And when you're older, that can be a day and a half. And so we see that some people may struggle, especially if they're watching a lot of porn every single day.
And their refraction period is maybe a day, then they may actually really have trouble ejaculating with their partner because they've not given themselves that time.
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And the last one. The last of the four pillars. The last of the four pillars we talked a little bit about, it's called confidence.
And confidence is not like struting around like a peacock, like I know what I'm doing. It's confidence in knowledge and curiosity. So knowledge we talked about a little bit, understanding female anatomy. Like how do female bod aroused, right? What makes them aroused, where is the clitoris knowing some anatomy, and two.
Actually talking to your partner or paying attention to their cues. We that for some reason with sex, it's the only time that we just expect people to be mind readers. We just want you to know what I like and just go for it, right? And and then when it's not good, you're like, well, you just don't know what you're doing. And it's like it's it's wild to me that we actually
Never got taught how to talk about sex, how to bring it up with a partner, how to you know just explore and have fun with sex.
Maybe add a toy to the bedroom. So there's lots of different types of toys. This is a uh Vulva stimulator. So you put this on the outside so you can see that it would
In theory, if this was smaller, would stimulate the um the clitoris on the outside. It also can
Change in shape.
It'll vibrate, right? It'll have different stimulations that you can play around with and decide what you enjoy. So this one's run out of battery.
Um
They're brand new and they've not been used. I didn't say they had been very defensive, though. Um if my pinky finger here if my finger here is the clitoris. Yeah. I put it
On like the
Yeah.
And then it vibrates. Correct. And then the penis goes
Correct the whole thing. And there's another version of that. This is basically oop.
This is basically like the hole goes around the penis.
And that can go in and stimulate and vi vibrate. So you both feel the vibration and you both feel the stimulation.
I remember I was with um I had a partner and she she felt that sex toys were for older people.
Oh people.
And she's a
She was kind of against the use of them.
I've always been down.
I think it adds novelty and it's exciting and it just adds something new.
But she
Felt like
It was
Almost like giving up. Well, I mean look, I think I wonder why. I would I would if I she was here I'd ask her why do you think that?
What belief system do you have that's making you think that this is like not a good thing to use, right? We use technology in so many
Places in our lives, right? So why not introduce it in our sex lives. Are you going to become reliant on it, though, because it doesn't make it easier to get off with a sex toy? So they've actually looked at
a vibration and can you get desensitized to it. And the way they've looked at it is actually like construction workers where they're using those like vibration tools, right, to and and seeing if like their hands get desensitized. And what they've seen is yes for a short period of time
They do lose a little bit of sensation at their fingertips, but then it restores back to normal. And so it's not that you're gonna become desensitized forever, right? I think you brought up a great point with just adding novelty.
I think when
I say novelty, people are like, Oh my God, I need to role play in a different way or bring like some sort of BDSM or whatever into my sex life. And that's not exactly true. So when you think about sex, right, it's just like eating your favorite ice cream. Maybe you have vanilla ice cream, you know, three times a week and you enjoy it.
But if you start having mild ice cream every single day.
You're kinda bored with it, right? And the same goes for sex. Now having routine in sex, knowing what you like, um knowing what your partner likes, it can be very helpful.
But it also is nice to add novelty. So if you think about, you could extrapolate from the flow state. So when you are in a flow state for work, right? Things feel really almost effortless and you're just like in a zone.
You can also get into a sexual flow state. When you look at the flow state, you need things to be slightly challenging to get into the flow state. They can't be easy and they can't be so hard that you're gonna get frustrated, right? And so you need to add a slight challenge.
to your sexual encounter to get into that flow state. And that's when you start having really great sex, because you're like in you're so totally immersed, you're feeling great, and it's it's super fun. Right. So I think that's
Another part of being confident is being able to and confident to try new things and explore new things. And it can be as simple as like doing it in a different room, or maybe getting a pillow, or switching where your head position is. Like it can be so small.
But it can just add a little bit of
Uniquen and novelty and challenge.
Are there certain positions that are
going to increase the probability that my partner has an orgasm.
Yeah, so uh typically when the female partner is on top, she has more control over where she's getting stimulation um to the clitoris,'cause right, she can angle her body in such a way. So oftentimes that shows uh that
has uh higher orgasm rates. There's actually like this uh this technique called the coidal alignment technique where you sort of move in a rocking uh sort of a rocking motion so that um your pubic symphysis, so this bone right here
Um is sort of like rubbing against their clitoris, like this area, the skin here, is rubbing against the clitoris while you're penetrating and that has been shown to increase orgasm rate and pleasure.
Insect. So really it's about figuring out and trying different things and realizing like that, for example, that coil alignment technique is sort of difficult. Like it's not that easy and intuitive. And so you have to sort of play around with it and figure out like what is gonna work.
uh best and yeah, realizing it might not work. You might be like super awkward and be like, okay, like that's okay. Like it's not the end of the world if sex is not perfect every time because we're learning and we're playing and we're having fun.
And so I think that's really the key is like not letting yourself get so frustrated if something doesn't go exactly the way you envision it in your head.
I used to think that a woman orgasming was when this was when I was younger.
Um was when she squirted. Mm-hmm. So
Like that's what I thought it was. I thought an orgasm was squirting. Yeah, well, it you're probably not the only one to think that. And so squirting, not every woman squirts. So about forty percent of women squirt. Squirting is the emission of fluid at the time of orgasm. Um usually it's clear, colorless, and it can be quite voluminous.
Um, it's coming from the urethra, which is the peehole, essentially. And remember I talked about those skeins glands. Those skeins glands are the homolog of the male prostate, and they have a little bit of fluid in them too. Typically, when you have stimulation um and squirting, they will release fluid from
the bladder as well as the skeins glands that combines together and and it's emitted through through that. So it's not pee. The way they describe it, and there's been a lot of research on this. So there's people who say it's pee, there's people who say it's not. There's a couple studies. So one is they put dye into the bladder
And they took women who said they were squirters and they had them orgasm and they saw is there dye in the uh in the
fluid. And yeah, there was dying fluid. So it's coming fr it has to come from the bladder. The skein's glands only hold a small amount. But it's chemically different. It's usually clear, odorless, it doesn't smell like pee. And so there's some theories as to why that might be. It may be that um
when you're having sex, there's different hormonal signals that change the concentration of what's filtering through your kidneys so that it is a little bit different in composition. There's some theories that when there's more estrogen around that it may change, there may be some like um
fluid filling in the actual interstitia of the organs. Again, it's hard to say, but it's absolutely coming from
The urethra, which is connected to the bladder, as well as the steams glands. But I think like this this whole discussion about what it is, it doesn't matter. Like is it pleasurable? Are you enjoying it? Great. If you squirt and you enjoy it, great. If you don't, that doesn't mean that there's something wrong and that your partner hasn't orgasmed. The way to figure out if your partner orgasmed is you ask her.
Right? Either she tells you or you ask her. And sometimes it's obvious and sometimes it's not, but you know, you you've sort of
Figure it out.
There's three theories that emerged in my research about why women squirt from an evolutionary perspective. The first was that and these are just theories, they're not proven, um of course
The first is that squirting contains PSA and zinc, which are naturally antibacterial, and ejaculating these fluids during or after sex may have evolved to flush the urethra and prevent UTIs.
Um the logic being in a pre
an antibiotic world a woman who could flush bacteria out of her system after mating was more likely to stay healthy and reproduce. That's one theory. The other reason I want to talk about that really quickly. So th that's a really interesting theory. So one, the reason they emit PSA is because
Gain's glands are the homologue of the prostate.
So the prostate makes PSA, which is prostate specific antigen. So this point, this word homologue again. Yeah, it's a so basically the prostate in the male, the same tissue when they're an embryo, becomes a prostate in the male and becomes a skeins glands in the female. So that's why it's emitting PSA. That is an interesting theory because there are a subset of women who get UTIs after sex.
Not everybody.
But some do, and it's it's not because of the ejaculate or because of the male harboring some bacteria, it's because of the actual thrusting of the penis. It's taking bacteria from the outside and making it more easy for it to go through the urethra into the bladder. And women have a short urethra. And so I want just to debunk that myth that it's like you're getting it from your partner.
partner or there's something wrong with you, it is literally just anatomy. And so some women do get more UTIs after sex.
And so that is an interesting theory because maybe that's true. I don't know. The second theory was in ancient ancestors the hormonal surge during orgasm and ejaculation actually triggered the release of an egg.
Humans evolved to ovulate on a cycle now, but we kept the plumbing.
And the neurohormonal reflex. It's a happy accident, a biological vestige that no longer serves its original reproductip, but remains because it isn't harmful for survival.
Interesting. I mean there is some thought that maybe orgasming um
Is it spasms orgasm help with fertility, but it's not really
uh robust.
And the last one kind of matches what you just said there, which is the make selection theory. The intense pleasure and psychological response of squirting or or or orgasm act as a reward system. It incentivizes women to seek out specific partners who provide high levels of s stimulation, potentially signaling a better genetic compatibility or a more
Attentive.
Mayo.
Which would help with the survival of of offspring.
Maybe that makes sense.
Forty percent of women squirt.
Yeah.
So the other thing is obviously a lot of sex is focused on genitals.
But there's a whole body of erogenous zones, right? Almost
almost your entire body can be an erogenous zone. We talked a little bit about it when we talked about sensate focus, right? You can explore, you can find areas that people find the erogenous. So when you looked at data next
Nipples.
Lips.
But
Inner thighs, all these areas are considered erogenous by most most people, regardless of their um sexual orientation, regardless of their cultural upbringing, it seems to be pretty universal. There's actually a a famous paper about non genital orgasms and like how people orgasm without any genital stimulation. So
Lip orgasms, anal sex orgasms.
Yeah, it it's been documented, absolutely. And and so it's um ni and nipple orgasms, there's a whole variety of ways. If even like women have had orgasms during childbirth, like there's there have been these documented ways to orgasm and it's because these areas can be very erogenous. And sometimes stimulating multiple areas can like add
more erogenous interest. And that's why you see people like maybe in the BDSM community, they'll they'll be using um nipple clamps while they're doing other things, right? So there's there's a whole bunch of areas that are erogenous. And most of the time people are not really
Spending much time on
for play or stimulating these erogenous zones as much as they should, right? You you have a whole body to play with. And how do you stimulate them? There's actually evidence behind that. So on your skin, we have these special fibers called C tactile afferents.
So when you stimulate these fibers, they help you feel pleasure, enjoyment, those sorts of things.
And so there was a study where they took 19 couples, a small study, it was not in London, and they basically told them to stimulate an erogenous zone and a non-erogeneous zone. The non-erogeneous zone being the forehead. And so they had the couple stimulate and they told them stimulated at levels of 18 centimeters per second.
In terms of how fast you're caressing the arm or or or body part and
At three centimeters per second. And what they found was those who stimulated at three centimeters per second had more sexual arousal, had more pleasant stimulation compared to those who were stimulating it at 18 centimeters per second. Now this makes sense because those C tactile afferent fibers respond very well to that slow, gentle caress.
The other interesting thing is that these fibers
Are only responsive to human touch. So if I take a glove and I put it on my hand and I touch you, it still doesn't work.
That's so interesting because in Los Angeles where we are now
we were viewing an office and we were walking down the street to see what the neighborhood was like. And we walked past one place
And it is a robot massage parlor.
Hm.
And I always thought
Great.
Like well, part of me thought maybe my prefrontal cortex thought Oh, great idea because you know, you can get massages whenever you want. Right. It's gonna be cheap, maybe you can have one in your home. Yeah. But then the other part of me as I saw it thought actually, I don't actually think that's like right why I get massages. Yeah. I think there's something about human touch which makes a big difference.
Absolutely there is. Um and so I think that's uh evolutionary
Evolutionarily built to seek out human touch and human behavior.
I wonder if I would want a robot.
To massage me.
I mean think about sitting in a massage chair. Is it ever as good? It's never as good. Right? And so I don't think a robot's gonna be that different from a maybe a little better than a massage chair, but like
Massage chairs are never good. No. They're just like
They're okay. They're mediocre.
I wanna talk about um
Testosterone, how that links to sexual function, but also just overall health. Because I was reading that there's been a three hundred percent increase in the United States in the last ten years of testosterone prescriptions.
And my friends are cre increasingly having conversation about testosterone, which we weren't having even five years ago. It wasn't a conversation. And now the conversation I'm having amongst my friends is like, is our testosterone high enough? Do we need to go get supplements to increase our testosterone?
Testosterone is declining. So when you look at testosterone levels from the 1990s, like late 1990s,
The average level was around six hundred and if you look at data around
2015, it was 450. So there's been like a 25% decline in testosterone. Now you're gonna ask me why. One, we talked about some of the endocrine disrupting chemicals. That's part of it, certainly.
Two, there's a significant rise in obesity. Testosterone has aromatase, and testosterone converts to estrogen using this enzyme called aromatase. And so when you have more fat mass, you have more aromatase and more testosterone is being converted to estrogen. And so now you have less testosterone.
Sorry, how do we how do you have less testosterone? So because there's more fat mass, there's more aromatase. So that aromatase sees all this testosterone and it converts it to estrogen. Uh or estrogen. And this is why they say m they talk about man babes.
Yeah, so when you have a lot of estrady all around you can get
Uh man moves.
You can get gynecomastia, so term for it. So that's one. Two is we see a rise in diabetes and insulin resistance, which also causes a decrease in testosterone.
We're seeing a rise in ultra processed food intake, and that doesn't have the optimal nutrition that you need to optimize testosterone. So we're getting, you know.
high highly caloric, which then leads to obesity, we're getting um lack of healthy fats, where you know all these things are super important for testosterone. And the Mediterranean diet is what has been the most studied and basically an anti inflammatory diet is what they found for testosterone. So trying to just
Eat like whole foods, unprocessed foods as much as possible, and minimizing the inflammatory foods. Does testoster having high testosterone make me more fertile?
No, not necessarily. So I think people inherently think that the higher your testosterone level is when you check your blood work, that that's better. And that's not necessarily true. Now everyone is different. And what I can't
tell you it is what your receptors look like, what your testosterone or androgen receptors look like. How sensitive are they to testosterone? And everyone's a little bit different. When you look at the same guy, or you look at two different guys, their variability can be so much that a guy who's 900 can be normal and a guy who's 500 can be normal because everyone has
Individual genetic variations. It's how their cells, how sensitive their cells are, how many cells they have, you know, how many latex cell do they have in their testicles, um, the CAG repeats, which are these DNA repeats on the receptor themselves.
People who have more are less sensitive to the testosterone that's around, so they need more testosterone to get the same result. Whereas people who have less repeats have more sensitivity, so they they don't need as much testosterone. And so everyone is individual, and so that's why it's really important to understand how are you feeling, right? It's not about chasing a number. And so absolutely we know that when
your testosterone is low, but below 214 nanograms per deciliter, that your risk of mortality goes up by two.
So you are gonna double your risk of dying if you have low testosterone. But when you go super high, super physiologic, meaning like eighteen hundred or higher, now you're putting yourself at risk for other things. You can have blood thickening, which is a known side effect of testosterone replacement.
And that puts you at risk for stroke, heart attack, h heart disease.
Over long periods of time it can affect your heart because it can m um there's also heart muscle cells that get
exposed to this high level of testosterone and when that happens these they sort of change over time and they become more collagen deposition, they get more fibrosis, and this makes them stiffer. And so that you're not pumping blood as effectively as you would otherwise. And so
There are real consequences to going too high. There's also the side effects of having acne, of changes in mood in terms of aggression and things when you get really high. So really it's about finding what you feel good at. More is not necessarily better.
Once your testosterone receptors are saturated, meaning they're all bound to testosterone, more doesn't help you.
It might help you get more muscles, which is why people abuse anabolic steroids and testosterone, because it will continue to help you get bigger muscles, but that's it. It's not gonna help you with your brain health, your bone health, your sexual health, your any of that.
Is there a way to
Visually spot a person with low testosterone.
Are there visual clues? Usually it's someone who feels very fatigued, like they can't get out of bed. They feel just like so drained.
Usually they are a little bit more overweight. Skinny fat.
I visceral autopause. I mean, you can't always tell if they're skinny. So it could be because they could have visceral autopausity, which is meaning that the fat is around the the organs, right? And so you don't see like a big pot belly necessarily. Um
They may have really low sexual desire. They may have decrease in mood, but skin and bones. Does it impact skin and bones? Yeah. So if you get high testosterone, you can get acne because it affects the sebum in the skin. Um bone health. So testosterone
Converts to estradial.
And estrodiol is really important for bone metabolism. And so when you have low testosterone, you can also have low estrogen. And when your estrogen gets very low, you get a higher risk for fractures, higher risk for osteoporosis. And so that's where your bone health.
Um can be in danger. And so that's why testosterone can help protect your bones because of its conversion to estradial. If you do have low testosterone, should you be considering taking anabolic steroids like
And who is testosterone replacement therapy good for?
So I'm gonna ask you a question, why why do you think anabolic steroids? I don't know,'cause I hear that people big bodybuilders take anabolic steroids.
The reason I asked you that is because people think anabolic steroids and testosterone replacement therapy are the same thing.
And they're not. And so testosterone replacement therapy is what is given to guys who have low testosterone. If you have truly low testosterone, there's a few things you can obviously improve testosterone naturally by going back to those pillars of health that we talked about. Improve your sleep, do resistance training, avoid endocrine disrupting chemicals.
But if you are still low despite doing all those things, or you're like so fatigued that you can't move your body unless you really need to do it, then I think testosterone replacement is is very valuable. And so testosterone replacement is getting you to a level of testosterone that is
Within normal. We're not trying to get you super high. We're not trying to get you to become a bodybuilder. We're trying to get you to normal, what you should be. And so anabolic steroids are different. Anabolic steroids are like all these different oral pills and injectables and things that work on muscle as well as work on your energy receptors.
And so those are typically things that people are taking on their own. They're kind of self-directing their care and they're not really monitoring their testosterone or they don't really care how high they go. They just want the end product of looking muscular.
And so they are getting really high testosterone, and that has its own host of
concerns uh in addition to the ones we talked about, like blood clots and and heart attack, but there's a fifteen times higher risk of having
premature heart failure.
And a hundred and twenty-two times more risk of cardiac death when you're taking anabolic steroids for the purposes of increasing muscle mass and not and g getting really high in your testosterone. So it is a real serious
issue when you take anabolic steroids because it can have real serious health consequences.
I've always imagined that once I have kids so I'm I think I'm scared that if I have
testosterone replacement therapy at this age at thirty three, it might impact my fertility.
It absolutely will.
Okay, good.
I'm not gonna do that.
Until I've
Had all four of the kids. Yeah. As many as I can.
And then I figured when I hit like forty five.
Then I'll go on
testosterone replacement therapy. Is this a good strategy?
Well, first of all, I would want to know why you want to be on testosterone. Is your testosterone low? I've no idea. Right? Are you having any symptoms? I mean you live a very high powered busy life. And so
I can guarantee your stress is probably not under control. Like probably you're not sleeping great. And not to say that those are things that you know you can't do in addition to taking testosterone if your testosterone is indeed low. But I think the important thing is realizing like it's only gonna help you.
If your testosterone receptors are not fully saturated, giving you more testosterone is going to saturate them. Doesn't it just drop anyway with age?
It does. So it drops about uh one percent a year.
On average, some people drop less, some people drop more. So if you look at someone who is healthy
And they have a normal testosterone, they usually won't become what we call hypo-gonatal or have low testosterone even as they age because the drop is so low. It's only one percent a year. But if you add on these comorbid conditions, if you add on a high stress life, if you add on poor sleep, if you add on
um exposure to endocrine disrupting chemicals, you're gonna see um that number come down.
Much higher. It's actually I was just I pulled up a graph here. Um that shows
testosterone decline with age.
And it's actually not that steep.
It's not.
It is gonna decline, but it may not decline to the point where you need testosterone. So not everyone needs it. Depending on the data you look at, twenty to forty percent of guys have low testosterone.
Um and when you look at the number that get treated, it's like two percent. And it starts declining from about twenty years old.
Yeah, uh depends on the person, twenty to forty years old that start it's probably about more around thirty to forty. And the reason we come up with these numbers, right, these guidelines to to guide us on what's normal and what's not, is because we look at population based data and you look at when these symptoms arise. And there are like clear numbers. You may start having bone loss uh around three hundred.
You might start having uh you know decreased sexual frequency of thoughts at two fifteen. You might start having d feeling less physical vigor uh around two ninety, right? And so there are numbers.
That we know based on population based data that we're seeing these numbers decline. Now the other thing to think about when you're looking at testosterone is free testosterone.
So testosterone comes in different forms in the body. It comes bound and unbound. So forty five percent of testosterone is bound to SHBG, which is a
m molecule of protein that is s really tightly binds to testosterone, doesn't let it go for your body to use. And then there's s some that's bound to albumin, which is sort of loosely bound. And then there's two percent that's free. One to two percent that's free. And that's what we say is like the most available
to your body for use. And there's actually good data that looks at free testosterone and the levels of free testosterone are correlated with these symptoms as well. And so you do have to look at the big picture. So I always check a total testosterone as well as an SHBG, because some people can have elevated SHBG.
When you're thyroid dysfunction, due to aging, due to genetic variability, right? And women, SHPG goes up when you take oral contraceptives and it stays up.
For life, if you take oral contraceptives.
So it can affect their free testosterone.
Well the other thing to think about testosterone is it's for life. Once you take it, your body stops making its own testosterone. Many people over years will notice that their testosterone their testicles get smaller because their body stops making its own testosterone. So it's not something to take lightly. Now, if you want, say you were low right now and you wanted to conceive, there are ways where you can take.

Um other pharmaceuticals that will naturally boost your own production like H Cg or Clomate or N Clomophine. These work basically uh in different ways to either tell your brain that hey we need more testosterone or they send they mimic the signals that tell your testicles to make more testosterone.
And so there are ways to do it. And you definitely need someone who's, you know, uh well versed in managing hormone management. Uh, but there are things that you can do if you're low. But again, I don't think it's once you once you start these things, you can't go I mean you can get off of it, but it's sort of a process and it's not something that everyone
Will do because you're gonna feel good on testosterone if you're taking it, and then when you get off it, because your body is like no longer making its own, you're gonna feel horrible. So do you think most
fifty plus year old men should be taking
Testostrone.
Replacement therapies.
Only if they're symptomatic and they're low, right? So would it make them the average man, the average fifty year old man, if this is the average, feel better on a daily basis.
Not necessarily, because if they are normal, like I said, if their testosterone receptors are already fully saturated, it's not gonna change.
Right. It's not gonna change the it like I said, it may make their muscles look bigger, but it's not gonna change their their cognition. It's not gonna change their mood. It's not gonna change their sex drive, it's not gonna change their erections.
When their testosterone receptors are fully saturated.
And you know in this graph, what is showing the decline here.
Has that got anything to do with whether the testosterone levels are fully saturated? No, you can't tell from that. You can't tell from that. So you could have low testosterone but still be fully saturated. That's why we talk about symptoms, right? Because that's how I can tell. I think you know
I that's part of what being a doctor is, right? Talking to your patients and figuring out what's going on with them and what their symptoms are and making sure it's nothing else, right? You can have low thyroid and that can mimic what
What uh what
Low testosterone feels like you can have a high prolactin because you might have a benign tumor in your brain that's secreting prolactin, and that can reduce your testosterone. So that's the the reason to get a full evaluation to make sure there's nothing else that we're missing that's causing you to have these symptoms if your other levels are normal.
Uh, okay, that makes sense. So just because my testosterone levels
would be low doesn't mean I necessarily if I don't if I'm not symptomatic
Doesn't mean that I n should necessarily just assume that I need testosterone replacement therapy. Exactly. Okay.
Yeah, I think I think most of my male friends are just assuming that once we hit fifty we're all on the testosterone.
I mean look, I think when if you need it, it's a great drug. It's a great option to improve your quality of life. It's obviously preventing uh bone loss. It's uh improving your longevity, it's uh preventing h hopefully having some benefit in terms of cardiometabolic health. And so, yeah, absolutely. If you need it.
But it's not something that like everyone should just take'cause why not? Right? Like it's a s when you play with hormones, it's serious business.
You know?
I guess a lot of men are self conscious in a way that they don't often admit and they want to have big muscles.
Mm-hmm. And they want to feel strong. And this is the the problem I'm seeing with younger guys right now is that there's a lot of young kids taking anabolics because there's so much pressure to look a certain way, right? Because nowadays, when how do you meet people on social media through like swiping and and all you see is what they look like. And so there's this
pressure and like I'll sit at the gym like I'm like at the gym and there's these young kids who I'm like there is no way you are naturally that built at that age, right? Like unless you've been lifting since you were like seven years old. And so and of course there are some, but
It is serious because one, it causes infertility, right? When you're on testosterone replacement
after about eighteen eighteen months, seventy percent of people on testosterone replacement will be infertile.
Seventeen. Seventy. Seventy percent. Seventy. And
Even as soon as like ten weeks we see some people having drops in their sperm count. So it's variable with how quickly you're gonna see.
impacts on your fertility, but it absolutely happens and it can it can come back for the large majority of people, but how long it takes depends on your age and how long you were on testosterone replacement therapy. And in some cases it can take as long as two years to come back. I really need to get my testosterone levels checked.
Yeah.
But also you should get your schema analysis checked and that.
Good. Good. Because that's also a biomarker of health. We've seen that people who have poor semen parameters, they have higher rates of mortality and they actually live when you look at age, like what age people die, they die younger compared to people and it's dose dependent. So if you're have like normal uh
the concentration of sperm and then it keeps going down and down and down. If you look at the age, it's like they live to seventy eight, seventy seven, seventy six, seven like you can actually see it come down, except for people who have no sperm because those are usually genetic disorders. Those are live a little longer because it's not necessarily due to cardiometabolic issues. Um, but it's basically a reflection of your overall health.


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One of the things I was quite surprised by
I'll be honest, is when I went on your YouTube channel.
One of your
Very high performing videos.
I think it had
Thirty one million views.
Was about enlarging your penis. Yes.


I didn't know that so many men were interested in ways to enlarge their penis.
Well, it's interesting because when you look at the data, more men want to so I w uh let's say most guys would love to be taller, right? If you're an average height man, most guys would love to be taller, right? Yeah, true. Um, more men wanna have a longer penis than they want to be taller.
Really? Mm-hmm.
Wow.
Wow.
Why is this?
Well, I think you know, a lot of
People, um it starts at a young age. I have sons, right? And so I see it. Like they talk about their penis in such a way, like very early in life. Like, oh my God, my penis is so big or it should be so big or whatever. And and there's and it's like this it becomes this like
this society thing about who's got a bigger penis, like it's very interesting, but there's a lot of pressure to feel like and and a lot of discussion around bigger is better.
Right? It's it's talked about in media. It's subtly joked about. It is um everywhere you look, people are talking about like being well endowed as being better. But additionally on my podcast, we interviewed the the guy who has the largest medically verified penis.
It's I think it's like thirteen or fourteen inches in length.
And um he actually has a lot of trouble because it's so large that people don't want to have sex with him, and it's uncomfortable for them. And so like it's not all roses and sunshine on the other side, but the reality is that many people feel what's called small penis anxiety.
And they they even if they have a normal size penis, they feel consumed with how the size of their penis is. And so that's why this video did so well. I naively had no idea how many people it would resonate with because I'm not a guy, right? And I see patients all the time, but at that time in my career, people weren't coming to me to talk about it. And so
I um I realize like there's so many people quietly feeling insecure. And we talk a lot about women having body image issues. Men do too, right? They feel insecure about the size of their penis because also they're seeing guys on pornography who have
Very
well endowed phalluses. And you know, they chose to be porn actors for a reason, right? Because they are naturally well endowed. And so you're comparing yourself to the outliers. And the average pen is about five point three to five point five inches erect. But when you look at like
what do women want? They will say on average they want a six inch penis, but when you look at like the kind of sex toys they buy, and they did this study because they were looking at people who they were trying to decide what kind of when they were developing phalluses for trans people, like they they
reconstruct phalluses for the they wanted to they were making them too girthy and they're like, well we need to figure out what girth women want. And so they looked at like what women buy on online. Like what are the most purchased sex toy. And it's actually pretty close to average.
Did you say five point two inches? Five point two to five point five.
Depending on the study you're looking at. Yeah. Correct. Mm-hmm.
Mm.
And what

Do men think the average is.
Oh, they think it's like six or seven inches.
Oh, okay, so they think the average is bigger. And also how does age come into this? Because I'm presuming that when I get older my penis is gonna shrink or something. If you have good blood flow to your penis, it shouldn't shrink.
So like I said earlier, if you stop having nighttime erections and you're not having erections, now you're no longer getting blood flow to your penis and it will shrink over time. Also, if you're gaining weight, it will appear that it's shrinking because you're getting more fat.
Over here.
So if you think about your penis here, this is the fat right above this bone, and as this fat gets more and more, you're seeing less and less of the penis.
And is there a way to enlarge the penis?
So there are many ways that have been uh tried, discussed, um attempted. So there's definitely surgeries that you can get, but they there's not a lot of surgeons who do a lot of penile lengthening surgeries.
And they have lots of complications, like very high rates of complications, because the penis is a very vascular organ. And the thing is that.
When you have uh the tiniest difference on your penis, you notice it, right? Like I have guys come in with the tiniest little thing on their penis and like is this okay? Like this is new. And like luckily it's nothing, right? But I'm like they notice it. You notice it when something's wrong. So imagine you have a surgery and now something changes, right? So it is it is really
difficult to sort of replicate exactly a normal penis when you're lengthening it through surgery. So I don't recommend surgery for a lengthening penis. There is a safer way and that has been shown to help and that's using a traction device. So a traction device
We have one here. This is one brand, so you can get many of these online and you can put
your penis in this device. It really I like squ I feel like um I get like shivers when I watch you do this to this penis. So y you would wrap it, it would be more comfortable than just putting this like directly on your penis. For you guys that can't see it, she's clamping the end of the penis into this into this device. And then you sort of lengthen it.
uh extend it with this thirty minutes twice a day for this particular device. They've actually done some research on this one. Thirty minutes twice a day. And you there's like a whole protocol on their website and it does show improvements in length, about two centimeters. But it is a commitment to increasing
length and to doing this process. So just on those numbers, two two centimeter increase over what period of time and does that for about three to six months depending. Yeah. And is it permanent?
So that's what we don't know. I mean, most of the studies stop at you know, once they get their results, and we don't know that if you stop, will it just revert back to normal? I don't know. And so the other thing about this particular traction device that's night is if you have a curvature in the penis, like you develop something called Pavroni's disease, this device can actually
curve a little bit away from if you like let's say you have um indentation on the top of the penis, it can actually bend away from that and it can help straighten out the penis.
So that's actually a a a really nice utilization for it because um for some people that can be really traumatic and devastating to have a change in the way your penis appears because it starts curving all of a sudden and this is safe and effective and you can have bruising, it can be slightly uncomfortable, but
It's you're not gonna really hurt yourself.
uh too much by doing something like this.
I thought a curved penis would hit the G spot better.
Yeah, sometimes a a slight curve can be beneficial for some people, but again, I think like when you notice like there's a dramatic change.
You do that more cup. It's okay.

I'm just gonna figure out how this works.
I get the penis.
Could it
Through.
Clump it down. And you wanna put it at your normal and then you'll just slightly advance the the length. You're not gonna pull crazy, you're just gonna do a little bit of traction so it's not uncomfortable. It's slight like just a slight tension. It shouldn't be like like that. It should be a l much less tension.
But it is I mean, they can vary in price from a hundred dollars to five hundred dollars. So it's a one time cost. It is not like I said, not dangerous. What is dangerous is when people try to do something that became popular on TikTok called gelking.
And gel king is where you use your
Your hands.
And you make like an okay sign with your fingers, and you're like stretching the penis.
with your hands. And this can be dangerous because you can create micro tears in the penis. And we in the urology community have seen plenty of patients who have now developed erectile dysfunction after doing junking because they've now created damage to their penis. And so
I I really caution people because this there is so much despair around
sexual function around penal health that people are willing to try things and they might really hurt themselves. No joke, I had a patient the other day ask me if he should drink hydrogen peroxide.
because he saw some ad that said hydrogen peroxide will fix your erection erections. And I said, please don't. Um this is you know and but he really was like seriously, earnestly asking me this question. And I, you know, I didn't want to shame him by any means. And I was like, no, you know, this is actually not safe and it's not going to help you.
And there's no pill, there's no drink, there's no anything that's gonna give you a longer penis.
What are the cases that you see that break your heart?
You know, I I've seen so there are I've seen patients who've had surgery to lengthen their penis and they are above average when they at baseline and they have these surgeries to lengthen their penis and then they have a bad outcome and now their penis is disfigured forever.
And that's what really
Um
You you never forget that because that person, knowing the risks and benefits, perhaps made a choice.
And that choice didn't go the way they wanted and now they have to live with that for the rest of their life. And that's really
Sad.
Imagine that. Christ.
Yeah.
Well and it just it doesn't work anymore.
Well, like like the one patient I'm thinking of, um he uh had a like it it basically developed a scar all at the top of the penis, so it was like disfigured, essentially.
Um
And so it was it was really sad.
Before I hit puberty, I definitely had penis anxiety.
Because I was the youngest in my year at school.
And I
I was the s I was short, very, very short, very small.
I remember what it felt like to like hide my d m hide my dick. Mm-hmm.
when I was around like guys in the changing room and stuff like that.
Um
You know.
And what I want people to understand, I think, more than anything, is that you don't need a long penis to pleasure a partner. We just talked about how the clitoris is the
is the most reliable route to orgasm, right? And so you don't need a penis
To stimulate the clitoris. You can use your mouth, your fingers, you can use a toy. There's so many ways to help your partner achieve pleasure and
And yes, of course there are a small subset of women who really appreciate a large phallus, but the large majority of women, if you look at survey data, are very happy with the size of their partner, are very content with average or slightly above average or slightly below average, as long as they are feeling intimate and they're feeling pleasure. And so I think
Th there's a misnomer that that people think if I have a longer penis, I'm going to be able to pleasure my partner more.
As it relates to women, is there different size vaginas?
Yeah, so the aver so like just like there's averages, there's averages in females. And so average vagin vaginal length is about three and a half inches. So when women get aroused, it expands and widens and lengthens to about double.
So the average woman can easily accommodate the average penis, maybe slightly larger than average. And so I think generally speaking, knowing that like you will be able to fit in the average woman and you will be able to please her with the size of your phallus. And like I said
penetration is is not as important. In fact, only about eighty five percent of women orgasm through penetration alone. They need clitoral stimulation to achieve climax. And so again, penetration feels good. I I tell guys it's like somebody
rubbing your testicles or your perineum, that feels good, but it's not gonna make your orgasm. And so penetrating, yeah, if you're getting a lot of uh clitoral stimulation because maybe she has a thinner you know, her clitoral shaft is closer to the
vaginal canal, maybe you know, the size of the penis matters more, but for a lot of women it's not gonna be sufficient and they're gonna need some directed clitoral stimulation. Why do different vaginas feel different?
Uh
And
I guess.
the the inverse is also the case where like different penises will feel remarkably different, even if they're the same size roughly. And peop you can have sex with somebody and go, it feels really good.
I mean I think again it's how you it's like the motion in the ocean, right? Like how you use your so let's say let's talk about the vaginas first. So
When a vagina is um has more pelvic floor strength, they may be able to like tense around the penis better. Like they may be able to sort of grab the penis with their pelvic floor a little stronger versus someone who doesn't. And that's where I think some people get worried when I say, Oh, you need to relax your pelvic floor. They're like, Oh, I don't want to be looser.
Right? And that's not gonna happen if you have a normally functioning pelvic floor. If you're So the penis is going in here, right? Correct.
So if I d if you're a woman and you do pelvic floor exercises.
They're feel tighter.
Well, you're you're able to contract and squeeze those muscles during sex better, right? Yes. Yes. But we don't want you to be tighter. We want you to be able to squeeze the muscles and relax the muscles. Use them like a normal muscle, like your bicep. You squeeze and relax, squeeze and relax. We don't want it to be constantly squeezed.
But to the man it will feel tighter. You will perceive it as tighter, but it will not be that she's actually tighter, it just means that maybe her pelvic floor muscles are doing a better job.
So that's for the female. For the male it's
It's generally like how the penis moves and how the positioning is and where it's uh it may be girth that's different. It may be the way that you're moving in the vaginal canal and that may be why it feels different.
They often say that if you've got big feet or big hands.
Yeah, like
People think you have a big penis.
Not necessarily true. So there's um there's actually no evidence that big hands, big feet correlate to female size. There's one study in Japan where they looked at nose length. And so the longer your nose is from the the bridge down to the tip, that is
Potenti at least the Japanese population that they studied was correlated with the length of the penis.

P people also think tall people have big penises. Not necessarily.
Yeah.
But nose length there's some correlation in a study in Japan. Yes. Okay.
Just check my nose.
Um the last thing I want to talk to you about is
Zimpack.
Mm-hmm. How this relates to everything we've talked about today, desire, attraction, sex. Is there any early data emerging that shows any correlations?
Yeah, so Ozempic, there's sort of benefits and there's potential downsides. So the benefits are that when you're on Ozempic, we see improvements in metabolic diseases. They have improvements in diabetes, improvements in heart disease, improvements in overall health, right? And so that is going to mean that your blood vessels are healthier, you're more able to get
blood flow to your genitals, you're gonna have stronger sexual function and arousal, right?
So that's great.
The other thing is that you are losing weight, so you feel better. You feel more like your body image is is feeling good about yourself. Also for men, remember I talked about this fat pad right above your penis.
That's getting smaller. And so now you can see more of your penis. So you may have heard of Osempic penis where people are saying, Oh, my penis is getting longer. It's not actually that your penis is getting longer, it's that this fat is going down, so now you're seeing more of your penis. Which makes it look longer.
Yes, exactly. It makes it well it is reality to the person looking, right? Um
And so those are all great things, and I think that's wonderful. Now, the other part of it is Ozbook works on the brain. And it
Works on the reward pathway. So you now see food and you don't feel like it's that much of a reward, so you don't chase after. You have less desire for food. There's emerging data that we're seeing people on these medications, these GLP1s, have less desire for, let's say gambling, let's say shopping, let's say you know, alcohol, smoking, whatever it is, right?
And so there's a theoretical because it works on the same pathways that it could also decrease desire for sex.
And I think the thing that you know there's so many people on these medications, there's so many metabolic benefits that I worry that people may not even realize that their sexual desire is changing. Right? They might just be like, Oh, you know
I'm I'm eating less, I look great, everything's wonderful. But like slowly in the background, they're like, Oh, maybe my desire is less, and maybe it's creating discord in the relationship.
Hard to say because we don't have data yet. So yeah, I think it's just something that you should be aware of that if you start feeling like you have less desire for sex, or maybe you're like, Man, I just really don't
feel into anything. Talk to your doctor'cause maybe your dose is just too high and maybe it just needs to come down a little bit. And again, we don't know yet, but I do worry about this because I feel like we're we're gonna start seeing it.
Is it possible to do studies on this type of thing?
Absolutely. So you can take people starting Ozempic and you can say, Hey, here is or or any GLP one. You know, there's questionnaires. So like for women there's the female sexual function index. For men there's Adam, which is a questionnaire about testosterone, but you could there's sexual desire questionnaires that you can use.
Um, and you can take it at the beginning and then you can take it as they increase their dose and see if there's a change, right, in terms of their sexual desire. You said at the start about
Knowing how to talk to your partner. I think like intimacy desire, maybe the conversations like with your partner, how to have that conversation when there's a problem. Yeah. I I wish I could say there's like a script that you can follow and it's gonna work. But everyone's so different. But I think the important thing is like not giving up. Because what happens is
Because we don't ever talk about sex, when you bring it up, it's immediately like Oh my God, is something wrong?
Did I do something wrong? Um, do you not like me? Am I not attractive? Right? You're automatically going down the rabbit hole of worry and concern. And instead of dealing with it, you're just shut it down. No, I don't want to talk about it, right? Um, especially if like maybe you haven't connected intimately in a while and like you just don't want to deal with that, or you're you have other stressors in life, maybe you're not feeling like
very good about yourself. And so you're like, well, I don't really feel sexy, so I don't want to have sex. And so I think really understanding that whatever reaction you get from your partner, when you do talk to them, it's not about you. It's just usually about how they're feeling. And so don't stress about that. And two, like it's anything that is worth
Having requires work.
So having a good sex life, having intimacy over the long haul with someone, if you are committed to that relationship, it is worth working for. It is worth dealing with a little bit of discord to get there. And so
I tell people when you wanna talk about sex, first of all, don't do it in the bedroom. Don't do it right before after sex. Do it at a time where you are both calm, relaxed, maybe you're out for a walk, maybe you're in the car, so you're not like looking directly at each other, you know, you're gonna kinda parallel.
And always start with a positive thing. Like I you know, I really enjoy this about our relationship and I would love if we could talk about this. And and maybe they're gonna be like, uh, I'm not ready for that. And just say, maybe we could come up with a time where we can talk about this that works for you, right? Let them feel like they're coming to the conversation with like
They're not being ambushed or like talking about something. And then be curious. I think the big thing is like being curious. Like what's going on with you? Like I wanna I wanna I wanna be there for you. I love you. You know, I I miss what we used to have or I miss this about us. And I think that there's always these
Misconceptions. I hear it all the time, right? It'll be like this partner only wants sex, and this partner never wants sex. And you know, and th that's it. Like that's the end of the conversation. But the reality is that there it's it's somewhere in between. So typically women tend to view sex as like
added stress sometimes when they're already stressed. Like they're like, oh it's just one more thing to do. Whereas men look at it as a stress relief. So one, you're coming at it from two different angles. The other thing is men aren't really taught how to be intimate. And so for a lot of men
Sex is their version of intimacy. Like that's how they connect. That's how they feel connected with a partner. And so
Oftentimes when they're doing these initiations or attempts at sex, it feels like they're being greedy, or it feels like they're they just want sex. And I think we have to reframe how we look at that. Like sex is not just sex, it is intimacy, it is being together, connecting with another human being. So how do we do that?
Right, and like how do we make that sex worth having? We get into this frame where we have sex.
As
Like in a hurried, quick, like just gotta get this done. Way. I just need to get an orgasm. I just need to get a release.
But sex is supposed to be something we look forward to. It's supposed to be something that we're excited about. And so we have to build that in. We have to sort of like
Build the environment where sex can
can happen. So it may mean like, hey, we are affectionate during the day. Maybe we send a lovely text message. Maybe um you know I give you a hug, I caress your back, I um tell you you look beautiful. I I'm I'm showing you gratitude for how much I care about you in other ways.
I think just really taking the time to understand why your partner feels the way they do. I'm curious about on that communication point about how different genders
in heterosexual couples have different sort of taboos and things that are
Just a bit sensitive.
Um
And I was looking at the the variance between men and women and the f the top one for men was around performance anxiety. So like admitting to things like erectile dysfunction because it feels like it's so intrinsically connected to masculinity. And you feel like a failure as a man if you can't get a erection and pleasure your partner. Right. And then for women it was talking about um prioritising pleasure and asking for
More full play or
Um
you know, specific specific simulation stimulation around the clitoris or something like that.
Um because they don't want to be labelled as high maintenance or
Too much hard work, et cetera. Mm-hmm.
And it's interesting that on that walk with your partner
There are different things that will trigger each of you.
Mm-hmm.
Um
Other ones will warn my pain and discomfort bringing that up.
And body image.
And the mental load explaining why you aren't in the mood. And other ones for men are expressing non sexual needs because it might be seen as unmanly unmanly. Boundaries and rejection, communicating when they don't want sex, and lastly the script, which is discussing fantasies that deviate from the norm.
So I wanna talk about fantasy, but before that I would just say that, you know, it because of social media, we're in a place and I get text messages from my husband twenty four hours a day with like not twenty fours a day, but like all waking hours with reels and videos. Oh I think you'd like this, I think you'd like this, you should check this out. And it's like his way of
Like connecting and be like, Hey, let's talk about this later. Like this is fun. And so I I tell my patients, like, send your partner a a video.
that you saw on social media that might help them understand like why this is important to you. Maybe send them a video, send them send them this podcast, right? Say like, hey, I watched this, it was great. You know, um and I I learned so much. And honestly, so many patients bring their partners to me, whether it's women bringing male partners or men bringing female partners.
They come to me and they say, look, like I want you to meet this doctor and I want you to talk to them. And like it's beautiful to see that. Like I love it because it's it's so
deeply caring that they like brought their partner and they want them to feel good and they just want to figure out what's going on. And like I think it's so lovely to to to find someone who's so invested in making sure that sex is good for you. Right. As men though we're just not going to talk about this stuff. Right. But you know, I think you can't use that as a crutch.
Yeah. Do you know what I mean? Like, just not good at it, though. But no one's good at it. It's not men. Women are not good at it either. I think men are worse at it.
I think in general no one is good at talking about sex. Like I you know, I I think it's interesting because I talk about it all the time, but I have seen very
Good communicator struggle.
with talking about sex and so I think it's just
Um
It's just it's uncomfortable.
And and it's like if you and I can have this conversation and we can talk about sex openly, like there's no reason that you can't learn how to talk about sex. And it it's it's a learning process and it's worth
It's worth investing in.
Do people bring you their fantasies?
Yeah, I've had uh I've had well more not not as many fantasies as like real sort of diverse interests in sex.
So I had a patient who came to me and said
Uh you know, after some time. This was not like their first visit. Like we built a rapport and he told me, you know, the I I really struggle with arousal and the only time I get aroused is I have a a medical kink. And so I go to this person who will put a foli catheter in me and that's what turns me on.
And I was like, that's really interesting. And I was like, Okay, like that's that's great. But like it took a long time for us to get there for him to feel comfortable, but it also then was like, Well, if that's what turns you on, you know, then you gotta sort of explore other ways to incorporate that with a partner, maybe not a full
Uh so like a a catheter is is um
Is a tube that you put in the bladder for to drain urine.
What hole does that go in?
The urethra.
It goes in the penis. Correct. And so there's actually a lot of people who enjoy your wreath roll play. So they will take sounds, they're called sounds, like little um
Uh rods with a frail
flared base and they will insert them in the urethra. And but people do find that pleasurable. And so because there is some you know there there's some nerve endings there that can be pleasurable. And so
Again, it is totally fine to have
interests that are, you know, outside what we call conventional. Um, but of course I think you need to
uh if that's something that you're really into, you have to sort of bring your partner into the into the fold if that's what really gets you turned on.
Now, in terms of fantasies, almost everyone fantasizes, right? Er almost everyone does. And the interesting thing when you look at fantasies is
There's a lot of fantasies that you would think are not common but are.
So for example, um, being sexually submissive is very common. So women fantasize about it like around sixty percent. Men are like
twenty percent having this desire of sexual this fantasy of sexual submission. It may not mean that they want to be submissive in real life, but that's the fantasy they're having. Um men often have a voyeurism fantasy, so like watching
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Um, they also have uh sex with multiple partners. Um women tend to have a lot of like sexual um dominance, but also romance in their fantasies, so like in exotic places or um the or with and a lot of times, like ninety percent of the time people fantasize about strangers.
Or it could be someone they know about outside of their relationship. And so that's completely normal and nothing to be worried about. It doesn't mean that like you want that person, it's just a fantasy. It's a safe place in your head to think about fantasy. And I think one realizing that if someone fantasizes about something, it means nothing about how they feel about you. It's just where their brain goes to explore. I tell my patients sometimes, write down your fantasies for yourself.
yourself. Just like write them down. Don't share that with anybody. And have your partner do the same. And then if you guys decide you feel comfortable at some point each share one fantasy. And you can start talking and maybe one that you would want to try.
And like it allows you to sort of explore and think about different things. It could be a negative outcome, like it could just be like oh no, this what didn't do it for me, but it could also be very positive. And so just like again, I think the big thing is understanding that it doesn't need to be that serious. Like we can experiment, we can play, we can have fun.
And if you bring that back into your life, you are gonna be happier, less lonely, live longer, like
Everyone should just be having more sex.
Mm.
Mm-hmm.

It's um yeah, it's interesting that we're getting more and more sexless.
Because
I think the world is stealing our attention and that's causing a big loss in connection, but then
Everyone's lives are more stressful than ever before. If a bomb goes off.
ten thousand miles that way, I f I see it when I open my phone. Um so it's an interesting time to sort of almost re try and rec reclaim sex and
to work on one's
sexual health the overall the full picture of one's sexual health.
Um you're working on a book which is
I guess endeavouring to do much of that, which is coming out in September called The Hard Truth, Everything Men Need to Know about Good Health, Great Sex and Long Life. So if you're watching this after
the first of September 2026, we're around that time, then the book is probably available for pre-order or already out. It's not available for pre-order yet, is it? Uh will be soon, but not yet. Okay. When the book is out, I'm gonna link it below in the comment section. Um when it's available for pre-order. The hard truth, everything men need to know about good health, great sex, and long life. So if the subjects we talked about today
Have piqued your interest.
The book, I imagine, is gonna go into greater detail on all of these subjects. Absolutely. I think it's a book that really I I wish was a part of sexual education. I think all men need to know this. You know, as women, we end up taking care of
Our male partners. I make all the doctors' appointments. I you know, I organize all of that. I make sure that my kids get all their vaccines, all that sort of stuff. And s and uh you know it becomes on us to take care of our fathers too. And so as women, we are hold that role, and I think it is so valuable to understand.
What men go through and also to be able to support them along the way. And I think it's a great gift for.
you know, men in your life or for ps you know, older sons even to like help people understand their bodies. And honestly, it's a huge motivator. I tell people like if for nothing else, people care about sex. And I have seen patients turn around their lives because
They want to b have better sex. They'll literally improve their sh blood sugars, they'll improve their c blood pressure because they just want to protect their sexual health.
Rina, thank you. We have a um closing tradition on this podcast where the last guest leaves a question for the next guest, not knowing who they're leaving it for. This is the first time.
in Director History where the guest has actually stamped it.
With a stamp that says certified one hundred percent human.
Okay. So you can see there's a little stamp. So when it's not AI.

Gen AI free.
But that question.
I guess it's somewhat linked to that. The the question they've asked for you is
So much of the world feels hopeless and
About this moment.
What would you tell someone to help them reclaim
There.
Agency.

I think that
We as humans are meant.
To be with other humans.
We are meant to connect.
And I think
Making that a priority will allow people to feel
Um
To feel a part of something again.
You know, I think
Um, I think there is like an emergence of people starting to look back at religious constructs and and go to community and be a part of things and enjoy live events again like we weren't doing before. And I think if we prioritize that, there is still hope that we can come together.
as a society, and I think you know, the pendulum always swings, right? In every way, like it's gonna go far right or far left, and people are gonna hate each other and then they're gonna love each other and then they're gonna come back. And I think
If you just look at history time and time again, it repeats itself, and we will find
unity and we will find togetherness. We are obviously feeling pain from a variety of different sources, and we may feel pain, right? Like in terms of other things to come. But ultimately I I'm an optimist and I think that we'll come together and and we will find
um happiness and joy in human connection.
And I hope you're right.
I think we
Seeing the early signs of that now. For anyone that's listening that wants to learn more from Rena.
Um I highly recommend they go to your YouTube channel. I will
Clab if we can.
Um and if we do collab on YouTube, you'll see a little
Smiling Rena.
um next to the Director Seal logo where you can click through to her YouTube channel.
She's got almost three million subscribers, and she goes through
All of the questions which no one has ever answered for us. And I was looking at some of the questions that you answer for people. Everything from
Why you dribble after you pee?
And how to stop it.
Pawn director reveals what
what scenes are faked in almost every scene of movies, but then also a lot of the stuff we talked about today.
around um penal health.
Erectile dysfunction.
um sex positions and so much more. So it's a wonderful
repository of information that is constantly being updated, that is a great place to subscribe. So I highly recommend you do. Doctor Rena, thank you so much for your time.
You're so welcome.
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