Morgan Housel: Wealth is What You Have Minus What You Want

0:00 It's not necessarily how much you have, it's just a contrast to what you have before. Would you rather have A net worth of a million dollars when you used to have two million. Or would you rather have a net worth of five hundred thousand when you used to have two hundred thousand? And

0:13 Psychologically, most people would rather have five hundred thousand. The speed at which a luxury becomes a necessity. Is two seconds. What advice do you have for somebody living paycheck to paycheck? I always say two things. One is that The second is Affordable housing, I think, is the single biggest social problem.

0:31 Because so many other social problems that might seem bigger than that. or downstream of housing. A lot of the drug prop The fertility crisis, the degradation of politics, because if you don't feel like you're invested in your community Or you're investing in your country, it's much easier to be like burn the place down. And so much I wrote this in Psychology Money. If you have to serve

0:49 Like sum up. Doing well financially in one word. I think it's You've been in Incredibly successful and sold over ten million books.

1:03 What drives you to that? Well, you've been incredibly successful too, Shane. I've looked up to to to you for years as well. But I bring that up. I think that's an important thing to bring up because what Has driven me. Yeah.

1:16 People like you. And and others. James Clear. Michael Lewis, people who I've really looked up to. And not been so crazy to say I want to be that person one day.

1:27 Uh both because they're it's it's that's that's not you know, everyone should just do it in their own way. But I've I've always been Uh I think there's a difference between envy and and aspiration. You can be really inspired by someone's success without envying them. And the you know, if I can name half a dozen people. that I've really looked up to and said, like Pan Dave, they're a good role model.

1:48 But the important thing is I don't envy them. I can also name half a dozen people I won't. who I who I've envied and when I when I try to get introspective about that Why do I envy that person? It's usually it's because they achieved a level of success, but I didn't like how they did it. And that's a subjective thing. Maybe they're all they're all good people on their own, right? I don't want to be too judgmental, which I won't name them.

2:08 But I I think I think it's an important distinction. People in your life who inspire you versus you envy them. And I think everyone, if they're honest, probably has a you know some of both. But I've really I I like looking up to people where it's like not only do I appreciate what you did professionally And think you did it with a high level of integrity. And and you look like you're having fun doing it.

2:26 But at least from my appearance. I like the whole package. of the life that you're living, and that's really important. Cause there's also a lot of people, particularly in finance, who I can say, man, career wise. You did amazing.

2:38 But As I get to know you, I realize that your home life isn't that great and your health isn't that great. Or maybe you don't actually enjoy your life. And so do I actually want to Chase what you've achieved? Like no, maybe not.

2:50 And so you ask what inspires me. I think it's It I I think it's I think it's that having people in your life That you look up to And you can use as as a North Star is important. The other that I think is really important. I think this was a buffet line. He said it's really good to have people in your life who you don't want to disappoint.

3:06 Nothing is a bigger motivator in life than having A couple people. Rarely more than that. That you really don't want to disappoint. I really desperately do not want to disappoint my wife and kids.

3:17 I really don't want to disappoint my parents. That's that's fundamental. I think most people will have they'll have their own version of that, but something like that. And nothing is more of a motivator. than that to want to leave to live a good life But if you look back thirty years ago. And you could see what you've accomplished today, the financial success, the

3:37 uh status success that you've had. You you've blown away any goal that you would have had. Why keep going? I think in a healthy way. I can have a very split personality. Of on one hand

3:52 I can say Man, I'm really good at what I do. And I'm I'm achieving a lot and this is amazing. And then I can very quickly flip a switch and say I'm a nobody and I'm I've done some really bad work lately. And I think on balance that's a that's a pretty healthy personality because if you only have the ego side.

4:09 You're gonna run yourself off a cliff. And if you only have the humble slash depressed side, you're never gonna get anywhere. And so I've been pretty good at being able to toggle back and forth sometimes, you know, within the same hour, certainly within the same day. And so what keeps you going? Hey, I I really enjoy what I do. Ready has never felt like work to me. And I think it's I think it's the same for you. It's just an extension of kind of who you are. It's never felt like work.

4:32 And so I enjoy doing it. But also what keeps me going is like the healthy side of me, part of me says, like I can keep doing this and do good work. And then a minute later the other bird on the shoulder being like you s You suck at this. And again, on net, I think it's a very healthy personality, even if it's just the two extreme sides.

4:49 What? Can money do for us and what can it do for us? It can do a list of positive things for everybody, what I think is true. is that on average people who have more money tend to Have fewer bad days.

5:06 But I don't know if they have more better days. I think it is more likely that when you have more money, you are less likely to wake up and be like, Man, things are not going well. But that doesn't necessarily mean that you're gonna wake up grinning ear to ear. Now that's a lifestyle improvement. If you have fewer bad days, that's like great, your life your life is better. That's obviously better than the alternative, but it's not happiness.

5:24 Very different thing. And I think it can throw some people off. When they are when they aspire to happiness, or they think that what they're achieving and the money they're making should make them happy. Sometimes it does, very often it doesn't. And they wake up and they're like, What happened? Like I thought this was gonna make me happy. But I'm not.

5:39 So I think if there's a level of expectation setting where it's like I think ha I think money can be more like a vaccine. Where like it can prevent a lot of misery. Which is great. That seems so wonderful. Like we don't have polio, like it's a great thing.

5:52 But Maybe that's a good analogy because you and I don't wake up in the morning being like, Oh, I'm so glad I don't have polio. So grateful for the fact we don't do that. We don't we don't think about it. And I think that's a lot of what money can do. It is a lifestyle improvement, but don't think it's gonna make you waking up ear to ear, grinning ear to ear.

6:09 It's kinda like oxygen in a way, I guess. Right. When you have it, you never think about it. But the minute you're lacking it, it's all you can think of. But we wanna think of it like it's a perfor a performance enhancing drug. We wanna think of it as like we're gonna take it and just be like, Oh, I'm on fire now. This is great. And I think for short periods of time. It can do this. Happiness is always a fleeting emotion. Like most people are rarely happy for more than a couple minutes at a time. And I think it's very similar to humor. Where

6:34 If I tell you a very funny joke. You don't laugh for ten years. You laugh for a couple minutes. Humor is a fleeting emotion. And happiness is the same. Most people you have moments of it.

6:44 And you can situate your life so maybe you have more moments of it than others and more than you used to. But it's momentary. And so I think what people actually want to get to, what they aspire to, whether they know it or not, is contentment. Which is not happiness, it's a different emotion. You'd want to get to a point where you're just like I'm I'm good. Like I'm very grateful for everything that I have.

7:03 And I ha have everything that I need. And most of what I want. And I'm totally cool with that. And if there's more to come above this That's the cherry on top. But I'm really cool here. I'm great right here. And I think most people can realize that.

7:14 With a lot of work. And constant upkeep. You can get to that le you can get to that level. At a lower income than you think. I remember talking to Daniel Common about this and he had a distinction between happiness and satisfaction.

7:29 And the distinction was happiness is an emotion. Most people think they want to be happy, but it turns out Um that most people want to be satisfied. Yeah. And satisfaction was more based on the story. that you can tell about your life. So it actually had to do with

7:45 How much money you had, how much status you had, how much you um How many promotions you had. you were able to tell yourself the story that I did. I sacrificed all these things, maybe my relationship with my partner um in order to achieve them. Yeah. And I think it's uh when you daydream about having more success or more money or more stuff. When you day when you do that daydream and it feels good, and you're like, Oh, if only I had that house, if only I had that car, if only I had this income.

8:14 By and large, what you are doing is imagining yourself having those things and being totally content with them. And that's what feels good. That's why the daydream Is fun to do. But By and large, when you imagine that good feeling, it's not happiness.

8:26 You imagine yourself in the house being like this is it, it's all I need. I don't need I this is this is this is the peak of what I need. More often what happens is if you are in that house, you're like, Oh man, look at my neighbor. Like Their yard's a little nicer, isn't it?

8:39 Or like ah like I got this kitchen, but like I saw this picture on Instagram. What if we what if we remodeled it? Like What actually happens is you don't have a level of contentment. And I don't think contentment is a dirty word. It's not a bad thing, particularly overall in the economy. I want to live in a world Where most people particularly smart people wake up every day and they're like, this isn't enough.

8:58 We need more innovation. We gotta start more successful businesses. That is the root of all. Progress. Is that the majority of people wake up every morning and say this is not enough. And the people who are

9:09 monstrously successful. Elon Musk and Jeff Bezos marketing. They wake up still and You, I guarantee you, Elon Musk wakes up every day. Worth four hundred billion dollars saying this isn't enough.

9:20 Not even necessarily financially, although there might be that element, but like The technology is not good enough. The products aren't good enough. We need more, more, more. And so the lack of contentment is the seed of progress. So it's not a bad thing. But you can see in the individual life.

9:35 Where if you feel like there's a hole in your soul. And you just you just not You just feel feel like you haven't done enough, you just want more. That the idea of like, oh, well, if I just keep shoveling money in that hole, then I'll get to a place where I'm good. It's actually very difficult to do that. That makes sense sort of evolutionarily because you think about it, evolution cares about survival of the species, not

9:55 The happiness of the individual. Give a damn how happy you are. Yeah. And the other thing about with evolution is like it doesn't matter how much money I have. What matters is that I have more than you. Doesn't matter how fast I can run, it's gotta run faster than you. And so in a world where we are like lucky enough to live in relative uh prosperity and abundance relative to previous eras. Um I'm gonna measure my success relative to you.

10:17 And the size of my house relative to yours. So even if the size of my house by historical standards is enormous. If my neighbor's is bigger. Then suddenly it feels tiny.

10:26 And there's like there's no end to that. You like you can easily imagine a world where our kids and our grandkids Have technology and abundance that you and I cannot fathom. I mean the most what I think is like the highest odds is that our kids, maybe our grandkids will live in an era which being diagnosed with cancer is not not that big a deal. maybe that's still a type dream, but like it's it's not inconceivable to imagine that.

10:48 And The other thing about that world is you can imagine that they won't feel any better for it. That the the speed at which a luxury becomes a necessity. Is Is is is two seconds.

10:59 And I think that was true for a lot of the uh infectious diseases of of the twentieth century. scarlet fever, yellow fever, polio, all those. If you had told them If you had told a parent in nineteen fifty two that there was a vaccine coming that would just effectively eradicate polio and your k and your grandkids would never have to worry about that. They were said, like you I I can't imagine how happy you're going to be that you don't have to deal with this.

11:20 And we're not, of course. It's not it's just not how People's heads just instantly calibrate. to the standards of what everybody else has. And that is the seed of saying it's not enough. We're very like almost never gonna get to a point where we're like No matter how good the technology is.

11:36 Matter how good the medicine is, no matter how big the houses are, never get to a point where at a broad scale in society, everyone wakes up and says, Oh good, this is enough. I remember when I was seventy and Um I overheard a conversation with my parents and their financial advisor.

11:54 that the military had provided. So both my parents worked for the military full time. And they were trying to decide whether to fix the roof or fix the car. And they couldn't afford to do both. And I remember just thinking in that moment I never want to be in this situation where I have to choose between two necessary things that I have to fix and I have no money.

12:14 And at this point, you know, we weren't I wouldn't say um You know, I never lacked a meal. Uh but I didn't have a lot of sort of extras. And It changed how I think about money from that moment on. I was like, I need to become independent. And for me, independents meant

12:32 I don't need a paycheck in order to fix the roof or fix the car. How do you think about money and independence? I think what you described is a level of independence. But it's independence is always a spectrum. So there is a high level of independence in which you don't need to work anymore. And but I would call that you know, making this up, that's like level thirteen independence. And below that

12:53 Or several different levels of like Even if you have a hundred dollars in the bank. That is that is a higher level of independence than if you had zero. And certainly if you had negative, if you were in debt. And so you realize that literally every dollar that you save. is a little claim check on your future that you control that somebody else doesn't.

13:10 I think it's it's an important mindset like redefining independents like that, that it's on a spectrum and every single dollar is an independent claim check. For me, I've always viewed it like I've always been a big saver. My whole career, and I've always viewed it as not saving money. For delayed gratification.

13:25 I viewed it as purchasing independence. For which I get value out of right now, today. There's nothing delayed about saving this money because I like waking up tomorrow morning and being like, I I there there's a big cushion here. And so not if, but when.

13:38 something bad happens in my life, whatever it is, whether it's a personal life or the macroeconomy or you know Yeah, pandemics, whatever it might be. Like there's there there's a big gap. There's a a wide channel that of outcomes that I can endure. And The less independent, the less savings, the more debt you have, the narrower that channel of endurance becomes.

13:58 And so within that channel is like all the ups and downs of life, individual and macro. And the wider the channel is, the more that you can endure. And so much about compound interest, not just with money, but with relationships and careers and friendships. comes down to what can you endure. How much how many unknowns and the depths of those unknowns can you endure and survive?

14:18 And so much I wrote this in Psychology Money. If you have to serve Like sum up. Doing well financially in one word. I think it's survival. That's true in your career. That's true for savings. That's true for investing. Absolutely.

14:30 It's just surviving. It's just what can you endure? What can you put up with? And when you view it like that. You realize that like every dollar that you save is a claim check of independence that will serve you, not just in the future, but today. Isidor Sharp, the founder of Four Seasons, has this excellent quote, which is excellence is the capacity to take pain. Yeah. And

14:48 When we think of that, our minds just instinctively go to physical pain, but we don't think of psychological pain, we don't think of financial Uh Ups and downs and being able to just survive because you can't compound if you don't survive. Yeah.

15:03 Um And then the other thing about compounding, I think people misunderstand is that All the advantages come at the end. Yeah. And not at the beginning. They're very slow at the beginning, but it's that last double. That makes a huge difference. Yeah. I mean, in terms of the dollars accumulated, that's true. So I wrote about this in psychology money, 99% of Warren Buffett's net worth was accumulated after his sixty fifth birthday. That's just how compounding works. The numbers get nuts at the end.

15:29 I think what can be true psychologically though, it's just like The psychology of doubling your net worth. No, I I I think the truth is I felt the richest I ever have. When I had like A thousand dollars in the bank.

15:42 When I was a teen, I remember just being like that's like I can't even Fathom. That much. Because the gap between You know, yeah, a year earlier I'd probably never had more than twenty dollars in my bank, and I have a thousand, like what? Can't even fathom that much money.

15:55 And so like psychologically, it's just the gap between this is true for a lot of things. You get pleasure out of contrast. It's just how much what do you have now and what are you doing now relative to what you were doing before? And so I write about in the art of spending money, I know a guy who has a has a private chef and he's basically getting Michelin star meals, three meals a day. And it's easy for me and you to look at that and being like

16:17 That is amazing. What a life. Like that is nuts. guarantee you he does not feel that much from it because he has no contrast. He he's not eating taco, he's not eating stale bread for breakfast the day before. And so when everything is great, nothing feels great. It's all what you want is contrast, contrast, contrast.

16:35 And so I I think about that a lot in terms of like It's not necessarily how much you have, it's just the contrast to what you have before. related to that is that people are very psychologically uh triggered by downgrades. Because you're still contrasting it to what you used.

16:50 We used to have. And everyone has probably heard the studies of like, what would you rather have? Would you rather have a net worth of a million dollars when you used to have two million? Or would you rather have a net worth of five hundred thousand when you used to have two hundred thousand? And

17:03 Psychologically. Most people would rather have the former. Like that the contrast of being like I used to have two and now I only have one. That leaves you feeling much poorer. than if you had five hundred, but that's your all time high.

17:16 And so I think people people just very sensitive to the psychology of downgrades. So how do you deal with that when you have a thousand dollars, that's your baseline. This is the most I've ever had, but now all of a sudden that's my contrast. That's the point of which that's the reference point for how I think about all future bank account balances. Part of this is like The reason that there's opportunity in the economy.

17:37 is because the market, the world, the free market is gonna make you pay a price. to to to get something good. It's not just gonna hand you wealth for free. You have to do something for it. And by and large, what you have to do in capitalism is put up with A never ending chain of uncertainty. and volatility and things you didn't see coming.

17:55 And so it's never fun to deal with that. A recession, a job loss, or stock market goes down thirty percent. It's never it's not fun, but that's the cost of admission for doing it. And I think once you view it as the cost of admission. And not a punishment for what you're doing. It doesn't necessarily make it more palatable.

18:12 But it it makes it a little bit more easier to contextualize of like yes. The market w goes you know goes down twenty percent. You're like, ah, this hurts. It sucks. And it does. But you're like this is why I'm going to do well over time, is because I'm willing to put up with and endure the uh the appetite for pain, the the the capacity to endure pain. Is everything. Now

18:32 I think it was Nassim Talent talks about everyone has their uncle. points where at some point you're gonna cry, Uncle. At some point you're gonna say it's too much. I can't, I can't handle it anymore. Everybody has that level somewhere. And um but I think it's actually difficult to know where that is. looking ahead, looking forward. I think very few people know their tolerance for pain.

18:51 looking, just trying to be like perspective about it. I think you have to experience it. in the trenches, so to speak, before you actually know how you're gonna feel. I'm I d I went through this

19:02 With Covet. of like I I'm someone who wrote about The frequency of volatility. How to think about the psychology of volatility. And Covid March two thousand nine.

19:11 A lot of it because it was not just a stock market crisis, it was not even an economic crisis, it was a health emergency and like my kids' schools were shut down and whatnot. Like I and and of you know billions of other people at that point. Had like sleepless nights of just waking up to M being like Man, what's What's gonna happen here?

19:28 And so it's one thing to say I will be greedy when others are fearful. It's way different to actually do it. And most people, if you ask them the question. How would you feel psychologically right now? If the stock market fell fifty percent.

19:41 In that exercise, what they do is they imagine a world where everything is exactly the same as it is today, except stocks are half the price. Yeah. And in that context, you're like, that's great, it's wonderful. But the reason that there is volatility is because there is something going on in the world. For which nobody knows what's gonna happen next. That probably nobody saw coming.

20:00 that probably is a legitimate threat to you and your family's well being, if not your your health well being and whatnot. And in that context, it's much more difficult. to be like, oh, take the long term and buy. You can do it. The good people do it. The good investors do it. But it's much easier said than done. You're in meetings all day. You're trying to stay present, but you're also worried you'll forget the decision, the action item, the important next step.

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20:56 Heterola dot AI slash shame. And get three months free with the code Shane. That's granola dot AI slash shane. I remember talking to one of the world's uh more successful investors.

21:11 A name everybody would recognize. Uh around twenty twelve, twenty thirteen. And the idea of Buffett and how uh we handled the financial crisis came up. And he said all the

21:24 You know, I'm paraphrasing here, but he's like basically all the buffet wannabees sat on the sidelines. Yeah. Yeah. And they've been waiting for this moment and they told their investors about it. They've written about it. And then all of a sudden it happened and they were paralyzed. Ten percent of them were able to to accomplish it. But that's why it should be that way. It should not be the case where everyone who reads the intelligent investor can go out and exploit the exploit the deepest opportunities. Of course it's hard. And I use this analogy a lot of like What percentage of college athletes

21:50 make it to the MBA, let's say. I I don't know the number, but I bet it's like I bet it's like one percent. maybe three percent, something like that. And people are like, Yeah, it's how it should work. Like there's no world in which everyone who wants to be a pro basketball player can do it. It's supposed to be the tipity top of the of the of the best. And so same in investing. Like there should not be a world in which every

22:09 Ambitious stock picker. Can be the market. Of of of course whenever you hear the statistics about ninety five percent of mutual funds underperform their benchmark. I'm like, Yeah, w what would you expect? Do you expect it to be a hundred percent like everyone who tries just prints money? Of course it's hard.

22:24 And so it's a lot of that, but of course, in that situation, everybody thinks part of the one percent who can do it. But it shouldn't surprise anyone that very few people can. For most people, one of their largest purchases is their house. When does it make sense to purchase a house and when doesn't it make sense to purchase a house? It makes sense if it's the right neighborhood for you and your family.

22:46 where you want to live for a long period of time. And w is within reason of your household budget. Now that's a completely different topic of what percentage it should be. That's that's a different thing. But You should not do it. Because you have even if you don't define it like this in your head, because you have some level of FOMO. of man housing prices have gone up a lot and like oh that house looks so nice and things would be and we can't really afford it.

23:08 Oh, it's gonna be a huge stretch. But oh, life will be so much better in there. That's the worst reason to own a house. Part of this that I have a lot of empathy for. And I think actually explains a lot of the fertility crisis in the Western world. is that most parents

23:21 Even if they don't actually vocalize us. Wanna check a couple boxes before they have a child, the first child. One of the biggest one is own a house. And as housing becomes more unaffordable. All over the Western world. It's like this in the UK, it's like this in Canada, it's like this in Australia.

23:35 The more unaffordable it gets. The more you're gonna have good people with good jobs and solid marriages, and they're 28, 29, nine years old, and in any other era would start building a family start having a family. And today they say, No, I you know I I really want the stability. And the feeling of having made it into adulthood of owning a house before I do that.

23:54 And in the absence of that, it causes like tremendous problems. So housing, affordable housing, I think is the single biggest social problem. Certainly in America, probably in Canada right now. Because so many other social problems that might seem bigger than that. or downstream of housing. A lot of the drug problem.

24:10 The drug crisis. Is downstream from unaffordable housing. The fertility crisis is downstream from unaffordable housing. The uh the degradation of politics.

24:20 is downstream from affordable housing because if you don't feel like you're invested in your community Or you're invested in your country, it's much easier to be like, burn the place down. Who cares if politics is melting down? You're not invested in it. You're kinda transient in the system. You can move to another city. But as a homeowner myself, I know that like I care deeply about local politics. I care deeply about the local parks and the schools. Like I am very invested in this community.

24:44 But if you're not You don't really care. And so I think a lot of what's going on in politics can be Tied to on affordable housing.

24:52 Tucker Carlson, who I don't often agree with said something I thought was very profound and true recently. He said like a good I'm paraphrasing it, but he said, A good proxy for the health of a country. Is whether or not A twenty eight year old.

25:03 Can purchase a house. And I was like, that's great. That's a very good rule of thumb for how well things are going. And of course people know in US and Canada and you're kidding like by and large you can't. Right now. Yeah, it's really difficult. It's something that

25:15 That needs to be solved on multiple levels, right? Like Teachers should be able to live in the neighborhood that they teach in. Firefighters should be able to live in the neighborhood they teach in. Somebody working full time at I think, you know, even younger than twenty eight, you know, twenty four, twenty five. Should be able to support a a mortgage and you know, uh

25:35 I would love to See that problem solved. What it what should be so aggravating about this and why this should be like a pitchforks and torches issue. Is that I don't think it's an oversimplification. To say the problem is

25:49 A very easy to solve and B is literally just a choice. Yeah. That virtually all of The reason that housing is so unaffordable is because we don't build enough. And the reason we don't build enough is zoning. I don't think that's an oversimplification. We there is plenty of land, there's plenty of capital, there's plenty of demand to get this done.

26:05 And there are examples of cities that do build. That are very large, dense cities that have very affordable housing. Tokyo. Gigantic city. Bigger than the city you and I are in right now, in New York. Very affordable housing.

26:17 Relatively, because they build, they build and build and build and build. And the fact that we don't, especially relative to previous generations. If you went back to the nineteen fifties and sixties in America You would have seen construction. Everywhere. Yeah. Everywhere you look, there would have been a new community. And because of that, we added supply. Housing was relatively affordable.

26:34 And We don't anymore, and it's a choice. It's It it it's cynical to say that people want the ch that people want unaffordable housing. It is a choice to not build as much as we need.

26:45 Well, there's a weird incentive because anybody who owns a home When you think of affordability It's like, how does that affect my equity and my if house prices go down 10% and we're we're leveraged here, right? So A ten percent drawdown in A house price might wipe out seventy five percent of my equity. I think that is flawed thinking too.

27:05 I'll tell you why. Let's say just keep the number simple. You buy a house for a hundred thousand. Let's say one million, make it more more reason. You buy a house for a million bucks. And the price doubles. Right. In your mind, you're like, I just made a million dollars. Yeah.

27:16 But no, because if you sell that house for two million You need to buy another house to live in. And the next house you're gonna buy The price also doubled in the last two years. And so it's this fandom kind of thing where it's like the equity that you build isn't really wealth.

27:29 Because you when you sell that house, you probably have to buy another one. That went up in value just as much. And unless you are moving to a cheaper city, which of course that happens. you're not getting you're not getting any benefit out of that. I my my wife and I experienced this in in where we live uh in the last year.

27:44 The house that we lived in. Previously doubled in four years. Which is not like shouldn't happen, but it did. House doubled we live in and then we sold it about a year ago, bought a new house. And the new house that we bought

27:56 was also we bought it for twice as much as it would have sold for four years before. So do we actually make money on that? Like it it didn't really help us that much. And if we lived in a world where home prices never went up.

28:08 Uh You would of course have a lot of crowing from homeowners who'd be like, I used to build equity and now I don't. But the truth is is that like They're actually just as well off because the homes that they could buy if they sold

28:21 Now cost less as well. I've seen reports, at least in Canada, that thirty percent of the price of a new home is basically government fees. I believe it. And it's insane, right? Slowing things down. Anyway, we we can get off this, but Um I wanna switch to

28:38 How exactly do you invest your money? Walk me through step by step. Well, it's uh it's not gonna be a long conversation'cause it's easy I dollar cost average into index funds. I hope to own them for fifty years. And that's it. My entire net worth is a house.

28:53 Cash. Vanguard index funds. And shares a Marquel where I'm on the board of directors. And that's it. And I don't. I don't think it needs necessarily to be more complicated than that.

29:03 I think it is very intuitive in finance to be like I will do the best. If it's l if my net worth looks like a rude Goldberg machine. And it's just so complicated and there's so many levers and strategies in this. And it's not I don't discount that smart people can do well financially with complicated transactions.

29:22 I just don't think it's necessary at all. And maybe there's an analogy to health in this. There are the well known biohackers. out there. who are just trying they view their body as a Rube Goldberg machine and they're like, I gotta maximize this and do this and take these pills and this diet, whatnot.

29:37 I don't think that's necessarily bad. But without being any m any m bit of a health expert. And all myself. I'm like, look. If you just need a balanced diet. And sleep eight hours.

29:47 And exercise a couple times a week. That's pr that's probably good enough. That's probably getting you ninety or ninety five percent of the way, or maybe even a hundred percent of the way. to the results that the biohacker is going to get. I think I think that's by and large true. And I view finances very similarly, where

30:01 Um my just painfully simple finances. I bet over the course of a lifetime. Not in any given year, but over a lifetime, if you compared it to someone whose finances were very complicated. And had all kinds of transactions. Not only would I be likely to match those

30:18 But probably exceed them. And I did it with virtually zero effort. And that's why I do it. I don't recommend other people do it. It fits my personality. And it allows me to focus on the variable that I want to, which is endurance. The simpler it is.

30:30 The easier it is, I think the higher the odds. that I'll just I can just stay with it. Where's if it was very complicated. I might get to a point in the economy or my career or my cognitive capacity where like I can't keep it going. And so I think the higher the odds that I can just leave it alone for fifty years.

30:46 the higher the odds that you will actually maximize wealth doing it. I love that that thinking. Walk me through a hundred dollars comes into your house. How does it get allocated? I do a lot of mental accounting, by which I mean of like Money is fungible. One dollar is is the same as any other dollar. But I have a lot of mental accounting where in my in my own life, you know, I I sell books, I speak at conferences, I do some some other stuff like that.

31:08 And it's very much like in my head, I'm like, Okay. The book money goes here. The speaking money goes here. I spend this and that. I have a lot of like mental accounting that is not really rational. But it's just how I how I tend to think about it. And so

31:21 I've I've saved all my book money. I've now I haven't spent a single penny of the money that I've made from books. And Again, I I don't view that as delayed gratification. It's made me financially independent. And in a way that I get value from today. And so that's that's really helpful. My wife and I, this would have been true. Ten years ago and it's true today.

31:40 that my wife and I buy anything we want. But particularly ten years ago, we didn't want that much. We've loosened up a little bit now that we have kids and like and have, you know, a little more more experience with life. But Um there's there's really no budget.

31:53 There's no but I've been like that since I was a teenager. I never found it hard to save money. It was always just seemed like the the the obvious thing to do, I guess. Where have you loosened up the most? Probably our house. We have a we have a cool house we bought a year ago. And it's what's great is that

32:08 I work from home. My wife is is at home. And so we're there ninety nine percent of that. That is the core of our life. Like you might as well enjoy it. And also what I think is great about the house is that Um

32:20 By and large, other people don't see it. It's not a car that I'm showing off around town. It's not clothes that I want people to notice when I'm at the airport. It's like this is just for us. This is internal benchmark. Like I enjoy this. And I I love the feeling of like I'm an earlier I wake up three hours before my wife and kids. Which I really value that in my life too.

32:37 And I love coming downstairs alone by myself in the dark. And sitting on the couch with a cup of coffee and just looking around being like This is cool. I like this. But what's important is that like No one else sees me do that.

32:50 I'm not I'm not trying I'm not putting on a show for strangers. It's not a status thing. It's not a status thing. It is total internal benchmark. And so even if we have You know. I don't want to say overinvest it in that, but I feel like that that's the one thing where like, oh, this is worth it for us. Totally worth it to spend a lot of money here. I was talking to Barry Diller a few weeks ago and he mentioned something about housing that stuck with me and he said

33:11 You know, growing up I looked at all these houses and Uh, he said the inside is rarely as beautiful as the outside. Yeah. Because the outside you want stranger you want people to drive bass and pie and be like, Oh, look at that Person. I think it's true that you know

33:25 How many people have Have gardeners. Landscers? Relative to how many people have like interior. designers or whatnot.

33:32 And I I I would venture we're we're talking first world problems here, of course, but I would venture that many more people have landscapers, part of which because they they don't want to get dirty, but part of which is like I think I think at whether you know it or not consciously, you want people, including strangers, to drive by and be like, Oh, that's a nice house. Wonder who lives there. But the inside of your house might be a dump. At least in relative terms. Yeah. Because the internal stuff that you can't like you you're you you're you are more external benchmark f focused than others. I think that that's probably right. One of the other ways to interpret that, and I think

34:04 Uh, the way that I went when I heard it at first was like Oh, there's marital problems, there's problems with the kids, there's like the the you know these people who we We grow up going like I want to live in that house and I want that life and If you

34:18 opened that door and walked into that life, you know, it's kids who don't talk to parents. Yeah. Yeah. I remember this was a very specific example. Uh P Diddy, who has his own Host of of legal issues and and and moral issues. Of course, everyone knows them. As part of his criminal process a couple years ago.

34:36 The police released pictures of the inside of his house. I think it was his house in LA. It may have been Miami though. And um This is P Diddy's house, so on the outside it is a frickin' mansion. as you would expect.

34:47 The inside of the house where the pictures were released, these crime scene photos. Place is a dump. Please is a dump. Oh god. And that was so interesting. I was like, I think from the outside particularly a celebrity like that is like The people who drive by are going to see a mansion. But inside, when it's just me and the kids, and well, I'm just like, who cares? It's a dump. I was I I thought that was very interesting.

35:08 If we divide life into four major eras, the twenties, thirties, forties, and fifties. How should people think about acquiring and spending money in those eras. Think it's so different for everybody because a lot of people find their way when they're fourteen.

35:26 And other people find it when they're forty, if ever. So I I I I hesitate to give like a formula for it, but I I think it tends to broadly be true in a grey way, not in a black and white way, that like probably age birth to twenty, you're forming an identity. You're just trying to figure out Who you are, and you're trying to make sense of how you're wired and whatnot. You're just figuring out your identity.

35:48 Twenty to thirty. I think by and large you are learning a skill. Hopefully that that again, this is grey. This is this is this is a a a shade of gray here. You're learning a skill. In your thirties, you can put that skill to work. And in your forties and fifties, hopefully you can really exploit that skill and and make some money doing it.

36:05 I think as a very broad Broad stroke. Formula for life. That can be great. Now I I I can think of a million examples of people who did not follow that path and ended up great.

36:16 And ended up happy. And so th that's not but I think in general that tends to be true. I think it's it's hard to meet someone who is very successful. Didn't didn't have something like that. Once in a while you'll see find someone who again found their way when they were a teenager. And we're making a fortune when there are twenty three. And could basically retire at twenty eight. Like those people exist.

36:35 I think it's it's very difficult to know who you are. before you are uh you know, I hesitate to say twenty five, thirty, thirty five. Someone was asking me about this the other day about what do I think of Gen Z? 'Cause there was so much written about Gen Z is

36:49 Uh a drift. and wayward and lacks the work ethic and whatnot. Th th those articles and commentaries exist everywhere. And it reminded me, I was like, it it seems like it was yesterday that our gener my generation, the millennials Everyone was saying that about us fifteen years ago. the millennials are adrift, they don't have the work ethic, they don't have the values that

37:07 The baby boomers and they did before them. And if you go back to the 1970s, they said the exact same thing about the baby boomers. They're adrift, they don't have the work ethic, they don't have the values. Go back to the thirties. And they said the exact same about What we now know as the greatest generation. They don't have the morals, they don't have the work ethic, they're adrift.

37:24 I think the truth is no matter the generation No generation handles their twenties with a lot of Grace and dignity. It's a very difficult period because you're still trying to figure out who you are. You are technically an adult. You are technically on your own.

37:37 And kind of you know. out of the cradle and trying to figure yourself out. But very few people do. And I think that's true at a generational level, which is why it is so easy. And almost inevitable that

37:47 The older generation criticizes whoever the current crop of twenty year olds are. I remember in my twenties how I thought about things financially, uh I was married at the time. And we left off one salary. Yeah. And that was our way of like

38:03 'Cause you go from making no money and, you know, like scrounging in the garbage basically for food at the student union building. Um, to sort of like, Oh, you're getting a paycheck every two weeks. This is insane, you know? And so we were like, Oh, we'll just live off one paycheck and we'll save the other paycheck. And then the thinking was if we do our twenties right. It just sets up. The next

38:26 Fifty year. And By doing it right, we were totally different than All of our friends. Yeah. Um so they were getting houses and pools, and like we're in a one bedroom condo. You know, barely scraping by on one salary. We're not going on vacation. We're not doing all these other but we never felt like we were missing things with all these other people because

38:46 You know, in our heads we just we're like, Oh, they're living paycheck to paycheck and We don't have nearly as as nice of a life as they do. But like if we can maintain this for a decade. Then all of a sudden our thirties become a little bit easier. forties become easier. And then as you you sort of age, you start thinking about money differently, right? And in your

39:08 forties and fifties, you're like, Oh, I need to retire. Like How do I take care of my parents? Financially, and you know, how do I pay off the house? How do I take care of my parents? How do I how do you see those milestones like affecting people? I told the story once before, but I hadn't really thought about it very much. I I uh I grew up with a guy. I worked with a guy. I was probably Uh

39:31 eighteen or nineteen, and he was probably uh twenty eight, let's say. So he's a little bit older than me. I worked with him at a at at a ski resort. And uh we we worked in the in the ski rental shop together. His name is Kip Gar, really cool guy. And Kip at the time I knew when we worked together he had twenty five thousand dollars in credit card debt. from ski trips that he had taken. He'd skied in Europe and he skied all of South America and whatnot. He And at the time I was like, twenty five grand in credit card debt, you are a maniac.

39:57 You're not a maniac, you're an idiot. And I gave him so much grief about it. And I just thought I did it was almost on like a daily basis. I'm like, you are insane. I can't fathom it. And the very sad punchline here is Kip died in a ski accident when he was thirty, thirty two, something like that.

40:14 And it was amazing the speed at which in my head I was like I'm so glad you took those trips, man. I'm so glad you lived the life you did. Before you tragically left us so young. And I thought about that a lot. And obviously, no one should live their life thinking they're they're they're gonna die at thirty two or whatever it might be.

40:32 It's not an appropriate way to live. But I I I think of a lot about like the question you should ask is If you were on your deathbed. Mm.

40:40 Or facing down the barrel of death. This is a terrible thing to talk about, but it's but it's a fine thing to talk about. What would you regret? What what would you look back on? Kip died in a ski accident. It was like a mountaineering accident. He was he was hiking up

40:54 The trail is hit by a massive avalanche. And I uh I I I I wonder in that moment if he had a a couple seconds of Realizing he was about to die. And his life flashes before his eyes. And I imagine just knowing him, the life he lived, if his life flashed before his eyes, he was probably like,

41:10 Fuck. I did it. Like I did some cool things. And so like with the so so what are you gonna regret? And I I've been a big saver. My whole life, my whole adult life.

41:20 And if I were in that situation tomorrow, heaven forbid. I would not have the regrets for the trips I didn't take. And whatnot, because I would take so much pleasure knowing that because I say my wife and kids are gonna be okay. Nothing would matter more to me than that. And I would massively regret it. If I was staring down that barrel, so to speak.

41:37 Knowing that not only am I gone, but my wife and kids are s are in in trouble now. Because I'm that would that would leave me just Overwhelmed with regrets. So it's never as simple as being like live for today or say for tomorrow. It's always just what are you likely to regret at some point in the future? It could be a year from now, it can be on your deathbed seventy years from now, whatever it is.

41:57 Always thinking about your capacity for regret, what you are likely to regret. And my regret's probably different than yours. Very different from mine was from Kip's. And so it's I think that's that that's how I think about it. You have to think constantly about what you're likely to regret in the future. What advice would you give to your younger self about spending money?

42:16 Someone asked me about this recently and I thought it was interesting. Let's go back to when I was nineteen. And I think they we were all, you know, at that age. Alright. I was a saver. But at nineteen it meant like saving a hundred bucks was like a a feat.

42:28 That was a hero, like a hundred bucks. Yeah. If I save a thousand bucks, like wow, that was a that's crazy. And let's say I don't I don't know what the numbers are, but let's say I because I invested that. That a hundred dollars is now worth five hundred. It's probably something like that with what the market's done. Five hundred dollars today does not mean that that much to me.

42:44 It's not that big a deal. So was it worth it? Or if I had a time machine, should nineteen year old Morgan have Taking his friends out to dinner with that hundred dollars. versus investing it into amount of money that means nothing to me today. And my response was I don't think that's the right way to think about it, but because

42:59 I think it's impossible. to have a YOLO. Paycheck to paycheck mentality. Young in your young years. And then assume that you're gonna flip a switch when you're thirty five and become a saver.

43:10 And so I think the reason that I've had good financial habits In my mind, at least. Um Through today. It's because I started them at nineteen. Like the it's not that the that the hundred dollars turned into five hundred.

43:21 It's that the habits I formed in that era. brought me through today and I could not have changed the habits when I turned thirty five. It just doesn't work like that. And so I that's why part of why I don't have a lot of regret for saving money that was a huge amount to me back then that has grown to an completely insignificant amount to me today. It it was the habits that I formed back then that that made all the difference.

43:42 I think you're paying for dinner next time. I'll do it. It's okay. I think you paid last time, so I probably owe you. Uh You're highly affluent and

43:51 How do you think about raising kids with money? In terms of what are the Like What do you do? What do you try to avoid? I had this conversation with someone last week.

44:02 And um He has first generation immigrant parents. His parents moved here. America. m move to America and work their tails off to support their children. including this in the sky.

44:13 And now he has a daughter. And he said, Morgan, I worry that she's Spoiled. Certainly relative to the life that he had when he was a kid. You know, she has this and she has that and she can buy these toys and whatnot, and she's spoiled.

44:25 He said, What do I what do I do about that? And I said I bet you if we were talking to your parents right now. They would say That was The goal.

44:33 The goal the reason that they moved to America and work their tails off is so that their grandchild would look spoiled by comparison. And so there's part of me when I completely understand and I feel it as well. The urge to not spoil my kids. I want them to be Hard working.

44:48 Independent. understand the value of a dollar. Of course I want that. You want that. We all do. I think there's also something to be said that the goal The purpose of all of this. Is that so?

44:58 Myself in the future. And my kids and my grandkids and my grandgrandkids We'll live in a world that by today's standards appears spoiled. That's the goal, isn't it? Like, wouldn't it be a failure if our great grandkids lived the exact same life that we do today?

45:11 And have to work just as hard? Work the same hours? That sucks. And that's always that's always been true. If you look at a middle class ordinary American today N not someone who's super affluent.

45:23 Middle class American. By the standards of nineteen hundred, let's say. They are spoiled rotten. They are absolutely spoiled rotten. And if the person in the nineteen hundreds had a time machine to come today, they wouldn't stop laughing at how spoiled this person was. And how m trivial their problems were.

45:39 And But again, like that's the point. The point is that we have innovation and technology over time. So life becomes a little bit easier. It's always the case that to the previous generation that had a harder It looks the f the the phrase you use is spoiled. But I think what's actually happening is progress. And so but now I I understand that you want your kids to be grateful.

45:58 You want there to be hard, you know, hard working and whatnot? But Compare how people react when they get the flu. Today. To how to the standards of a hundred and fifty years ago where it's like

46:08 You had eight kids and seven of them died of infectious disease before their fifth birthday or whatever it was. Like oh boo hoo, you got the flu, you got a headache for a day. But that's not how we think about it. It it hurts. It's So it's always the case that the progress of a generation appears spoiled to one, even if it's true progress that we have. Now I want my kids

46:26 I think at a broad Formula. The money that I have to protect within limitations my ch children's downsides.

46:37 I don't ever want them to just collapse on their face and they can't work their way out in life. I want to be there too as a somewhat of a safety net. But I don't want to be a fuel. I don't just want to give them money and be like, Oh, lucky you.

46:49 You have s your parents made a little bit of money, we're just gonna give it to you now. I think that's by and large not the right way to do it. And I think that's like in I think inadvertently my parents did this. Of it was unspoken. But I think I intuitively knew. When I was eighteen.

47:02 That if I fell on my face, they would be there to catch me. Even if it was unspoken. But I also knew clear as day that they were not just gonna write me a check. Like that was the completely out of the question. But because of that, I think I was able to enter adulthood with a little bit more confidence.

47:15 knowing they're like, hey, I'm gonna take a risk and move to this new city and do this this new thing, but like if it doesn't work out I'm I'm I'm not gonna be homeless. That was that was that was a good way to do it. And so teaching your kids to be Self sufficient, even if their lifestyle appears spoiled by today's standards, they become self sufficient. They can keep it going on their own.

47:32 Is their lifestyle today is that the contrast point so like whatever life they're living with you in the home growing up? That becomes their reference point. Right. Exactly. I you know, my wife and I had this experience like a year or two ago where we were thinking about buying a new car. One of which one of the options that we could buy was a pretty nice car. And I had this thing of like, let's say that our two kids twenty years from now.

47:55 Want to be kindergarten teachers. And because of that, the car that they might be able to afford is a is a Honda Civic or whatever. You know, a more much more modest car. Have I ruined their adulthood to some degree? Because I set their expectations.

48:08 That in childhood, mom and dad drove this. But now as when I'm an adult, we gotta drive this. I think there's s just such an inherent natural thing of like Parents, I I I I wanna raise kids who are gonna do better. than than we did, not just financially, but in many aspects of life.

48:23 And I think the children want to have a generational growth pattern as well. They want to look back and be like, man. I grew up Here?

48:30 But now as an adult, I'm here. Like amazing. Feels great to surpass your parents. This is the first generation where they think that might not be the case. I think they're probably wrong about that in general. Of course, there's gonna be lots of examples where that was the case, but I think they tend to I think I I I I I I would bet that they would be wrong about that. Now I think it is true that Even if statistically and analytically my kids will be living a better life than than we are, particularly for things like medicine.

48:56 Um I think by comparison they won't they they won't appreciate it in greater degrees than we didn't appreciate our progress because of social media. Yeah. Because they have only known an era when which Not just there are some, but there are literally tens of hundreds of millions of people on Instagram who appear to be Richer, happier, smarter, more successful than they are.

49:17 You can so imagine a world in which even if you are living like a Saudi prince fifty years from now. Someone online's doing it better. And so you're sitting there in your gold palace, so to speak. Um feeling feeling down about yourself.

49:29 And so you you can easily imagine a world which ex the the growth rate of expectations just becomes exponential because of social media. It's Yeah, there's so many negative byproducts to that. I mean I think, you know, it used to be our reference point was our street. Yeah. Uh our little community, and maybe Joe got a new car or bike or something. Yeah. Shane got a swimming pool kind of thing. And now you pop open Instagram and Joe's got a golf stream.

49:56 And and and Jane's got a Bugatti. Kind of thing. Or Jane has a beautiful smiling family. of cute kids in their photo session. without seeing the screams and the tantrums that took place before it kind of thing. It's just everyone has a very inflated sense of other people. And I do this too. I post

50:12 cute pictures of my kids online. I don't pit I don't post tantrums. I don't post fights. Uh, and so so it's like everyone is putting on an act, so to speak, in an innocent way, but in a very real way. Yeah, you you're camouflaging different parts of your life. Absolutely. Now you go once in a while some people I've I I do follow a couple of people who are like I think they wanna post their wards.

50:32 So to speak. They they want to post the downside and it's very refreshing. People love Like the the saying Misery loves company. People love hearing. That you're not the only one suffering, that other people are going through the fights, the stresses, the anxieties, the doubts that you are as well. Like it's a very comforting thing to hear.

50:49 Yeah, I mean we talked earlier about the Stephen Bartlett interview I did that We didn't err'cause it was so bad. Yeah. And it was my my failure. uh and not Steve's and I posted that publicly. Yeah brave of you. And I remember just being petrified, but I was like Піл онлисіс. Like so much of what people see is like

51:09 Oh, the book's doing well, the podcast's doing well, the newsletter's doing well, like oh Shane must be And I remember like that was a hard few days for me after that. I remember when you posted that. I remember being like Good for you, man. Like the response that I had as an outsider watching that was not like, Oh, look at Shayne, this clown, he's stumbled on stage. That's now the the opposite. The response I had is like, Man, good for you, because I've had a lot of failures and Good to know that I'm not alone in that.

51:36 Of of all the I wrote four four thousand blog posts over my career. And the one that meant the most to me by far. It was a post I wrote in twenty seventeen. It's called Overcoming Your Demons. Where I wrote about I grew up with a very severe stutter. I really struggled to speak.

51:50 Until my honestly early thirties. Really had a hard time. Um, and if if you go back to my childhood, I could I I could barely speak. It was it was very difficult for me to get a sentence out. It was severe stutter. And and I wrote about that process. And

52:05 In part how I how I overcame it. And what not? And I was really hesitant to post it. A because I it felt like a A look at me post.

52:13 And it felt like even though this wasn't the intention, it felt like a fishing for sympathy post. But I think one of the points that I made in the post was like Everyone's got their demons. And you usually don't know about it. Actually a lot of people stutter.

52:27 But you usually don't know about it because most stutterers just don't speak that much. So I guarantee you you have a friend or a co worker who you think is just quiet. And and then they're not quiet. They just don't want to speak because they struggle to speak. And so that's an example of like a lot of people have demons that you just don't know about. And everyone has their own version of that. And people love it.

52:45 when you expose your own because they it makes them feel less alone. Well that's what happened. I got That I've rarely been texted or uh contacted so much about host that I was about that and it it wasn't

52:59 Sort of like I was worried people would think I'm fishing for sympathy or Uh, but it was more like oh my God, this thing happened to me last week too. I totally bombed this. Yeah. And then all of a sudden people didn't feel alone. I mean, one of the most common feelings is Everyone else is crushing is crushing it in life. Yeah. And I'm struggling. Because all you can see is they're outside. You can see

53:20 Basically the act that they want you to see. But you are extremely aw you're you are aware of nothing more than the thoughts that are running through your head, the doubts, the anxieties, the worries that The things that didn't get exposed. I think if you could see inside of everyone's head. And see their thoughts. Um you would see that people are

53:38 A hundred times more anxious than you assumed. They're a hundred times funnier than you assumed. They're a hundred times more doubtful and depressed than you assumed, like. I think in either direction, positive and negative, you would realize that the range of emotions is a hundred times greater than you think because Mm most of the time.

53:56 What people are showing you is what they want you to see. It's the performance. How do you think about inheritance? I like the idea. Not first proposed, but I think clarified in recent times by Bill Perkins, who wrote the book Die Wa Zero. Who's like, if you're if you are going to give your kids money, and I know this might a little bit contradict what we just previously talked about, if you are gonna give your kids money,

54:17 Give it to them when they need it. Which is probably their thirties and forties when they're starting to build a family of their own. The idea of I'm gonna wait, I'm gonna make you wait until I die. At which time you might be seventy, and then you can have all of it. Uh is is a is is a weird philosophy. It's the most common philosophy, but it's kind of a weird philosophy where

54:35 And I I will acknowledge again that this can and I I I still don't know what my wife and I are gonna do with our kids. But if you can help them buy a house when they're thirty. That is gonna give them um much greater boost in life. than if they get a million dollars when they're seventy five after you die. And so I think that's

54:52 That's that's a lot of it. There's a Charlie Munger quote where one of his very wealthy friends comes and says, Charlie If I leave all of my money to my kids. Is that gonna ruin their ambition? And Charlie says, Yes, of course it will. But you have to do it anyways.

55:06 And the friend says, Like, why why do I have to do it? Charlie says, Because if you don't, they will hate you. And I think there is there's some truth to that, not just for the billionaire families, but I think there's there's some truth to that too. That I think there can be a lot of animosity, and I understand the animosity. of a forty year old working their butt off.

55:22 and struggling living paycheck to paycheck while their parents are Just to make up an example, you know, retired in Florida playing golf every day. I understand why that creates a little bit of Of ill feelings. And the parents basically be like, Oh well, well one day this is gonna be yours. And the kid being like, I I don't like I I would appreciate if that day were now.

55:40 very complicated topic. There's I don't think there's any formula for doing it right, but that's I I I and I think in general I like that philosophy. What can people learn from the Vanderbilts? So the Vanderbilt of all the Robert Barron families. Who lived not far from where you and I are recording right now. I think the the Carnegie and the Rockefellers did a very good job at using their wealth to both

56:01 give themselves a good life and to benefit society. Not perfect, but they did a pretty good job. Given the sums of money that they had. Uh, and the Rockf the the Rockefellers still have a lot of wealth today, have billions of wealth today. And Every library, every c every city in America has a Carnegie library and Carnegie Hall, and whatnot. Like they that still exists. The Vanderbilt, I think, did the worst by far.

56:21 And um It is hard to imagine other of another family who had so much money. Who had the equivalent of hundreds of billions of dollars. Who squandered it, I think is the right word. So quickly.

56:33 And part of it I I do have some empathy for them because they I don't think they meant to do this. I think I think when Cornelius Vanderbil died in the eighteen hundreds. He wanted No one else in his family to have to suffer ever again. He just said you're gonna have tons of money and you can just live like an absolute king for the rest of your days for generation after generation after generation.

56:51 And when I think it inadvertently did. Even though some people foresaw this when it first happened. Was it created a family? Who valued nothing but money. And the money was their dictator.

57:02 The money told them who they could be. It told them where they could live. It told them what their personality could be. It told them what they can value, it told them who they can marry. Told them who they can socialize with. A lot of which was not who they actually were.

57:14 And so you had these people who were in a who would inherit the equivalent of ten billion dollars when they were eighteen. Um Who were basically puppets in their own life. They were like character actors in their own life.

57:26 'Cause they want it to be somebody completely different. Maybe they wanted to like live on a farm and have a very like humble life. And the family structure said no, you're gonna live on Fifth Avenue in a fifty thousand square foot house and host balls and uh and and and live on your yacht and show off to other people. That's what you have to be. You're a Vanderbilt. You have to be that. And the vast majority of them I I think were miserable for it.

57:47 And it wasn't until the money was mostly exhausted. that uh a lot of them were that the the subsequent errors were like mercilessly let go, like with a sense of like they were lucky to be let go. And be able to be themselves. And this is now well known, but one of the first Vanderbilt heirs to get to do that. It was Anderson Cooper.

58:07 Of CNN, the journalist. Who was uh You know, I think one of the first people in his family Which is a little bit of an exaggeration, but one of the first people in his family to get to have the privilege To be himself.

58:19 And live his own life. And not have to live up to the title of Vanderbilt heir, even if it didn't fit his personality at all. He wrote a book on that, didn't he? You wrote a book about the history of of of the Vanderbilt and how it it fit in with other kind of Robert Baron families. Uh

58:33 In in his day. Um and it's it's not all negative. Like and and I don't if you read the biographies of the of the Vanderbilts, it's not it's not all negative, but there it is not Anywhere near the happiness that you would assume. For people who would uh inherit ten billion dollars on their eighteenth birthday. It's no it's nowhere near that.

58:50 And so look, I want To be I I I I wanna have a higher net worth. I I want to be wealthy, but you don't s it. What money can't do for you until you look at the magnifying glass of like unbelievab wealthy people and what it does for them and what it can't do for them.

59:04 How does wealth affect your relationship with your spouse? Oh, I think not at all. I don't I mean, I I it's a great question'cause I don't think I've thought about that whatsoever, but You know when my my wife and I met when we were young, we were nineteen, twenty years old when we met and had had nothing. And then no money we're college students and of course we nothing. And

59:23 Are we happier today? We have a different sense of life because now we've been together for twenty years and we uh We have two two lovely kids together and whatnot. So we there's a very different view on life and a sense of accomplishment for that. But are we happier? And I think that's no. But that's not uncommon.

59:39 Not everybody, but a lot of people, if you ask them, when was the happiest time in your life when you had The most laughs, the greatest times. A lot of people, not everybody, will tell you High school college. High school college. I was a man hanging out with my buddies and parties and we did this crazy thing, we did that crazy thing. And one of the common denominators of that era Of that age.

59:57 Because you have no money. You know, you'd but you're still very capable of having a great time with your friends and laughing and going out and going to parties and going on road trips, whatever it might be. And so The things that make my wife and I happy. We like

1:00:10 walking our dog and we like that. Ten years ago as much as we do today. And even before we had a dog, we like going for walks and and doing this. We like we like laughing and talking about Things and whatnot. It's things that don't cost any money whatsoever. And I think that is a perfect example of

1:00:25 The list of things that money cannot do for you. And so if I look at my own life relative to who I was ten years ago. Does my wife love me more? No. Do my kids love me more? No. Like and that's that's now the psychology of downgrades can play back in here.

1:00:40 Because what would happen if my career imploded? And it was my fault. When my wife might love me less, like Maybe. Because the psychology of downgrades and taking care of your family, that that plays a role in there. Would would we would my kids think less of me if we had to

1:00:53 fire cell our house and move into a roach filled apartment, like maybe. So there is some element, particularly on the way down, but definitely on the way up. It uh it's the the psychology of it is not necessarily what you think. What my wife values, and of course this is not unique to me. Is that I'm I'm a good husband?

1:01:10 I I pay attention, I listen, I'm helpful, grateful. Like not H how big is our house or how fast is our car? Yeah, that's a good place to be. What can you learn about

1:01:22 Someone from how they spend their money. I think it is it is a very insightful window into people. Now is money everything in the world? Of course not. Is it the most important thing in your life? Абсолютні на. But it is a very clear window. Into how people think about

1:01:40 social aspiration. Self confidence. Doubt. A lot of other things. I I I I I could list half a dozen things that are obviously more important than money, health.

1:01:50 Uh humor. uh, you know, uh your relationships with people obviously more important. But when you look at how someone spends money, you're like, Oh, I can tell a lot about you. If I saw your bank account in your credit card statement Uh I I I could I could learn a lot about you.

1:02:04 I could probably learn as much about you from that as I would if I spent a couple of days just just getting to know you. And so I I think I think that's true. Even just w looking at how people dress, I think is is very interesting. I always make this point of like And this is true as a is a shade of grey. There are exceptions to this, but When I see like a middle aged man driving a yellow Ferrari. I'm like, look, I don't judge, but I'm like, there's a story there. And I bet most of the time, not all the time, but the story is.

1:02:29 That person was snubbed or doubted. Or doubted themselves. At some previous point in their life, and the yellow Ferrari is a trophy. to show to others and to show yourself of like I made it.

1:02:42 I overcame. That's what it was. And that's why I think in general too. The yellow sports car, so to speak. tends to be a new fun uh new money phenomenon.

1:02:51 Not a lot of old money families with those, or fewer of them. 'Cause I think the new money, wealth W like feels vindicated over what they overcame. I used to be poor and I'm not anymore, and I want people to know it. And I want to show myself it's a it's a trophy to myself.

1:03:05 Whereas the old money family is is is is probably closer to be like, look, we've we've always had this. It's like we didn't we'd have to overcome anything. It's the expectation. It's the it's the expectation of it. I look at the the people who do that and you know to use the yellow Ferrari example and I'm like That person has a chip on their shoulder. Yeah. And and also wink. Like I relate to that. Yeah. And I don't think that's a bad thing. It's not a criticism. I have a family member, I wrote about this in the Ar Spend of Money, who grew up extremely poor, homeless. foster system kind of poor. And then became a very successful businessman.

1:03:37 And he told his daughter, when his daughter was getting ready for college, he said, Please pick the most expensive school that you can get into. Please, I'm begging you. It was almost like the more expensive, the better. As in like as I got he would feel better. He felt so good about what he overcame. Yeah. The idea that he could say, I used to be homeless and now I'm sending my daughter to a school that costs seventy grand a year or whatever it was. That was a trophy.

1:03:59 For him internally. It wasn't even signaling to others. It was I think he went to bed that night being like I did it. I did it, man. And so that whole idea that like A lot of spending is not utility.

1:04:10 It's not even rational. A lot of times it's filling a psychological hole that you have. From some point in your life. We have a mutual friend Bram Bashore and he has the concept that has stuck with me ever since and I I use it so often now between Clean fuel.

1:04:23 And dirty fuel and sort of what motivates you. And you know, he argues that clean fuel is a better source. And I I counter this with like Dirty fuel just it never goes out. Like you don't use it up. It just you keep going with it. And and that drives in part society and it it might drive that person to buy the yellow Ferrari or send their kid to the most expensive school, but

1:04:47 They did that by creating some sort of economic value in life. to get rewarded for that. Yeah, and that's their Their status thing, whatever, keep going. Whatever it might be. I think I've I've become much less cynical and judgmental about whatever your thing might be. So again, when I see the L Fr, I don't judge you. But I know there's a story, and now I have a story. I have my own insecurities and fa and faults and flaws when everybody does and you express them in a different way.

1:05:12 And maybe it's a case I mentioned earlier, I've always been a big saver. Not even maybe, I would say almost certainly, but part of that. came from earlier periods of my life when I had Uh lower self-estim, very low confidence in my ability. to earn money.

1:05:26 And that has led me to saving money with the idea that like oh this is all gonna come crashing down soon, and I need to prepare for that personal uh uh you know downfall. I think if you got me on the therapist's couch, you would you would pull something like that out of me. And so everybody has their own little version of this in some degree. uh in their own unique ways that influences how we think about and spend money. Is spending for status ever useful?

1:05:50 I think it can be. I I'm wearing a you know, I'm dressed like this. I I I I don't dress like this on Saturday at my house. But I want to fit in and be appropriate for you and your audience. So is that signaling? You know, if I was if nobody was watching, I would not wear a collared shirt like I am right now. I'd be wearing a t shirt and some dirty shorts or something, right? So and so am I it's a clean shirt, at least. It's a nice nice looking shirt. And but so is this is this is this signaling? Like yeah, probably. But I think but it's perfectly fine.

1:06:16 'Cause I'm not signaling to show off, I'm signaling to fit in and be accepted. Which is a little bit different. And so there's always a degree of of fitting in, whether that is you know manners and being polite to other people. Is it that you actually, you know, you when you say thankful you know thank you thank you to people who someone who does something nice for you, waiter comes in and fills up your water glass, you say thank you. Is it because you are are truly grateful for it?

1:06:39 Which might be the case, or is it just like that's the appropriate thing to do? It's just proper manners to do that. Is that signaling? Like probably. And so I to answer your question, yes, there is absolutely time when signaling is important. I think it becomes dangerous. When the purpose of your signalling is

1:06:54 I want to get the attention of strangers. Who are not in this with me. who are not part of the group that I'm trying to gain the respect and admiration of. I'm trying to gain the attention and admiration of other people who I don't know. who are probably not even watching to begin with.

1:07:09 I think that's a lot of it. I think you'll you see this very often with people who have very poor manners. We're very gruff and say Whatever's on their mind. That in their mind they're like, I don't care what you think about me. I don't care. But the truth is like they probably don't get accepted into groups. And society is in and like friend circles and clicks and whatnot.

1:07:28 that would really benefit them. And so that's I think there's a there there's there's a joke where it's like just be yourself. Is good advice for like five percent of people. And I I love that that joke, that meme of like most people should not be themselves. They should meter what they say and how they behave around other people.

1:07:47 in a signaling way in order to fit in. That's a really good point. I wanna come back to something we talked about earlier, which is excellence is the capacity to take pain. And I wanna know what you've learned about psychology from studying The history of panics, depressions, crashes.

1:08:04 And what advice you could give people who might be going through that. Whether it's uh you know, they're listening to this five years from now and we're in a market downturn or Their life just feels like it's not. Mm. It's not working the way it should at the moment.

1:08:22 I think there's two things. When we talk about like broad economic Crashes and depressions. On one hand I could say The economy is cyclical. And that's the greatest sense of opportunity.

1:08:33 Nineteen thirty two a stock market had fallen eighty nine percent, but it was about to go absolutely parabolic rocket ship up. And so you can talk about that, be greedy when others are fearful. But I think there's some survivorship bias in there because the German economy also collapsed in the nineteen twenties and thirties. And did they get a rebound out of it? No, they got Hitler out of it, is what happened. And you can list a dozen examples of that. And individual examples. Of when people whose career fell, their portfolio fell.

1:08:59 And was that Um An opportunity for them to grow for a lot of people. No, it was it was it was the end. It was the there was a collapse. So I think avoiding the idea of the economy and your individual life is. Is volatile. But you always want to avoid catastrophic collapse.

1:09:15 You you never want to get to a point where you can't actually recover from it. And it's very difficult to know where that point would be. I think there are of all of the possible outcomes of the United States during the Great Depression in the nineteen thirties. We got probably The outcome that we that actually happened was like a top ten percent outcome.

1:09:33 It easily could have, if not should have. Turned out. as it did in much of Europe. Where after the Great Depression the people's response was like maybe we should give fascism a try. Maybe, maybe this thing didn't work, maybe should we give that was probably the most probable outcome. And so the fact that it didn't happen doesn't mean we should think it's always going to happen like that like that. That's true for individual lives as well.

1:09:53 I think that's part of the psychology of collapse is like It's too easy to look back at what happened. for companies and whatnot. Everyone knows what or or it is now well known the story of Apple. Apple absolutely Apple computer absolutely struggled. In the nineteen nineties nearly went bankrupt. in the late nineties, early two thousands, and then had this

1:10:12 Unbelievable revival. Steve Jobs creates the iPad and the iPhone and the i and the and the and the and the and then and the the rest is history from there. But for every one of those stories, you can tell fifty stories about companies that just lost and went bankrupt. Mm.

1:10:23 And so it's too easy to think about the psychology of pulling yourself up. From the pits of despair. Because I it's it's I I think I think those are the rarities from that. And I think this is why Financial and psychological. Independence become so vital.

1:10:39 And it's also the case that I think as a survival mechanism. We underestimate the odds of bad things happening to us because if we were if we were honest about the odds of it happening. It'd be too hard to get out of bed in the morning.

1:10:53 If we were honest about the odds of you getting divorced. Of you losing your job. of your kids not turning out the way that you thought they would. of you not saving for retirement. If you were honest about those odds, it'd be hard to wake up tomorrow. You'd wake you you'd be overwhelmed. And so I think we there is a a pro there is a almost healthy amount of ignorance.

1:11:12 That we have. Of of being like, Yeah, but that's not gonna happen to me. And it's almost in a good way that you do it. It's like a survival mechanism. But because we do it, I think it is a very important to financially and psychologically have a level of independence. So just focusing on the financial independence.

1:11:28 A level of savings that seems like it's too much. That seems like, oh, this is completely excessive. Do I need this much savings and liquidity? The answer might be yes, because you're probably underestimating the odds of very bad things happening in your life. What percentage of your net worth is in cash? It's probably twenty to thirty percent. Maybe it's high teens.

1:11:50 And it's been like that. over the over the course of of of of big changes in my net worth. I've always added about like that. Now any financial advisor would look at that and say, Morgan, given your your age and income, that's way too much. You don't need that. And I I don't even disagree with that. I mean it it is it is a lot it it is ridiculous, but

1:12:08 I value sleeping at night. And as I said before, maybe there's a nugget of my past. That's left me with a lower sense of self confidence of being able to You know, of the the idea that this is all gonna come crashing down. And the idea that what I value more than anything is not outperforming the market or outperforming my peers, it's independence.

1:12:26 And so there are quirks of my personality and my wife's personality that lead me to that. Never in a million years would I recommend that. to everyone or even Many people. And I think it's I think it is unique to my personality, but that's the point.

1:12:40 How you allocate your money is unique to your pal your personality. And I hope you don't judge me and I wouldn't judge you if you do it very differently. I think that's I think that's the most important part. It's less about what do I do and more The idea that I do it because I'm me and I'm not you. I always read these articles about how rich people are spending their money and then people in the comments are like in uproar. Yeah.

1:13:00 I'm you know, I like you would do it differently. Yeah, I was like my personal belief is like if you earn that money legitimately and you create a value for society, you should be able to spend it however you want. Like Mark Zuckerberg's a very interesting case study here, because at least from the appearance, I don't know him, so maybe this is just a a fake outward appearance. Up until like five years ago. He was the frugal billionaire you can imagine. I think he had a jet for five security reasons, but like lived in a modest house. drove an Acura, like you know well, at least gave the appearance of living. And in the last five five years, I think he's been like Screw it.

1:13:34 We ball, let's go. Bought a yacht, bought has like a ten million dollar watch collection, but like is like everything which he deserves. He's one of the richest men of all time. But it it's interesting. If it is true that there was like a Oh, I used to be frugal, but now I'm doing this.

1:13:49 And I don't I again I I really don't judge that either. Maybe he found Like he was maybe he was happy and content living a modest lifestyle, but then he was like, Man. I love watches. I love the artistic value. I love the engineering of value of them. So even when people go through big changes, I think it's like great, if that works for you. That's wonderful. And we can contrast that against Buffett, who we talk a lot about, who obviously does not have Ten million dollar watches in a yacht.

1:14:12 famously lives in the house he bought when he was like twenty six or whatever. And I think that works for him. Totally works with totally fits his personality. Everyone's gonna be a little bit different here. For a lot of people, their goal is passive income in order to fund their expenses.

1:14:25 Talk to me about what that is and if that's a good goal or not on the spectrum of sort of financial independence. Where does where is that? It's a very appealing word. Because the idea is I get paid to do nothing. But the vast majority of what people consider passive income. they're working their butts off for. particularly real estate, if you're a landlord.

1:14:44 And people are like, Oh, it's passive income. No, it's not. Your toilet breaks, the roof leaks, the tenant doesn't pay. They put a hole in the wall, like Anyone who's been a landlord. knows that it could be particularly if you have multiple properties, a full time job. Absolutely a full time job. Is that passive? Like no. The only like true passive income.

1:15:00 would be like You own treasury bonds. And the interest of you know, you you you actually didn't have to do anything for that. There's an opportunity cost in there, so it's not like purely free money. But

1:15:10 Dividends. interests like that, that could be considered passive income. But most of what people will consider like the income hacks that they have. And people get really crazy about it. They're like, oh, I do consulting. And that's passive income. Like what? That's uh you you that's labor. This is what it is. And so I think it I think it's a great idea, but people take it definitionally way too far.

1:15:30 My my kids uh have looked this up a lot. Terms of um how they think about money and like they're exploring their little ventures and you know in elementary school they start talking about it and it continues in middle school and stuff. And

1:15:44 One of the things I've tried to tell them is Every form of passive income that somebody has. Was once active income. Extremely active income. And so let's say the person who is thus like clipping coupons for the treasury bonds and yeah, but they probably work their butt off. To make the money. That is now an investment.

1:16:01 And you have to factor that into The passiveness. of it. And so I yeah, there's there there's a lot of that. It's I think it's pretty rare. that people truly have a situation where they're like, I'm making a ton of money from this thing that I did nothing for.

1:16:13 Either in the past or today. That's pretty rare. Do you have a framework that you use for making the big decisions in life? You you've talked about sort of switching houses and y I know um you did that a couple of years ago. You also moved from D C to Seattle. Yeah. How do you like

1:16:30 Walk me through your framework for This is definitely not advice'cause I don't know if it was a good idea, but all of those were A spur of the moment. And B Pretty haphazard.

1:16:40 If if I'm being honest. And Is it luck that they by and large worked out? And I say by and large,'cause a lot of them didn't there were elements of it where it didn't really work out, but Um I I think it's true that particularly in the big forks in your life. It's it's not at all clear which way you should go.

1:16:57 And I think it's also true that gut feelings tend to actually be pretty good. That's not just a gut feeling, that's just that you can't crystallize what the thought is, but you know which way you should go. You know which way to do it. I think that tends to be the case. The gut feelings are actually pretty accurate. More more often than not. tends to be the case. So I didn't if I look back at my decision to become a writer.

1:17:16 My decision to move to DC from DC to have kids. I we were talking about this the other day. We have two kids. My wife and I didn't sit down and have a deep discussion about do we want kids? How many do we want? What are our parenting philosophies? After we got married, we're like

1:17:30 I don't know, I guess we should do it. That was just it. But the truth is there was a gut feeling there, and the gut feeling was actually pretty accurate. So I think I think people Trusting their gut more often than seems right. Like you don't need to have an analytical conversation on a spreadsheet to figure something out. This is the one question I probably get more than any other question when I'm giving talks is

1:17:49 Sort of the relationship between Um your emotions and your instincts and rational and where we should be on that spectrum. And the example I always use is sort of chess. And so chess is uh not a perfect analogy, but it works in this case, which is the Grandmasters.

1:18:06 have an instinctual move in their head. They can't explain. And ninety nine point nine percent of the time that's the move they make. And then why do they take all this time before they make a turn? Well, because they're checking, they're verifying that their their instinct is correct. And I think so much of life is that. And Daniel Conman would agree, right? It's just slow down your intuitive brain. Doesn't mean override it, doesn't mean ignore it.

1:18:30 Let it inform your decision, not make your decision. Yeah. And I also like the idea of like you gotta be very careful with decisions that are irreversible. They're gonna have lasting consequences. And be much less choosy and picky and analytical about decisions that are reversible. What Jeff Bezos talks about that. There's sometimes where you make a decision in a business and you're like

1:18:49 Look, if this doesn't work, we can just go back to what we were doing before. It's not that big a deal. It might cost a little bit of money, but we can go back. And there's some decisions about like this is a This is this is a roach motel. Like you like we we we walk in, we ain't we ain't walking out of this. We gotta make sure it's the right place to go in. I think there's a lot of decisions like that in life. about you know even if if it is reversible, who you marry, the career that you have, where you live, those are reversible decisions, but it's much more difficult to do it. And there's some decisions your reputation and whatnot that are irreversible.

1:19:18 Like if you lose trust one now, you're probably not getting it back, at least anytime soon. And so those irreversible decisions are the ones where you do want to stop and take a step back and be like, Let's think this through and do it. My wife and I, I think there's plenty of times that I can think of when We tried to be analytical about it. And try to be like, Okay, let's let's talk this through. And it led us nowhere.

1:19:39 Because most big decisions don't have a very clear pro con list. It's like I could see it working out this way, I could see it working out that way, and like Mm. I don't know. I I could go either way. And those those are the most difficult where you you are just using your gut and hoping that it's right over time. And also not everything on that list is equally weighted. Yeah. So that's why I get kind of frustrated when like the lifestyle gurus will be like, Here's how I make

1:20:03 Here's here here's how I do this, and here's the the the multi step process to making good decision. Like I don't I don't think that's usually how it works. It's usually just like Yeah. I think Let's just go with this. That feels like the right one to do.

1:20:14 Obviously some people are better at that than others, so understanding the consequences and what they're likely to regret. But I think most of the time it's it's nothing more than What advice do you have for somebody living paycheck to paycheck? Uh First empathy.

1:20:30 Have been there. Don't want to go back. understand and empathize with the idea that you feel like everyone else is doing better than you and you're not, and that maybe you're not living the life that you once foresaw for yourself. So the first comment I have is empathy for what they're going through.

1:20:45 And the second I have. I always say two things. One is that All wealth is what you have minus what you want. And it is so profoundly common and easy to ignore the second part of that equation. That You have to minus what you want, and you are more in control of that.

1:21:00 By and large, than what you have. It's very d it's it's possible, but not easy. to double your income. Possible but not easy. It is well within your control, even if it's not easy, it's more within your control to try to be more content with what you have.

1:21:15 And try to lower your expectations, even if you're still an ambitious person. And do that. Uh easier said than done, but I think that's it's always gonna play a role. The second is Understanding that

1:21:26 Independence exists on a spectrum. And if you can save one dollar. If you can save ten dollars, if you could save a hundred dollars. You're in a better position than you were before. And a lot of people in this position will be like, Well, I can't save five thousand dollars a month, so why save anything?

1:21:40 That kind of mentality, and I think it's every dollar makes a difference. Particularly once or twice a decade when You lose your job. Whatever it might be. You're gonna be like I am so grateful. That is that

1:21:52 $5 you save, that$10 you save is the oxygen of your life. It's going to allow you to make different decisions than you otherwise would have had to. I Go deeper on this sort of The expectations minus what you have. Mine there are there are people and again I say this with empathy not

1:22:10 with any sort of shame or criticism or telling you you should just be more grateful for what you have. There are people who earn very little money and are totally satisfied with it. And I think oftentimes that is just unique to their personality. That's not a learnable skill. It's not a teachable skill. It's just who they were. They were just blessed with that.

1:22:26 Of just being like oh I got a little apartment and uh pair of shoes and I'm good, that's all I need. Those people exist. And it makes and the opposite of that exists too. Maybe this is the more pertinent example of the people who make twenty million dollars a year and feel broke. Because they their life is not complete in their mind unless they were earning twenty five million. Because that guy over there is earning 25 million. Those people exist absolutely as well. And so you realize the power of expectations is enormous.

1:22:50 In how we feel about ourselves. And it is true. I'll give you I'll give you an analytical example of this. You have to be careful with this because you have to wrap it in the context of of expectations and and and empathy, but The average new house today. Is almost three times the size of a house. In the nineteen fifties.

1:23:08 Three times. I read this book recently on The Levit Town. which is back in the nineteen fifties, the Levit Brothers home builders build a bunch of uh gigantic home community is kind of urban sprawl kind of suburban sprawl, I should say. That created kind of the backbone of what we knew then and view now as like

1:23:26 Middle class America white picket fence. Average people. Plumbers, teachers, firemen, policemen. who can have a you know buy a house When they were twenty five.

1:23:35 And raise their kids in this. And I think it is often used with the example of like we don't have that today. Our grandparents have it, we don't have it today. There is some truth to that. But the truth is, if you look at what the Levitown house was. It would be considered.

1:23:50 low income poverty housing today. It was seven hundred square feet. Your four kids shared one bedroom. It had one bathroom for the six of you. Forget garage, forget porch, forget air conditioning, forget any of that. It was as bare bones, basic, tiny, no frills as it can get. They're also part of the reason that the levit

1:24:09 brothers were able to build so many houses so cheaply is that they were thrown together like cardboard boxes. And so that amazing middle class prosperity house that you have. the leaf was the the roof was leaking, it was poorly insulated, like going down by today's standards, it would be not what people would think and not what they would want. And And so it's easy today to be like

1:24:29 Used to have it better. You should have it better than us. And I think you have to push back on that a little bit. If somebody says I don't feel like I'm doing as well as I wanted. And I should.

1:24:39 I think that always demands empathy. If somebody says People used to be doing better than we are today. That's a factual statement that can and should be fact checked. That the you you that that that is an apples to apples comparison that you can look at. And I think most of the time you would look at that.

1:24:54 you would come to some conclusion that when people s make a statement like People in the nineteen fifties were better off than we are now. It's usually not true. But that does not preclude the feeling that you have today of I'm not doing as well as I thought I should and I'm living paycheck to paycheck. Because I think more often what happens there

1:25:10 Is that the expectations over generations have increased. So in the nineteen fifty's a seven hundred square foot house with no garage was amazing. Felt like a palace. By today's standards, it's more along the lines of I need a nineteen hundred square foot house and I better have air conditioning and a garage, et cetera, et cetera.

1:25:26 That's not to call people spoiled or whatnot. It's just the acknowledgement that expectations increase over time. I remember reading this thing and I don't know who said it, but it was basically boiled down to Remember there was a time Uh where you wanted what you have now. And I think I now some people will hear that and be like No, there was actually a time when I thought I would have more than I do.

1:25:45 So that I think that exists too, but for a lot of people. I'd even say maybe the majority. There is something there is at least something going on in your life right now that you used to aspire to, and probably told yourself that you would be so happy if you had that thing one day. How did you feel after Same As Ever came out in relation to Psychology of Money and the reason I ask this is

1:26:04 This this relates to anybody who had a massive success. And then all of a sudden they're back on stage again. Yeah. I've often I I've said this a million times. I write for an audience of one, which is myself. I write books that I think are interesting about topics that I'm interested in. In a voice and telling stories that I think is interesting for me, and I never want to or think about pandering to you.

1:26:26 And so There's part of me that is inherent in that where I'm just like, I I really don't really care what other people think of these, good or bad. I'm just kind of writing for myself. But it's true that, you know, my first book, Psychology of Money. First print runs five thousand copies. ends up selling.

1:26:41 About ten million accounting, kind of thing. Great, amazing, but it also sets the expectations of myself and other people to a different degree. And so when my second and now third book comes out, it's always judged relative to that. And good problem to have, ultimate first world problem. But you see, what's the irony of it is I write about, including In Same As Ever and Psychology Money and the new book, The Power of Expectations. And how anything amazing can feel

1:27:05 Terrible. If your expectations are high enough. And everything anything terrible can feel amazing if your expectations were low enough. It is the ultimate arbiter of like wha how you're gonna feel about something. And I knew this going into it.

1:27:18 That even if same as ever. was a book that I was very proud of, which it is. And sold well, which it did. It was always gonna be by comparison to this thing, psychology of money, my first book. that would be graded against it. And even if I knew going into it, I'd be lying if I said it wasn't hard.

1:27:34 It was it was hard. I've talked to other authors who've been in similar situations. And I think other kind of artists who have this thing, whether you're a musician or actors or whatnot. If your early success was big, it's very difficult to live up to. I will kind of name one. example of this I saw recently because I think they're big enough that I'm allowed to criticize them a little bit.

1:27:56 And everyone has different taste in music. You two, the band? Their albums in the nineteen eighties Are so unbelievably good. You listen to Joshua Tree and those on you like every song is like magic.

1:28:09 Like how did you this was so good. The recent albums? I I I I I will judge and be like Yeah. I I I don't know, man. It doesn't doesn't really happen. And I think at least part of that.

1:28:20 Is that I'm judging the recent albums relative to the pure magic that they produced for if you dis if you don't like that music, you probably have your own example of it. It's okay. But that's a that's the case. Everything is gonna be judged relative to your highest moment in the past, and it's a very hard thing to deal with. Can you change your reference point? If intentionally can you go into this and reset the bar so It's not psychology of money. My buyer's like I wanna sell a hundred copies of the book. I don't know if you can do it intentionally. I think you can be forced into it.

1:28:49 Of uh If something terrible happens in your life, you are able to say, I'm so grateful for it because I used to be down in these pits of despair before. Stephen Hawking had a very Potent example of this. The late scientist who was a little bit of a little bit of a little Course. had no control overalized head to toe and in a wheelchair.

1:29:06 And he talked about that he was so grateful for life. And so happy to wake up every morning. Because his expectations were reduced to zero when he was twenty one years old when he was diagnosed with this illness. in everything else since then. And there've been some studies about this of like the comparison, the classic example of Who is happier?

1:29:21 A lottery winner or a paraplegic? And the answer is like not intuitive. It's very often the paraplegic. Who uh without diminishing some of the the obvious pain and suffering that they've been through it would be like might have a new found appreciation for life.

1:29:35 Might have a newfound appreciation for sunsets and things like that, where the lottery winner is almost the opposite. And when they win, they're like, Life's gonna be frickin' amazing from here on out. And when it's not, they're like oh Geez. I thought it was gonna be great. It's not. And so you get a lot of counterintuitive results like that.

1:29:51 I'm glad you you kept writing. I mean, I I feel like it can paralyze a lot of people if you have such an overwhelming success on your first book, you might not want to keep going, but I personally, for whatever it's worth, think your writing keeps getting better and better. One common review of Same as Ever was Of course, there's a wide spectrum of comments, but uh I I feel like a a a median review of it was

1:30:14 Good book, not as good as Psychology of Money. And I always I always been like, man, if I didn't write psychology of money, you probably would have just said good book. And finished it there. And it's okay. Maybe. And so but I think it's inevitable and it's a it's a good problem to have. But it's interesting that I write about that power of expectations and experienced it in a potent way firsthand. How does our social group impact our desires and how should we think about our social group in relation to spending money? I would say like be very careful who you socialize with because it will.

1:30:45 Full stop will. Set your expectations. Of what of what you want. And um I I use the example of I I I grew up out in the out in the mountain sticks outside of Lake Tahoe, and it was very much a A mountain town not poor, but not rich by any standards.

1:31:00 And And then I went to college in Los Angeles. Los Angeles during the housing bubble in the mid two thousands when there was just overflowing with literally trillions of dollars of fake money. And And some people were just such a such a material culture then and now that like

1:31:14 When that fake money flew around, it was just everyone was just spending it on lifestyle, just inflating everything. And I really like who who's happier? It's not even close. Middle class mountain town we're happier. Because it was so much easier to keep your expectations in check.

1:31:30 You're like it was so easy to be like look, I drive a A three year old Ford pickup. And the the rich guy drives a two year old Ford Pickup. And that's the that's the Stratification. The stratification was this big.

1:31:44 And then in LA the stratification was ten miles long. And so even if you are a dentist doing well in LA, you're a dentist making three hundred grand a year. Driving a Mercedes. You're absolutely amazing, a crushing it. But

1:31:56 No dentist in LA making three hundred grand a year feels like they're crushing it. Because they are driving past thirty thousand square foot mansions and Rolls Royce's and Lamborghinis and whatnot. And so by comparison, even if you're not socializing with those people, you're aware of it. But when you start socializing them with those people Then truly your expectations just blow off the charts. It's very difficult. It's possible, but it's very difficult.

1:32:17 to be a dentist making three hundred grand. And be friends with someone who's living in a thirty thousand square foot mansion with a private jet. And have it not impact your expectations. Very difficult to do. We keep coming back to happiness is That's something we should be optimizing for. I think we said what you want to optimize for is contentment.

1:32:34 And when you socialize with people who are dramatically wealthy or living A better, a bigger life than you. It is much harder to remain content. Possible but harder. to remain content.

1:32:45 And so being careful who you socialize with, I think is is very important. That's true for a lot of things, not just outside money, but values. It's very easy to think today I have these the boundary of my morality is this. But the truth is, like if I started hanging out with different people It might become this. the boundaries of my morality, or sorry, might might shrink. It might the the what I'm willing to do might be very influenced by who I'm hanging out with. I think that's true for nearly all of us.

1:33:10 One of the things I admire about you as your friend is that you've built this life that is just totally authentic to you. What advice do you have for other people about going about building this life that's authentic to them, discovering who they are as a person? And how they can use finances as a tool to accomplish that. One is I was I would say thank you for for saying that and and noticing that, but it it's it takes work. It is not just you get there and you're like, Oh, everything's great. Now I can just cruise on this authentic life. It takes, I think, daily work.

1:33:40 And so even as someone who writes about expectations and keeping up with the Joneses and whatnot, I think I feel I have to remind myself daily of it. Now there are a lot of things in like that in life. If you master meditation, you don't get to stop. You gotta do it every day. And if you do stop, you just revert back to where you were.

1:33:54 Same with exercise. You don't get to physical fitness and then you get to stop. You gotta work on it daily. So I think this is one of those things as well that takes a a lot of effort, but I think the realisation Easier said than done, but the realization

1:34:08 In the observation that people are not paying attention to you as much as you think they are. And therefore you should stop trying to impress strangers and use money. To give yourself a tool of things that are giving you a lot of fulfilledness, your relationships, your health and whatnot. That's to to me, that was like the biggest Break through. And it's so simple.

1:34:26 Like there's nothing that profound about what I just said. But if you can actually come to terms with it, it can totally change your life. Just being like nobody's watching. Nobody's watching. They're not paying attention to me. They don't care what I'm wearing. They don't care what car I'm driving. But if I can instead use that money

1:34:41 To be independent. And be able to make my own decisions. About what's authentic to me. That's that's amazing. You've you've known me for I don't know fifteen years or so.

1:34:50 And you have no I've I've been open with you about my personal life and you knew me during my cheap frugal years, right? And I think in a in a playful, friendly, respectful way, you you would give me grief for it. Yeah. And I I kind of, in a way, I liked the grief because it was a reminder that I was being independent. That I wasn't a slave to anyone else's expectations. I I think I kind of reveled in. At the time.

1:35:12 It was it was consistent with my personality, the lifestyle that I was living. But I almost enjoyed the reminder that I am not just a pawn to somebody else's expectations, and I'm doing this my way. Oh yeah, but I also admired that you just didn't care. You didn't give a fuck about what other people thought. So like I would tease you about wine sometimes and you were just Oh, I just don't have the ballot for that. Yeah. You were just like, Whatever, like I don't care. You would hand me an expensive glass and I'd be like, Is this Charles Shaw? I don't know what is this two bucks chuck shame, what is this? But I I think we

1:35:42 You know, as as good friends do, would give each other grief for it. But I actually I actually I feel like if people are not giving you grief for something In your lifestyle, you're you're probably just Uh uh uh a sheep. To somebody else's.

1:35:56 If you If you can, if you can look at particularly someone who is a above average income, and there isn't something in their life that they spend very little on. I think there's a high chance that they're just a sheep going along with society tells them they should want. And so I love it when you meet a rich person. Who dresses shabby.

1:36:11 Or eat shabby. or drives a shabby car. There has to be something like that. that they realize like that thing, society told them they should like it, but they just don't. Now they should probably also have a thing that they spend a higher percentage of their on uh of their income on.

1:36:25 It's like that's important too. But the the idea that you should just do it your own way with the idea that nobody's watching, because the truth is nobody is watching. Meditieren, Yoga, joggen, nichts entspannt mich. Echt? Mich entspannt meine Steuer total. Steuer? Wie Finanzamt? Die Steuererklärung? Ja, ich habe ganz locker über 1000 Euro zurückbekommen. Hast du geheime Connections oder Excel-Superkräfte? Nö, nur die Wieso Steuer App. Wow, und das ist einfach? Klar, die macht fast alles automatisch. Ich fühle mich plötzlich so. Entspannt! Hol dir dein Geld zurück. Abgabefrist 31. Juli. Was? Schaffst du ganz entspannt mit Wieso Steuer? Ach ja.

1:37:03 We recorded with a billionaire. It was so funny in the summer here in this very studio. And I walked in and he's like eating Kava for lunch. And I was just like this is amazing. That's how it should be. Um Because it's delicious. Yeah, it's and wouldn't it suck if you loved Kava?

1:37:20 But you're like, I'm a billionaire, I gotta eat caviar. And then you're just choking down the salty nastiness of the caviar. Wouldn't that isn't that a bad life? I love Taco Bell. Can't get enough of Taco Bell. Love it. What's your go to? Uh Nacho cheese chicken chalupa.

1:37:36 So good. And they cost like a buck. And they're just it's just the cheapest, dirtiest food, but God, it tastes good. There's this, you know, Rob Henderson. He's a academic amazing writer. He has this heuristic I love. He says

1:37:49 Rich people food looks better than it tastes. And poor people food tastes better than it looks. A hundred percent. So Taco Bell looks nasty. So good. Yeah. Caveat looks great. So nasty. I remember I I gave a talk once in San Francisco. And at the end of it they took me to this Michelin starred restaurant.

1:38:07 And it was so fancy and it was so set up and they brought like thirteen courses or whatever it was. And the whole time I was there. I was looking across the street at this burger joint. Can I get some pizza with a line out the window and I was like, I just want a burger. I had just want a burger. A Is it too What what's the highest Michelin star? Is it three? Three, three. I think it was that. I I had a three star Michelin meal one time. This was last summer in Europe.

1:38:36 And uh I found it very mediocre at best. And some of the dishes I found. Bad. Legitimately bad. And they looked beautiful.

1:38:47 And it was expensive, and the atmosphere was amazing. But I think that's the perfect heuristic of like rich food looks better than it tastes. I think that's true. W what do you spurge on? I this this seems like a cheating answer, but I think I split it on independence. 'Cause that's how I view it. I have a very high savings rate.

1:39:03 That's not how I view it. I view it as I buy independence. I purchase little claim checks of independence. But what what do you splurge on that you spend on? Like actually like I won't give examples. I travel pretty well. I don't travel cheap. And I value that'cause I travel a lot. So I feel like it's almost a necessity to keep my sanity. So that's something that I don't

1:39:23 I don't cheap out on. My wife is a is a very talented Gardener, landscaper. And until recent years, I did not realize trees and rocks could cost so much, but she's proven that it that it can. And I and I love it. She loves it. We love it.

1:39:37 So there are things where it's like that's important to my comfort when I travel. To her identity. At home? to do these things and it's like great, no budget, just go do it. It's fun. Awesome. Love it.

1:39:49 And other people might might not value either of those things, but that's yeah, that's almost the point we do. I think that is the point of money is spending it where you value it and I always ask. uh myself and others like what would you do if nobody was watching? Yeah. What would you wear? What would you If nobody was watching, she would garden exactly as she does. Yeah. And if nobody was watching, I would travel exactly as I do.

1:40:10 But isn't that like That's the pinnacle. Like that is In a way. Definition of success. Just doing what you want, whatever it might be.

1:40:20 'Cause I think there's other people who are much wealthier than you and I. Who fly coach? Or d don't value landscaping whatsoever, that's okay. That's like you gotta find your thing. Yeah. I think for people who travel all the time, like you and I, um, travel definitely becomes something that you probably spend what your younger self would consider an obscene amount of money on. Yeah.

1:40:40 Uh I I fly every week. The fact that I fly first class and they serve a meal on a tray, it's not a luxury. I'm trying to survive here. It's the only meal I get today. It's just like a necessity. Now of course it's a it's a privilege, but that's how I view it. It's like it's not a luxury. It's the the only way I can that I can fly every week and keep my sanity. Yeah, or flying overseas and giving a talk the next day. I got I gotta lay flat. I gotta do it, or else I can't give the talk the next day. Now I've got the they're that all wrapped in like Course I could. But it's a it's a luxury that I'm

1:41:07 easily willing to spend money on. What can history teach us about inflation and How can we what advice would you have for somebody today about dealing with inflation? I think the history is that it is ever present. There's th there's never people get very uh and I maybe they're right to do this, very upset at inflation.

1:41:26 Um Then again, they're maybe the right to do that'cause it's it's very often a a a policy error or failure. But there is no history. without inflation. It doesn't doesn't really exist. So I think I feel like a lot of people g on the on the uh

1:41:42 Uh what what are the the the the stages of grief? You know, there's a stage of of stages of dealing with it. A lot of people get stuck on anger. I feel like I've just moved on to acceptance. of it. I I don't get that angry about it. I mean, I accept that it's gonna be there. Yeah. Higher rates that I would prefer.

1:41:56 And occasionally at very high rates that can be destructive. But I don't necessarily get angry about it because I feel like it's inevitable within history. And the idea that I should be awaiting for a world in which prices are stable all the time and perpetuity is never going to happen. So I'm not gonna waste my time waiting for it. All the time you spend thinking about something you don't control comes at the expense of something you do control. Yeah. Save an extra dollar or sort of buying more independence. I love that idea of buying independents for money. And that that doesn't mean that you shouldn't be angry or vote when politicians

1:42:28 Screw up. and cause inflation. It's not that. But I think people have some people have too high expectations for what they expect it to be eventually. in an error in a way that's never gonna be there. I think that's true for a lot of things, for marriages, for friendships. If your expectations for perfection If you have expectations of perfection in an area where people are imperfect.

1:42:46 And I have bad days. My wife has bad days. You need to Have a Some tolerance. reasonable level of intolerance for imperfection.

1:42:54 is important. And I think you can apply that framework to how people think about inflation. It seems like pace. uh affects a lot of what we do financially. And by pace I mean We know the path to get wealthy.

1:43:06 at least generally speaking in life. It's to save a little bit of money. dollar cost average into index funds. And repeat for twenty, thirty, forty years. Yeah. And and that is about as sure of a path to gain wealth. Not a hundred percent, but among the surest paths. That are there. And yet we have this lack of patience in part because we see other people getting wealthier faster than us and

1:43:29 I have the saying a lack of patience changes the outcome, but In this sense, it changes our behavior. And because it chang oh, like I want to invest in Whatever this get rich. quick scheme is or

1:43:43 How do you think about that? I think it there is a lot of there's an unfortunate truth. With a lot of this stuff. That People's personalities are wired at birth. And that's just how they're wired.

1:43:55 I think that includes people who are wired for long term thinking and some some people who are just not. I I'm making this up. This is not an actual study, but I've always thought that Ten percent of people do not need financial advice. They just get it. Intuitively, they came out of the womb understanding compound interest. They were they're savers from the day that they earned their first dollar. They just get it. Nobody has to tell them.

1:44:15 Another ten percent of people cannot be helped. They're compulsive gamblers. It doesn't matter what you tell them, what information you give them, they're always gonna make terrible decisions. Proof health as well. Um

1:44:26 And so I I think in here that is that there is a lot of this. This is just Who we are. And some people are more impatient than others. I do think there is a thing where Even uh so but within that framework that I said, ten percent don't be need help, ten percent can't need help.

1:44:39 That leaves eighty percent who want and need good advice and can be influenced with good information. And I think within that. There is a lot of things I I've done a lot of work with high school. Students I'm talking about money and investing and whatnot? And it is inevitable, every single time, without exception.

1:44:55 That these very smart, very intelligent high schoolers. somebody will raise their hand and ask some version of the question. What penny stock should I buy to double my money tomorrow? And I have to remind myself that like I can't criticize that because I think that is The natural intuition.

1:45:10 For some people, if if they they might think they're a long term investor and their definition of long term is a month. And that maybe that's not they think that's that's not a a bad thing. There are other things in life where a month is a long time. I mean, you know, if you're if you're, you know, I I don't know what the example would be. If you're cleaning your kitchen, a month is a long time to get it done in. So like there are some things where you just need to understand what we say when we mean long term. And historically when we talk about the stock market.

1:45:35 a good definition of long term of like really putting the odds of success in your favor is probably 10 years. of putting like earning a real rate of return after inflation. Even within the cyclicality of the economy. You should be investing for at least minimum ten years, if not twenty, thirty, forty. And so a lot of people that's like that it would never cross their mind that that's what we're talking about when we say long term.

1:45:55 And particularly for young people with no experience, they're like, I'm a long term investor. I'm gonna hold for the next three months. And they really think that that's a rational statement. And so it's part of this is just understanding the historical context of what patience means in investing. And how we teach this has such an impact. And you mentioned high school students who One of my kids last year came home and he's like

1:46:14 We're having an investing competition in class. And I was like, Well, tell me about this competition. And it was basically a weekly competition to see who could make the most money. I did this in fifth grade too. We had the same thing. It was pick stocks and then we'll track it. And it was like who makes the most money in the next week. I was like, but you're not investing. Speculating. This is speculation. And then There is a truth that like nothing can be more damaging than your investing psychology. than getting rich very quick when you're young. I think it just ruins you.

1:46:42 It gives you this expectation. I remember in twenty twenty one, which was kind of like the peak of the means meme stock mania, the market was just going vertical. I remember this young person tweeting me. And basically saying If you can't double your money every month, you have no idea what you're doing. Investing and I'm being like Yeah.

1:46:58 Good luck to you, sir. Like but I also don't fault that because I think If you started investing in twenty twenty one. And you just starting buying options on meme stocks, you're like, Oh, this is easy. Just double my money every week. It's not that hard. Like I just You have no context for what the base rate of success is.

1:47:14 And so that's I think that's really important. Like becoming a student. of investing history. And understanding what to expect historically and the base rates around that is very, very important because You be can become so influenced and blinded by the expectations of your first six months of investing, good or bad. in a way that can like lead you to really poor expectations.

1:47:32 Do you know the investor Jeremy Grantham? Yeah. Very famous investor, very smart investor. Successful investor notoriously Known For being

1:47:41 Bearish. Not always. But historically tends to be pretty bearish. I remember reading this thing that he began his career in the teeth of a vicious bear market. That was his early experience. And everything we know about psychology is like early experiences, leaf scars.

1:47:55 They stick around for a long time. So you can easily imagine an alternative history of where Jeremy Grantham started his career during a Tech bubble. And became a momentum investor, like sky's the limit kind of person. Yeah. Maybe not, but I think that tends to be true that we are all just like products of our early experiences.

1:48:11 So you have to be very careful not anchoring too much to that to the extent that you can. I wanna come back to the index funds for a second. One of the comments we had before was people wanted to know What specific index funds you invest in. Yeah. And what the allocation within those is. So if you had a hundred percent of your money into index funds.

1:48:29 What percentage is in wood? The vast majority is the Vanguard Total Stock Market Index, VTI. Not all of it, but the vast, vast majority is that it is as broad as you can get. It basically owns every stock. In every company, in every industry, in every size. In the US. I really don't own much of any.

1:48:46 No, I don't own any international funds. Uh part of that is um I don't think you necessarily need to, because even among US based companies. I mean they're doing half their revenue or more overseas, and so you get international exposure. even within that. I know people some people would push back at that and disagree in that. different markets have cycles at different times. So you should diversify, but I've never I just want to keep it simple.

1:49:07 I think that's maybe the point. Even when people would be like, Oh, you shouldn't own VTI, you should own this index, you should own an international exposure. I'm like we could twist that wheel all day. Like I just want to keep it simple. I own a slice of US capitalism. And that is totally adequate for me.

1:49:21 And just keep it going from there. So I just the purpose is to keep it as brainless as possible. So that I can focus all of my attention on what I think actually matters, which is endurance and longevity. So you're a smart guy. So You own VTI.

1:49:34 Uh What is the S P five hundred right now? I mean the vast majority of that, that's weighted. So the correlation between the S P five hundred, five hundred companies. And VTI seven thousand companies is very, very high. So a large

1:49:49 historically at least a large percentage of that is made up of the top ten companies. Or the top three, let's say. Yeah. And you're smart. And you hear this, and you're like, Well, I know history would indicate. That this is gonna go sideways. So I should

1:50:06 sell my index funds or how do you think through this or like how do you keep going? I wouldn't pretend to think that I'm smart enough to preemptively do that, given how complex the world is. The world isn't just Infinitely complex machine. with as many moving parts and levers and gears and gizmos as you can possibly imagine. And it is so

1:50:28 complex in the sense of like you twist one knob. And a bunch of conveyor belts a mile down the road start acting funny. It's just it works in very complex ways. But I think it's still intuitive for people to come up and be like, ah What if we pull this lever? Let's see what happens. What if we hit this with a hammer? Let's see what happens. And like I don't want to

1:50:43 fool myself into thinking that I can Uh figure out something that is Infinitely complex. Сев більон піпо Hundreds of different cultures.

1:50:53 Millions of different companies. Infinite trends. different possibilities that could have played out. I I think I can be like, Oh, let me just pull up Excel and I'm gonna I'm I'm gonna calculate this and figure it out. Like who am I kidding that I can do that? I think there are people who are extremely smart and lucky. Who can do that?

1:51:10 But I I I I am neither I am neither the former or do I want to rely on the latter? That is one of the lessons I try to teach my kids is You know, when they're going through these investing competitions, we start talking about finances and investing and I'm like, you know, there's people who are the smartest people in the world who do this full time.

1:51:28 And they literally want to take your money and make it their money. How Do you plan to compete if you're picking individual stocks in that world? Yeah. And then I bring up you and I'm like, Well, Morgan has this thing where, you know, you don't have to be outstanding. You just have to last a longer than everybody else and be average. Yeah. And the truth is, like, if I can be average for f thirty years

1:51:52 I won't be the vast majority of people who tried, not all of them, but the vast majority of people. And the idea that let's say if I can be average for fifty years, I'll end up in the top three percent of investors, that's probably about where it'll be historically has been the case. that I will outperform ninety seven percent of people who tried to beat the market. May maybe maybe it's even more. Maybe it's after tax, it's ninety nine percent.

1:52:13 Um the idea that being in the top three percent or the top one percent is not good enough. Is insane to me. That in any other endeavor, if it could say, Hey If you do nothing with no effort, you'll end up in the top three percent. The idea that I would say not good enough.

1:52:26 I need to devote my life into getting into the top two percent. It's never appealed to me. If that appeals to you, more power to you. And I think a lot of people love the intellectual stimulation of picking stocks. And following markets. I follow markets every day. I have been

1:52:40 I followed the stock market every day for twenty Two years. 'Cause I think it's a fa it's a fascinating window into the world. But never would I say like I need to devote myself.

1:52:51 to predicting where this is gonna go next. So that instead of being in the top three percent, I can maybe be maybe be in the top two percent. So today markets are at an all time high. You get a royalty check. Do you pop that into an index fund or do you drip it in? You're like, Okay, well I'll do this over the next six months or twelve months, or do you just take it all and plop it in on whatever day you get it? In the last five years, every book check that I've gotten. Uh

1:53:14 Forty percent to taxes the rest of stocks. Just simple. Just brainless. The exact same day you get it. You don't you don't average it in. It's like whatever day that happens to be, that's what it is. And you don't think twice about the fact that it's an all time high or No, and I wouldn't defend that and say that that's historically the best thing to do. I think that probably is the case, but Again, even if even if someone smarter than me could say Oh, you should do it this way. You should use this distribution strategy. You should you should trickle in, whatnot. I'm like, Yeah, but I I keep it simple. I just keep it I I I I don't care that you have A whiz bang formula for me, that's gonna make it better.

1:53:46 I the the point is it's simple. And just like if if you're eating pizza that tastes good. And someone's like, you know, if you sprinkle this on it And if you cooked it for one minute longer. And use filtered water in the dough.

1:53:56 It to be like would you shut up? I like my pizza. It's delicious. And that's how I think about investing. I did that that's what I want to tell people. I want to be like, Shut up, I'm enjoying myself. As you know, we always ask the same question at the end. It's so cool with you'cause it's the third time we've chatted. And to see your definition

1:54:13 uh evolve over time, but we always end with what is success for you. I I think about two things. It's I I love the idea of it's very important to have people in your life that you don't want to disappoint. I think we started the conversation with that as I'm repeating on here. And uh And so those few people in my life.

1:54:31 Success is not disappointing them. And I know I'm not perfect. And there will be times when they look at me and say, Morgan, I wish you had done this differently. You didn't consider my feelings enough when you did this, but There's a couple of people in my life who I really, really don't want to disappoint. And it would be hard. There was no amount of financial material

1:54:47 uh success in life. in which I could look back at my life and say, I had a great life if I really disappointed my kids. Or my wife, or my parents. Hard to imagine. And so even when relationships don't work out.

1:55:01 I think really disappointing that the people that you don't want to. I think that's that that's fundamental to my definition of success. Yeah. I love that, man. I think I also think uh related to that. Loyalty to people who deserve your loyalty is a very rewarding thing. The important thing is people who deserve your loyalty.

1:55:18 Which is a small list. A lot of people do not deserve your loyalty. Uh But loyalty to someone who deserves your loyalty is unbelievably rewarding. And so that I think about that a lot too. Go deeper on that.

1:55:29 What does that mean to be a good thing? Good feeling. To look at my kids and basically say No matter how poorly you treat me. I will always be there for you. You deserve my loyalty and I'm gonna give it to you.

1:55:42 I've worked at the Collaborative Fund for ten years. Craig Shapiro, the guy who runs it. Even when I get to a point in my career when I don't need to work there anymore. Craig deserves my loyalty. He bet on me when he didn't need to. When I needed him, but he didn't need me, he bet him. He deserves my loyalty.

1:55:57 And I it feels good. It feels not just good, it feels tremendous to give it to him. He deserves it. And so I think when you experience that in life, when somebody deserves your loyalty and you give it back. It's not just rewarding to the other person, it's rewarding for you personally. I love that.

1:56:13 Thank you for taking the time today, Maureen. Thanks, Shane. Let's do it a fourth time in the future.

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