#96 Randall Stutman: The Essence of Leadership

0:00 When we study really fabulous leaders and we ask that question, what do they do that other people don't do? How quickly you can find certain things, but I'm always surprised. of how many leaders who don't know each other have come from different places, different experiences, different generations, and they all do some of the same things that you and I have never been taught to do. And so that's always surprising to me. Every time I find a new admired leadership behavior, I'm always shocked that I couldn't see it before, didn't see it before, and how ubiquitous it is across most of the leaders that I've ever studied. I just couldn't see it until the pattern emerged. And uh but once it emerges, it's pretty It's it's both surprising and and very empowering.

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1:21 This week I'm talking with Randall Stutman, the founder and co-head of the Leadership Practice at CRA and the Admired Leadership Institute. Now Randall is one of the most incredible executive coaches in the world. And like a lot of extraordinary people, he generally prefers to remain behind the scenes. I could give you a roster of his clients, but it would seem like I'm name dropping. Leadership is a bit of a tricky topic. It seems like everybody has an opinion. You know, what attracted me to Randall in the first place is our shared belief that leadership is about what we do Not what we say.

1:53 The quick hacks and cliches aren't the answer. and a search for the timeless behaviors that really make a difference. In this episode, we'll talk about the behavioral versus psychological view of leadership, what really drives results, some behaviors that Randall and his team have identified at admiredleadership.com, and so much more. You'll walk away from this episode with some tools you can put into practice today to make you a better leader. partner and parent.

2:18 It's time to listen and learn. You're the founder of the Admired Leadership Institute, and one of the the interesting things that we had talked about before on the phone was your sort of view of leadership as behavioral and not psychological. Can we just dive right into that? Лисон фригут рез.

2:43 Because people are very different from one another. It's no surprise that leadership and the way that people academically and professionally have looked at leadership. Focuses on those differences. And so anyone that's ever had uh a team or been in a marriage Or had a partner, or simply had multiple children realize that

3:03 the differences are market between people. And then what you realize very quickly is that You yourself stand out in very distinctive ways. We're all uniek. And so what the psychological individual difference view suggests is that the first step to becoming better as a leader. um or as even as a person is to understand who you are. And then to understand the differences on your team or or with your spouse or with your friends and the like.

3:29 And then and then to adapt and flex to those differences. And that makes perfect sense. And and in fact, it's a it's a requisite Uh piece that I would say we should all respect our psychology. And literally just about everyone's trained to think about leadership in that way. But

3:47 over a really long period of time having learned a lot of the classic classification schemes and and ways of diagnosing and assessing people's differences and so forth, the more experience you have, the more you realize that people don't they they understand themselves better. But they don't change. They don't actually get better at this thing called leadership. And so in contrast. N not necessarily

4:08 as a replacement, but as an addition. to their psychological view. A very long time ago when I started studying leaders, I started asking a different question, and the question was not who you are. Where did you come from or demographically, you know, what makes you up? what I started asking was a very practical appli you know applied

4:27 question which is What do you do that other leaders don't do? Now, interestingly what I found very early on was that um most leaders don't know what they do that other leaders don't do. but by talking to people around them and observing them and the like, you you come up with a very different

4:43 um understanding. And that understanding is the way that I like to frame it is is it's a behavioral Which says here the specific things. The specific actions and routines. that eventually become habits if if you're really committed to this.

4:58 that leadership is comprised of. What I'm a big advocate for is the idea that of of course Excellence in just about everything on the planet. from physical acts and and and skill like dancing to hitting a golf ball to preparing for an exam. They they all have routines to them. Excellence.

5:18 and almost everything is has a set of foundational routines. Is it any surprise that leadership also has a set of behaviors and routines? that are associated with it that are very different. than what we generally know. So so that's kind of the difference between the psychological view. and the behavioral view.

5:34 So what get you interested in studying these routines of excellence? So so I I I don't know exactly, but I've always been a very applied person. I've been interested in in organizations most of my adult life. interested in what influences people in organizations

5:50 How they manage conflict. What are some of the things that they that they do in order to excel? And um and and I first started studying conflict in groups. as an academic and and then I got very interested in this idea of leadership. Because it was very obvious that we had a lot of

6:07 very deeply embedded assumptions about what leaders are and who they are and whether they're innate or whether they're s they're developed and how they emerge in in ongoing group conversation and the like. And so that fascination just turned into a lifelong uh commitment to study Leaders And of course if you're gonna study leaders, you wanna study the best of them. And so the first very question was, you know, who who are the best leaders by by what definition are you defining best? And so I came up with a a kind of a interesting view on that. And and then lo and behold, I started

6:39 Um collecting lots and lots of data. In order to understand How I could uh teach other leaders how to be better than they are right now. How how did you define the best leaders and and what is leadership, maybe just so we're all operating with a common understanding for this conversation.

6:56 Yeah, well, I mean what what a what a load of question because it it's imbued with so many charged assumptions, if you will. So so dozens of definitions of leadership and leaders. But but but after reading all that literature for years and years and and working with people.

7:13 for as many uh decades as I have. I've landed on a really simple idea that I I think is fairly self evident. Вот лідер. Із дай мекситус And people better.

7:26 That at the essence of end of the day the and the essence of what they do is they strategically, practically um engage in some level of message decision action routine. But also some level of symbolism sometimes. That actually moves people to be different.

7:44 So when when you offer a an individual that is feeling grief Um comfort you're leading. When when you uh help a a group that's experiencing lots of conflict to de escalate that conflict. even though you're not the team leader, but you're you're doing things like you interject humor, you're leading. So leadership can happen any place. It happens any time someone makes the choice.

8:07 to make the situation or the people better. It doesn't always work just like anything else that we do. Sometimes it actually can blow up in your face. You can make a choice that actually makes things worse. I'm always amazed that you know that people can no no matter what, you can always make the situation worse by your choices. But the object is your intentions are to make things better. Not by carrying an ideology or a value, but by by actually acting. And so that's the the most basic way to think about leadership. And in in if you think of leadership and you agree with that at least fundamentally leadership is about making situations and people better, then the locus of leadership resides in the actual decisions and actions and messages.

8:45 And not in people. That means anybody can lead at any time anywhere. Even young children can learn to lead. They don't have to have authority or position or title to do so. And in fact, when you study the best teams across corporates and as well as nonprofits and even military, you find that leaders emerge that it basically the best teams are are teams of leaders.

9:08 Not a leader that has a team, it's teams of leaders, people leading in different ways all the time. And and so to me that's just fundamental to the very way that we approach the problem and or think about the issue of leadership. Was it surprising to you to find that there's so much commonality as you studied sort of the best leaders in terms of their actions? Hugely surprised. Yeah, I I mean again,'cause I was trained like everyone else. I was trained to look for differences. And and once you look for differences, you can find them any place you look, but finding things that are in common.

9:38 that people share is not easy. Now let me say it's really easy to find the self evident stuff. It's easy that, you know, good leaders Keep their promises. They admit their mistakes.

9:50 They show themselves to be human, they show up in a crisis. The stuff that's been fairly self-evident, and by the way, it wasn't always self-evident, but in the last um fifty years, a hundred years, we we know a lot of the basics. But the fine commonalities the routines of excellence of leadership. Or better said the routines of leadership excellence. to find those things that we don't know that aren't as common that we didn't learn in third grade.

10:14 That that was really hard. And it surprised me it ha when we study really fabulous leaders and we ask that question. What do they do that other people don't do? How quickly you can find certain things, but I'm always surprised. of how many leaders who don't know each other have come from different places, different experiences, different generations, and they all do some of the same things that you and I have never been taught to do. And so that's always surprising to me. Every time I find a new admired leadership behavior. I'm always shocked that I couldn't see it before, didn't see it before, and how ubiquitous it is across most of the leaders that I've ever studied. I just couldn't see it until

10:52 until the pattern emerged. And uh but once it emerges it's pretty It's it's both surprising and and very empowering. I want to get into some of those specific behaviors around different topics for leadership. What are the various components of leadership in terms of I know there's sort of you develop and coach people, you inspire people, you make decisions. Wha how do you think about those? Gosh, there there's so many of them. Um, and there there's probably some that are more core than others. I don't think there's anybody that doesn't think leadership involves making

11:21 Decisions and quality decisions. If you're going to make people better, then the tool that you have is criticism and feedback and evaluation and judgment and advice and counsel. So so the idea of carrying feedback in some way becomes a critical function of leadership. I think m not all leaders develop teams, but I you know, one can argue the families are teams, a type of very particular kind of team. So most leaders have to understand how teams and team cultures come to be. How to create coherence in a team, how to create alignment on a team. So that's a function. of leadership. You know, motivation, inspiration, which you mentioned, I think is such a critical and underplayed um area of leadership because it's so hard to do.

12:00 Especially on an everyday basis. And we have so many misunderstandings about it, but there's many functions from strategy to change. to the ability to um stylistically put yourself together so that people wanna listen to you and yield to what you have to say. Um, lots and lots of functions. We we kind of I I don't really put them in any kind of hierarchy. They're just all interconnected. Yeah, they're all interconnected. And so something that I would call uh an inspiration.

12:27 say routine or a behavior, you might look at it and go, Well, that's really about relationships. And then you and I would say, Well, yeah, you're right. It's about relationships. It's really about your credibility to even create the context. to have that relationship. Oh, so it's a credibility behavior. Oh, but it really what we're really doing when we impart that is we're imparting a symbolism, a value, we're carrying a value. So everything kind of interplays with one another. Um, but lots and lots of different functions of leadership, and we most we know most of them. Uh there's not nothing there that's not that's hidden from us.

12:57 You know, i I wouldn't say anything it is a part of leadership where you would say, Really? That's the you wouldn't be surprised by any common function of leadership that we would go about trying to understand or study. And are these behaviors that the best letters use at work? Or are they just behaviors that are ingrained into them as people and they transfer to relationships outside of work like friendships or Well, you know, that's such a wonderful softball question because there's so many ways I can answer that. So so let me tell you a story.

13:25 Several decades ago, I first started studying what I considered to be the best leaders that I could inside one organization. And we all know that the way the popular culture as well as the academic cultures um define leadership always has something to do with results. Getting things done, performing at a high level, whether that's measured or not, um, being good at what you do. And so results really matter. And in fact, what you find in in our society in particular that results really define leadership in a in a very um uh systemic way. Because we we equate outcome with leadership. You bet. So the idea is we promote people of r of results.

14:03 When I first started studying leaders, what I was surprised by is how many of the best results leaders I could find that were willing to talk to me. And I was again, I was asking and interviewing teams. How many of the teams really despised those leaders that had these fabulous reputations. that these leaders were being promoted very rapidly inside their organizations, but everybody around them would vote would have voted them off the island. They were all scratching their heads saying, you know, I I don't want to work for this person.

14:29 And so so I realized Very quickly. And and and I'm not the only one that results as one part of the equation, but not the whole equation that you have to have followership. And and the idea that you have to have people want to follow you, that that in fact when you find a leader that has great followership skills, people around them will tell you is they they feel differently when they're around them. They want to be engaged by them. They feel differently about themselves when they're engaged by those people. They create a great loyalty to those people. Don't want to let them down. They believe that loyalty is reciprocated, where that person stands for them.

15:04 And so it creates a very different um context by which that person engages the leader. So I quickly started studying leaders that had both results and followership skills. Well, I happen to have a large energy organization that's long since been subsumed by even a bigger energy organization in Chicago. The CEO um had sponsored my study and he he was a leadership junkie, if you will. And he he said, you know, Randall, I I love your your approach to this. I like results, I like followership, and I I like I like finding those leaders, but why don't we just find the leaders inside our organization? Let's do let's do a deep dive on just who are the most the you know, the best leaders in our organization that that produced this. And it was way before I came up with the admired word. Because what I was just doing is looking for great leaders.

15:51 And by the way. You can find in in a large organization or a small organization, you can find a handful of people that actually outperform everybody else consistently. Good markets, bad markets, ups up, you know, lots of talent around them, less talent, lots of resources. Everybody can lead better with resources and revenue. Lots of support from above, less support. There are some people that are able to drive results. So we had our results leaders, we could study them. And then some people that are able to create followership. w wonderful. And so when you find those leaders, people would do anything for them, run into traffic for them, as they say.

16:25 And so I started finding buckets, but you can find a handful of results leaders and a handful of followership leaders, but to find people that actually have both qualities was what I was after. And when I found my very first one in that organization, the first big organization I had access to to do it. What I was shocked by was how often I heard the admired word. Wasn't a word that I used or bandied about. It wasn't even in my my lexicon, really. But when I talked to people, they would say, I admire this person for that. I admire the way they do this, I admire that. And that was their friends, their family, everybody. So I started referring to that person as an admired leader. Then I went on

17:01 the pathway to find more admired leaders. And in fact, I found a second admired leader in that organization. Now The CEO, um, once I told him of my idea, he he was excited. 'Cause I said, listen, I'm looking for admired leaders, leaders that have results and followership that have both qualities really rare. And he said, When would you like my interview?

17:22 And and and uh and he said, My my management team is available to you too. And I thought, wow, isn't that fascinating, right? Because Of course they thought they were admired. They had risen to the very top of the echel of this large corporate publicly traded company. And by the way, very skilled. But in fact The all the I only found two.

17:42 I found lot several results leaders of which there were a few representative on his on his team and he would we'd be characterized that way. And I found a handful of followers leaders, but only two admired leaders. Now the reason I tell you that is because I've been on the hunt for the rest of my life, you know, since then, to find more admired leaders as well as thousands of results leaders and thousands of followership leaders to try to figure out what they do differently. But There was a quality of those first two admired leaders that I thought was an anomaly.

18:10 I thought this is just a coincidence. There's nothing here other than the fact that these two leaders have this. And it was this. They were admired by their Spouses. They were admired by their friends.

18:23 They were admired in the places of their worship. They were admired by their neighbors. They were admired in their communities. They were admired by their team. They were admired by the leaders above them. They were admired everywhere they went. So I thought that was an anomaly. But in fact, it's turned out. That's the very essence of what it means to be admired. See because

18:43 You and I we've been taught about this individual different psychological view for so long. That we believe we have to act differently with different people. And in fact, the best leaders, most admired leaders, do the same thing. They want to. to operate differently in different situations with different people. But they do something that other leaders generally don't. They believe in a set of core behaviors and routines that they do all the time.

19:07 That they don't turn on and turn off. And so when you do some of the best behaviors every place, any place. You become more respected and admired by everybody around you. So isn't it fascinating when you say, you know, does it apply? It applies to everything. So when you find a routine like of making a great decision, it works in your household, it works with your friends, it works in deciding, helping your teenager figure out a college, it works with the critical strategic decisions. that if it's a really a routine that's common and universal to leadership, leadership is leadership and it applies in every aspect of your life.

19:43 So so the most amazing privilege that I have is when I work with with senior leaders, um, largely, and I try to make them better. I'm trying to make them better, the whole person better. I'm trying to make them better spouses and better friends and and better with their teams and better up and better with their boards and better everywhere. And what's cool is If I if I can convince them and show them how to put in practice and really become skillful and then masterful of one of these routines, it works everywhere. And if they can bake it into their style, they're automatically foundationally more effective.

20:16 Before they start uh um adapting the situations and and flexing to people's differences. That's the cool part. That's awesome. And I I think one of the things that I really appreciated about learning about some of these behaviors, which we're gonna dive into right now, is they're also timeless. So when you when when you learn them, I mean it's not something you have to relearn and learn again because it changes or there's a new strategy or a new book or a new thing. It's these apply always across all situations. Yeah, I I I I believe so. You know, and and the one thing that I would say about the timelessness issue is

20:50 If they're truly wisdom and they're truly universal, and then then therefore they're timeless. w we can't know perfectly because we don't have the behavioral or or were textual data probably prior to the nineteen sixties or fifties. That's not very long ago. But I'm convinced that, you know, whether it be Susan Anthony or Abraham Lincoln or you pick a leader that you really, you know, respected in history. I I would almost

21:15 Bet every everything on the farm. that if you went back and you had the behavioral data. you would see that they do all the same things that we've been able to uncover. that the best leaders do today. Because when you know how to give feedback in a particular way, it works with everyone and it always has worked. It's not it's not about

21:32 our culture right now or or technology or any of those things. Let's start with feedback. I mean, everybody needs the right feedback at the right time, but how do how do we convey that in a way to maximize the impact? So feedback's really difficult because, you know, um there's no question that what we say And mostly when we say it. is pretty contextual.

21:53 Like no one would ever be able to come up with a universal that says always say this in this situation or always do this. And even when the timing of things really is is very precise to what's happening, what already happened, what's gonna happen, and so forth. So but when we st when you study really fabulous leaders, what you learn is That the universal of feedback is how they carry messages. So how do they offer criticism? How do they offer feedback? What are some of the things that they do? that are very specific. And then you start to learn things that once you hear them, you naturally start to subscribe to a view that says, oh, there's something there. I can do better at that. That's a really i important part. The other piece is is when I when I look to the practical literature of feedback.

22:37 what you generally get is some useful ideas, without any question, but but they don't have that universal applicability where I can practice them and they work all the time. So I don't become very masterful at them. So it's the difference between um what I normally call technique and routine. So so feedback is the classic area that that occurs in. And that is, so let's just say that I subscribe to the idea. that um I should ask you for permission for me to give you feedback.

23:05 Yeah. I can see the conditions by which that would be a good idea or not a good idea. It speaks to relationships and power and all kinds of things. So I like the behavior. Um it's a it's a fairly broad piece of advice that's given inside there, but it doesn't work in all situations. There's a lot of cases where you shouldn't ask for permission. There's a lot of cases where you've given people feedback over and over again. They haven't acted on it. Um, there's cases where um in situations you'll find yourself in where people want to deflect and uh and want to resist the feedback that you want. So asking for permission, they'll they'll never find the right time or energy to do that uh in the like. Um, and so listen, I I again subscribe to the view that I'm trying to change your behavior with feedback. It's not just catharsis, so I should want you to be ready to hear it, but asking you for permission can be you know a pretty

23:53 pretty broad thing to do. Now what happens is people learn that advice and then it becomes a technique. By that is every time they give feedback, they think oh Okay, maybe I should ask for permission. Well, it doesn't happen in one situation. I'm with my child, you know, yesterday and I'm not, you know, like I wasn't thinking about asking for permission because they needed to hear something right away to even for safety's sake and so on and so on. So what happens with the technique is it's something I do for an effect. I do it for a reason of an outcome.

24:22 Not just the outcome of I want to make you better, I do it because by asking for permission as an example. I get you to want to hear what I have to say. Great. Okay. But the problem with that is as a technique, I don't do it very often. I only do it when I want to have that effect. when I need some catharsis or I need you to to to stop you from doing something, or you being resistant for me, I don't do it. Okay, which means that you automatically know it's not my normal way of offering feedback that I'm only doing something.

24:51 So it's not typical. So but the biggest issue when you do something for technique is you don't do it often enough to become skillful at. So if I were to actually follow most leaders around who who would even tell you they believe in the in the behavior of uh asking for permission. Most of them don't ask for permission all that often. They might ask for it in a formal review or they might ask for it in a given spot. So what they're doing is they're doing it because they think they need to have an effect right now, which makes them less skillful and masterful at it. And and then more importantly, the person on the other side says, this is not what you normally do. So so you're doing something why? You're doing something to have an outcome or manipulate me in some way. So let me put my antennae up and resist this a little bit. So technique gets in our way about everything. Anytime someone gives you a tip or a hack or or some some level of

25:39 Behavior or action that you would say this, you do this for having an effect. If that's when you do it, it's going to have a problem for you at some point, even initially. Um or eventually. Now A routine is something you do because you want to be that person. That's the kind of way that you want to give feedback as an example. You want to commit to that this is and so you master it, you do it all the time in all the feedback that you give.

26:02 And you become masterful at that piece. And you do it on a on a consistent basis, people come to know it as part of your style, so they don't see it as out of the ordinary. And and now you become more and more skillful at it until it's almost second nature and it becomes a habit. So we're after trying to teach leaders how to move things to routine and not do them for the point of technique. And feedback is a classic area. There's a lot of d other pieces of advice, not using the word you because that personalizes things, separating ideas and people, all good advice, by the way. But too easy to use as technique and hard to pull off on an ongoing basis. So feedback's a really interesting area that when you when you really try to get under the covers and find out something cool about it, something neat that you can teach other leaders that's universal, that's timeless, you know, when you find something, it's really, really powerful. Um but it can it can sound like things you already do until you really think about them.

26:55 So can you give me into one? Yeah, give me an example of one of these behaviors. Let's take the idea of of balance. The simple balance. And and and by the way, you know this one. This is in your head. I'm just gonna be very specific about it. Okay. And it and it's gonna take me a little little while to really unpack this one because it's got a lot of different pieces to it, but I think you'll find it.

27:14 Rather fascinating. So so no surprise. Um we all have a natural and intuitive um understanding. that negative information carries a lot more impact and weight than positive information. So even when I think you've done a lousy job.

27:30 I'll normally start it with some throwaway like oh that went pretty well, like, yeah, you really worked hard at that. Like, oh, you know, the audience to really like like that one piece. Um, you know, you'll start out with some softening of the blow. All right, because number one, you you want people to hear you, but number two, you naturally know that if you go negative to start with that people withdraw, they shut down, they don't they react, they do all kinds of things. So so naturally what happens is we start to offer feedback. Most feedback and criticism, most of it other than praise and flattery and so forth, has has a negative tinge to it. And so not all not all not all of it, but a lot but more of it, when you when you're trying to improve people's performance, you're giving them at least constructive criticism around try this differently, do this and so forth.

28:16 So because we know that the negative and the positive are very different and because we know the negative is overweighted. It's called the negativity effect, by the way, not not my research. We naturally buffer almost everything we say on on a scale. We start with a little bit of positive and then we offer a little negative, and then we then we get to our negative. Now, if I do that consistently, if I give you one little positive and then I give you my four criticisms, the balance is is is is not there. It's actually out of bounds, right? So so let's take an example of of uh of that just real simply. Let's just say let's take a the idea example of a presentation. I'm just gonna make regul make it up on the top of my head, but let me give you two two pieces of feedback presentation.

28:55 Right. So my first feedback goes, Hey, the presentation went pretty well. I think the audience was engaged, but listen. You know, your slide in the deck uh slide ten, it was like not dis not really understandable. And slide fifteen confused everybody. You know, I didn't think you tied the introduction to the your conclusion, so that you lost people when at the end. When you got to QA, you started out okay, but Boy, you were really flaffing on the second.

29:19 a question and your answer was really weak. And I thought the audience was not as responsive at the end as they should have been. Across the presentation. And you're thinking, wow. Okay. I mean R really? You thought the thing went okay and that the audience was fairly engaged? Like

29:34 I don't remember that, but I remember you just you just crapped a lot on everything that I just did. And I don't hear much of that, by the way, but let me give you a different one. Uh different view. Let me give you the same feedback but in balance. So the individuals instead the leader says to you Listen, I think the the audience was was engaged across your your presentation. I I think it went pretty well. I wanna tell you that uh I never saw slide eight before and I thought it was masterful. I thought you took something really

30:00 Complex and made it simple. I thought when you reached uh before you got to QA, when you reached your main point. Um, I thought that you hit it hard several times to the point where it resonated with the group. I think they were excited to get to QA to ask you questions. I thought you started out QA really well. And I believe that your answer to the fourth question, which was the hardest question of all, around like why we do what we do, you you just hit it out of the park. Now let me be critical on the other side. Okay. You know, your slide five was was indecipherable. We gotta do something about that. Your slide ten, like, really made took something that um was was

30:39 uh complex and made it even more complex. I didn't think you tied the introduction inclusion nearly strongly enough. I thought when you got to the QA, your second answer to the second question was really flat footed and really left people wanting. And I think the or the overall people could have been a lot more engaged if some of those things were fixed. That's an example of the difference between feedback in balance versus feedback being totally out of balance, because I don't know anybody that wants the first one. There are a lot of people that don't want the second one either, by the way, but if you really want to get better, you want the second one. And you can deal with the balance of it. So now what is what did we learn? I'm not telling you anything yet. I haven't told you the behavior yet.

31:17 So the behavior is not just about being in balance. It's about how you're in balance. And when we study the really best leaders, the best leaders on the planet, the most admired leaders in everywhere, they all do the same thing. They all start positive, just like we all do intuitively when we're going to be critical. But they're positive.

31:34 Uses vivid. Elaborate. And as um detail. as the negatives are going to be. And they generally

31:44 match in terms of number. So If I'm gonna give you five criticisms I probably need to have three or four or five Really positive things.

31:53 But they can't just be at a level of vividness or detail. That is not equal to what I'm gonna do in a second. So if I'm gonna focus, I'm gonna start positive and I'm gonna go as as deep into that positive. As I can. And then by the way, if

32:08 If I tell this to leaders all the time, they'll say, Well, I have five criticisms, but I only have one really good positive that I can focus on. I well, first of all tell them stretch yourself, right? See if you can come up with two. Right. But more importantly. They're only ready to hear from you.

32:22 Two criticisms right now. Пикалс. And again, it doesn't have to be perfect, doesn't it be two to two or three to three, but it needs to be slowly or or somewhat imbalanced to do so. Now

32:34 What I also think is interesting about that behavior is When you become masterful at it. You practice it all the time. There is no criticism. That you can't give that's in balance. Nine.

32:44 And the balance is not about what you say, it's about how. And again, starting positive, how detailed, how vivid, how elaborate are are you in the positive. As well as the negative. But let's look at a different aspect of the balance issue, which I think is equally fascinating, which is All relationships.

33:02 are in balance, either in positive or negative because Almost everything that a leader says reports to them or works with them. is either positive or negative. There's not a lot of neutral. And that's true with teachers and and students. It's true with parents and

33:17 Children. Okay, where the power relationship exists. It's almost everything. So So I'll leave it to people like John Gottman and other people to talk about marriages, because the same thing would apply to marriages, but let's just talk about leader relationships, how quickly they can get out of balance. Every time I talk to you, I'm focused on trying to get you to be better, but in the process, I'm giving you negative feedback. I'm giving you criticism. I I yeah, I might spike on a couple of things that that I say are positive, but I'm out of balance. And so what happens is

33:45 When you have a relationship. That it has Almost always negative information, negative feedback versus positive. Then what what happens is People would draw.

33:55 They basically stop listening. Or they react. And so, you know, I I can't tell you how many leaders I've dealt with in my life who will say I have a team member or I have a child in my life. And every time I say something, even before I get it out, th they're defensive, they're counter arguing, they're right, and and and I know immediately it's because they feel as if their relationship with that person is out of balance, that they have to defend themselves because

34:21 the the equation is hugely negative to positive. And so they're they know a criticism is coming their way and they're bracing against it, which is why they're counter arguing or they're turning off or they're sulking before you even finish. where they shake their head before the you you even get the the whole idea. And so anytime a relationship is out of balance. negative to positive in terms of the general feedback and criticisms that are offered in that relationship, you're gonna get, you're gonna have that evaluative climate. And it's gonna go hugely negative. Now

34:51 The opposite is equally pro problematic, by the way, especially with children. You can have relationship that is really, really positive. All you say is positive stuff, but there's very little negative. So it's out of balance that way. And most people would say to me, Well, how can that be a problem? It's a problem because what happens is When I do offer a piece of criticism, or somebody else does. People freak out. They they they're not ready for it because they've only heard positives.

35:15 Several examples. One of my favorite examples is I sat down with a leader who had gotten 15 years of positive performance reviews, got a brand new leader, and that leader was Fairly critical. And that leader in their first review gave them a very honest, what I thought was an honest and fair review. But they couldn't see it as honest and fair because they had been used to so much superlative. For so many years from so many leaders that were not courageous enough to be honest with them.

35:40 That They absolutely went catatonic when they saw this particular feedback, which I thought was just objective. That happens with kids all the time, too. You want to really prepare children for success. You have to give them a nice balance of feedback.

35:55 Positive, negative. Again, it doesn't have to be perfect. Um, but too much positive makes it so that people get alarmist when they hear negative, and too much negative means people defend themselves on a good basis. You and I can do better. by striving to be more in balance in our relationships. And then when we are going to be Специфікли і на критико момент.

36:15 trying to make somebody better with feedback. We need to start positive and make that That positive set of remarks. be as vivid and elaborate and as detailed as the negative is going to be. That's a behavior.

36:28 that you'll find that almost everybody that's great at feedback. Athletic coaches that are fabulous, dance instructors. Leaders we've studied in corporates and the like. They all tend to do it in some form or another. They're in better balance than everybody else, which is why people accept their feedback a lot differently. You and I could start doing that better tomorrow.

36:48 We could look at any of our relationships right now and say Which of my relationships is out of balance? Which ones do I have more negative to positive, more positive to negative? Am I am I imbalanced with my marriage? Am I in balance with my kids? Am I in balance with all each of my team members? And then we also had the ability then to say, okay, tomorrow I'm gonna be um preparing to give you some feedback on something that just happened. How do I prepare myself? What are the positives and what are the and how do I describe them vividly? Let me I don't have to rehearse, let me get ready to be in balance so that I can practice this and make this a natural part of my leadership.

37:23 That's a behavior. that we consider an admired leader of feedback. How do you repair a relationship? that's broken. Like do you go to that person and Do you just start with like, Hey, I feel like our relationship is broken, it's out of balance.

37:37 And we need to fix that, or do you just start to fix it? That's a great question. And by the way, that's not a bad strategy. It's what's called what the academic literature called goi meta. having a conversation about our conversations and the like. There's a lot of different things you could do, but if you were in a relationship that was out of bounds, you know, you you you're just gonna it's gonna take some time to get it back into bounds. Um let me give you a uh uh an example for me that's that's real and personal. So so I had a um a chief financial officer that I I worked with in a very large organization. They had joined this organization about six months before I had started working with them. And um, they had gotten themselves imbr embroiled in in all the the lack of performance of this organization. One of the reasons they were brought in was to help turn this thing around. And almost all the metrics, almost everything about this organization was negative. Almost all the conversations with their peers. was also negative.

38:24 And this person, um, she was very talented, but almost every conversation that you know, you she walked in your office, you knew you were gonna get blasted about something that your team and your performance numbers weren't revealing or doing and and the like. So people s quickly got came to to to both see her negatively as well as avoid her like crazy. So when I first got involved, I looked at it and I thought, Wow, I mean, almost by necessity. These relationships are really out of balance. But they don't have to be.

38:51 So when I started offering some simple advice, and really the advice is so simple it it it kind of shocking, I said, you know, we need to balance these relationships, but not in the that conversation. Those negative conversations are going to be negative conversations, but but we need to start having other conversations that where the conversations are imbalance. So so that advice, which I think would work pretty well with with most people, it goes like this. I needed her to start having conversations around the talent that she saw in teams and where it was good and what was going on with them personally and learning more about them, and stopping in in their offices and simply showing them something that she had just gotten excited about. And she needed to start having some normal conversations that were not negative, focus on anybody's results or metrics.

39:33 in a way that created the conversations and better balance, not perfectly whatever else. And as soon as she did that, about three months after that, the relationships started to evolve and and become more productive. So even conversations from one to another can can be a balance or not balance. But your strategy of uh of talking about it first And talking about we're out of balance that I know I've been more critical. But by the way, people with high standards that really care deeply about other people. Sometimes are

40:01 Very critical people. s even censorious. And so it's not easy for them, even if they admit that they're overly critical. To stop being so. And stop being evaluative. I can't tell you how many parents that I've talked to that they think they're being loving. And all what you know from an outside point of view, all I hear is like, wow. Your your child is just getting, you know, dumped on over and over again. And they would say, Well, but that but that's what the world is like. That's what that's the only thing that's gonna make them better. And I I agree, but it's not about not dumping on them. It's about being imbalanced. And so sometimes you just have to take the time to say,

40:34 Let's have other conversations that are so positive that are focused on that that it equals out and and creates an equilibrium for the feedback. Because the once you're in an evaluative climate, it is it is really hard on both parties. The one party feels as if they have to defend themselves, and the other party is frustrated that everything they say is misinterpreted. And in it's a problem. By the way, great sign when somebody tells you like do I do anything right? You know, is is it ever good enough for you? I mean, that's such a great sign that that they're they believe they're in an evaluative place. With you.

41:07 And you have to fix that. And if you don't fix it, it has long term consequences on the relationship for sure. One thing I wanna talk about with feedback is when we talked on the phone uh last, you had mentioned that There's certain types of leaders that just naturally don't give Positive feedback. We you mentioned um the standards that they have for themselves and sort of like they don't want to say something because it seems inauthentic, right? Like they don't want to just find something, it needs to be like really amazing.

41:34 You wanna talk to me a little bit about that? Yeah, well, um, you know, praise is tough for some people because they they don't personally need it. So talk go back to the individual difference piece. I don't need it, so why would I give it to you? Um, but the most common reason that I find uh that leaders don't give praise is because they have really high standards. that when they say excellence they really want people to to to do excellent work.

41:59 Um they withhold that. They they watch people um seek their approval to get that praise and that makes them feel powerful a little bit, makes them feel a little bit more as if they're having the influence they want. And so that even encourages them to withhold it more. I've been around very few uh leaders who get too much praise from the people above them.

42:20 um in almost any organization. Now you will see that um I think it was the old I think it was Einstein that wrote the quote, you know, uh can't wait for us to get over this price so I can get back to my work. People that are r super dedicated to achievement um will oftentimes tell you that they don't need praise because their intrinsic motivation is so powerful and so strong that the external kind of praise, approval, recognition doesn't doesn't have much impact on them. But for the most part, most of us want more praise than we get. And leaders are stingy about it because either they don't need it. Or because their standards, especially results based leaders, their standards are such where they want people to strive and get to excellence before they offer something positive. And by the way, once you're out of the habit of praise, it's really hard to get back into the habit.

43:04 praise, which is probably why Ken Blanchard's whole book, The One Minute Manager, was so powerful for in the sixties and seventies, um, because it's such a such an important piece of of leadership. But praise is just one box uh of of offering feedback and it's an important box. Um, but most leaders uh don't offer it nearly as much. You gave me one tip when we were talking to to sort of like um as a means to to get better at that, which was the third party praise. So don't don't praise direct directly. Do you want to expand on that just for a second? Yeah. Well first of all, Gene, no tips. Only no techniques. Yeah, yeah. One behavior. So so here's what we know. We we know that most leaders are prayed staggy, but when you study the best leaders, they're not any less pressed to praise staggy. Again, the best leaders are really results focused and and they are they have a tremendous investment in in around excellence and achievement, um, which is one of the things that makes them fabulous leaders. But if you talk to even the most admired leaders,

44:01 And their teams, you'll find their teams go, this person doesn't offer near the amount of recognition, approval, appraise that I I would I I would prefer. Um, but when you go deeper than that, what you find is they have committed themselves to a routine. that actually has more impact. Which is third party compliment surprise. Which is to say, when somebody does something really

44:21 Excellent or they see excellence any place. If they can I want them to tell the the the party directly. But but when they can't or if they're not comfortable The the object is to always tell a third party. Now, why is third party praise so powerful? So number number one, I made you look good in front of somebody else. That's always a good thing. Number two, there's no butts in that.

44:41 In other words. High high standard people will always have a butt. Like that was a great presentation, but Right, you could do this better. There's no but if you're telling a third party.

44:52 But but the real power in third party compliment or third party praise is that I perceive a higher level of sincerity about it. If you didn't really believe it. Would you would you actually tell a third party? And by the way, it's time release vitamin. It's gonna come back to me.

45:08 It might come back to me tomorrow, might come back to me three weeks from now, might come back to me in two months from now. But that person Who that third party that I've shared that praise to will actually mention it at some point. And you will see the sincerity, the view that you really think that I did excellent or I was excellent in that given context go straight to the roof. because that's the the power of third party praise. And we can all get create a routine out of third party praise um in a much more powerful way, in a more consistent way. I coach leaders all the time. Anytime you see excellence, I want you to tell the first person as much as you can, but always make it a rule.

45:46 Like a hot potato you have to tell a third party. And um when you walk in and you and you praise your leader to one of your leader's peers or Or your son or your daughter. with one of their friends them not present or or your spouse or partner to one of the you know, your in-laws or one of your neighbors, it always comes back.

46:06 And people are always um Astonished that you would go out of your way. to offer third party praise that you're you must really have thought that was special. And you can get you can get to a place where it's not just a tip or a technique. You can do it all the time. And stylistically, it's how you give feedback. It's part of your your routines, right?

46:26 You bet. Let's talk about elevating performance, which is sort of what are the behaviors that we can um use to improve the performance of others and sort of like maintain and their focus and Yeah, I'm l listen, again, you wouldn't think performance uh could be uh universal. Like performance is very specific to the job, to the task, to the organization, uh, and the like. But in fact, when you study the best leaders and you try to make sense of how some of them drive or elevate a higher level of performance. That a lot of them do some some of the very similar things to one another. And so we've identified, you know, twenty five, thirty different behaviors of how the best leaders elevate performance. And and um some of them are anything but common sense.

47:09 Само до збез I think are really simple to do. But they're not intuitive. Let's take the idea of priority. Um, because I think that's a really interesting one. It's just not intuitive to me to distinguish between issues of, say, objectives or goals.

47:25 um or outcomes or you know, KPIs or OKRs if you're into that jargon and so the or the idea of a priority. So So what what's the difference, right? Well it's just it's just long term, short term. And it's and it's level specificity. A priority is something that's shifting all the time. It basically says it's my focus right now. It's it's maybe my highest focus. It's never my day job if it's truly a priority, because that's that's an ongoing commitment. But there's always something that I should have as a higher focus of my attention and my time, my energy, and that I'm more fully engaged on.

47:59 What what we have found is over and over again That when you get people's priorities right on the short term. A lot of the longer term goals and issues take care of themselves. So that you'll find that you'll get higher results if priorities are set. But in fact, what most leaders do is the opposite. They are very, very clear, maybe even too clear because there's too many of them.

48:19 of all the s critical success factors and the objectives and the long term goals and the target goals and the stretch goals and everything else. And they're not nearly as focused on the short term priority that of everyone's focusing on right now. One of the reasons they're not is'cause it's hard. in one sense because you have to constantly calibrate and recalibrate people's priorities. You gotta be checking with them all the time. asking them what's your focus right now? What are you really spending your time on? What's what's your where's your energy?

48:45 What's the most important thing this this week? uh or even today. And and then when you listen to them to be able to help calibrate them to say that really is important, but isn't this more important or isn't this of a higher focus? And when what you find is when teams or individuals have their priorities right. Lots of other things happen.

49:04 In a really good way. My view is that every single person in your leadership life should have a priority right now. And if they don't, your job as of a as a leader is to make sure that they have that priority. And by sometimes starting with you yourself, because good leaders always start with themselves and say, here's what I'm focused on right now.

49:23 This is my priority. How about yours? And then if they hear a response that is of a smaller priority or less priority, then let's talk about it. Like I that surprises me a little. Why is that such a high focus for you? Isn't this more important and the like? Um, and listen, every parent should be doing that with kids. Every every team leader should be doing it with a team. Every CEO should be doing it with their with their business heads. Everybody should have direct priorities going on.

49:47 Today, tomorrow, next week. Most priorities don't last for more than a couple of weeks, and we should be recalibrating them and calibrating them all the time. The best leaders do that. They do that in around Robbins, they do that in staff meetings, they do that in conversations. They're constantly asking people and sharing their own priorities and then asking people to think about is this a higher use of their time and refocusing people's efforts. And that has a bigger impact on long term results. then does making clarity around multiple outcomes and and metrics.

50:19 Can you make that real? Like you did with the the other example for the behavior. I I had a teenager once, I mean he's older now, but I had a teenager once and I I remember distinctly him coming home and I would say and I said to him one day, What's your priority this week? And he said he he was a lacrosse player and he la he was looking forward to a particular game. He said, Uh um the it's the big game on Friday, that's my priority. I'm working out, I'm practicing, I'm really focused. And I saw that's great. I said, um, as far as I remember, you know, your calculus exam is like fifty percent of your grade is on Friday's exam. And he said, Yeah. And I said, I think that's a lot higher priority. And let me make something clear to you.

50:54 uh if we don't do well on that exam, we're not prepared, you're not even gonna play in the lacrosse game, right? I mean, that's a much higher priority. That's a simple, fun one for me, but it makes the point. Sometimes people have self-interest that holds something up higher that in fact misses The point. Too many times they don't have priorities. But I'll give you an ex another example, which I think is more concrete than that. In an organization that I'm in, I recently asked a senior leader. uh of all the things going on with the team, what is the highest priority? What are they really focused on? And he gave me a much longer range piece. And I said, well, short term, what what is it? So the long term goal was around, of course, achieving certain kinds of outcomes and process redesign. And then as I got them narrower and narrower, this was a gentleman But then there was one relationship that had been problematic for the last few weeks that he and I had talked about.

51:42 And I said, without you resolving the conflict in that relationship, isn't everything else a little bit dysfunctional? And he agreed and I said, Shouldn't that be your highest priority? And he said and then he admitted, Yeah, I've been putting that off. And I go, If it's not your highest priority, you're gonna put it off forever. You need to make it a priority in the next couple of days to sit down, air this out, and try to at least manage this conflict as best you can. He agreed. Called me a few days later and said Oh my goodness gracious. He goes, Well, it's my next priority after that. I said, No, no, only you can decide that. Right. And and and by the way, but you gotta have one. And and I'm happy to be a sounding board to say that doesn't sound right to me.

52:19 Sounds like with what I know. There's something else that'd be should be a high priority. That that would be an example. as as you were saying that, what are some of the questions that you ask when you go in to sort of calibrate where you are with a particular leader. So so I wanna know from their own pr point of view what what they consider to be their signature strengths and weaknesses.

52:38 I wanna know what they consider both and and they'll always ask me, You mean as a leader and I go no as a human being. Right? Um, because to me they're all the same thing. Okay, if you're impatient as a leader, you're impatient as a as a as a spouse and as a parent. And if you're somebody that's that's decisive, you're decisive everywhere. So I I've never seen anyone take any strength and turn it on and turn it off. They have they have it just about everywhere. So I want to know from their perception. I often want to know whoever knows them best in the world. Whether that be a partner or spouse, like what do they think the strengths and weaknesses are? I'm amazed at how many people will go, That's a really good question.

53:10 Like I I don't know that. Well they should. Okay. And then I'll normally ask them Well well what would your leaders What would they say your greatest strength and weakness is? Because A, I'm learning a couple of things. A, I'm learning that that really what are some of the things that are helping them achieve outcomes as well as things in their way, but I'm also learning how self aware they are.

53:29 When I go talk to that manager, where's the gap between what they told me and what the manager is going to tell me and so forth, um, and the like. And I'm also learning a little bit about are they able to articulate and be as detailed on the negative? as they are on the positive, because that's a sign of self awareness too. Um a lot of people can really get specific around their positives, but then gloss over their negatives, which means they're not operating their negatives. So that that's one of the things that I ask. I ask many different things, but that's probably if you told me I only had 2 minutes with somebody and I was I can only explore one topic, more than knowing their their work history and and the size of their team and you know, who's doing what and whatever and what I I wanna know what they what their self perception is around their strengths and weaknesses and how other people they perceive seeing them.

54:13 But by the way, one of my favorite questions of all time that I ask everybody is when you first meet people for the first time. Like what do they get wrong about you? Like what what do they misperceive about you? What do they overestimate about you, underestimate about you? Like what do they just get wrong? And by the way, it takes self awareness in order to answer that question. And I eventually come to learn whether that was accurate or not. Um, and that tells me an awful lot about that leader.

54:39 Um, so that's a that's a really important piece for me. I'm trying to figure out, you know, who people are by knowing how aware they are of themselves and what they think are the greatest strengths and weaknesses that they have. That's probably the the primary piece that I'm after. I want to get back to some of these behaviors in a second, but a brief sort of uh tangent here. What is the hardest behavior That you

55:01 teach or offer to transfer to others. Yeah, I'm not sure there is one. I mean, because it lots gonna come down to how committed and passionate you are to change that thing. Sometimes that's gonna be a function of whether

55:16 um you've gotten a lot of resistance or you haven't been very effectual in that area and so forth. But I I would turn your question around to say Um why are some people coachable and other people not coachable in any given behavior? And it what my experience is some people like themselves too much. They aren't open to making change because they like the outcomes they're getting. They've they've been very successful. They when they look in the mirror, they like what they see. By the way, most of those people get almost their advice all their advice and counsel in the same mirror. They are very comfortable with the kinds of uh responses and reactions they get. They're good enough.

55:49 And so when I come to them and say we should probably work on X or you know, you want to change Y. The response is yeah, and they'll they'll they'll dabble at it, but they won't really be committed to it. So I find that this whole issue of of ego, of vanity, of success. of of being comfortable of of being good enough is a b as big an impediment, and that makes it true of any behavior that I'm trying to teach them.

56:12 or show them or get them to do differently. And some people have just been rewarded by the wrong to the wrong things. They they've drawn the wrong lessons from good outcomes. A classic example with with a lot of uh organizational leaders is that they they've been harsh, stern people. And people generally uh perform at a high level for them, and they think it's because of their harshness and sternness that that's why they've gotten there. That's the lesson they've learned. when in fact I can prove to them empirically that it's actually in spite of their harshness and sternness that they would even get even more out of people if they if they varied that style in different ways. But they've learned that lesson and they're not gonna give it up because they've been that successful on that particular uh style trajectory for a really long time.

56:56 A lot of this seems unsustainable, right? I I remember working in a large organization before and What I noticed was this common pattern of stories. And the stories were I came into this team, I cleaned it up, and then I left, right? Because you don't stay in these teams very long. You get promoted. you sort of move on to a new job and then but the next person would always come in and tell the exact same story. Yeah. Yeah, no no surprise.

57:22 Is is that a common thing or it is. Yeah, it is. I mean, because the the larger culture And the talent in that organization. is what is influencing whether Um different kinds of

57:34 processes or acts or strategies are gonna be enacted in a way that Produces sustainable outcomes. I believe it was Peter Drucker that said uh culture eat strategy for lunch. I would tell you that talent um sets the table.

57:48 Um, and so without talent you've got nothing. If I'm trying to influence an organization at the deepest level, I want to deal with talent first. Um, but but culture has a big impact, and that's what you're really describing. You're describing a culture. that is either self satisfied or that believes everything's gonna be a fad, they're gonna wait new leaders out, they're they're they're they're really they like the outcomes they're getting by being dysfunctional. You know, I I I have to tell you a fun story for me. So when I was first starting to work with

58:16 Senior leaders. in organizations, I was working in a large insurance company. And um they had a pro a problem that had been a perennial problem for them. And the CEO had asked me to work on this problem with the team, and I worked on the problem and I came up with what I thought was a a very practical, a very powerful, very elegant solution. Um, I presented it in front of the uh the executive team. They all believed similar to me that it was really a beautiful piece of work. And so I was very pleased. And then uh and then I watched and they didn't do anything. Like they didn't change.

58:46 They didn't they didn't bring it up, they didn't execute on it or anything else. Then about six months later, the CO and I were talking and I said, You know He goes, Yeah, we really need to commit ourselves to that and And we need to revisit that. And so we revisit it again and I brought it up again and we talked about it and then they didn't do anything about So I I was scratching my head and they were they were paying me a very nice fee and so I didn't want to complain too much by scratching my head and I was talking to a mentor I had at the time and I described the problem to them.

59:12 And and they said, Oh, that's in I can tell you exactly why that's happening and I said, Well why? And they said Well because because somebody, maybe multiple people are benefiting from that problem. They like that problem. They want to own that property. They want to keep that problem because they're benefiting from that problem.

59:28 And when I really started thinking about that, that is the essence of why a lot of change doesn't occur. Because People like the outcomes, not all of them. They they they they admit that there's dysfunction on one side of the equation on that problem. But to give it up and to change and get away and lose that issue. means that they lose something.

59:46 And they really like it. They're committed to that thing. And so a lot of change organizationally and in families and in relationships don't occur not because they're not the right answers. We don't know what to do. But because People benefit.

1:00:00 from both in terms of power, resources, right? They benefit from those problems existing. You and I come up with all the elegant solutions we want. But one of the reasons that people don't do things is because they like the dysfunction that they have. I don't mean the complete part of the dysfunction. But they they like they like the outcomes that they're getting right now and they don't want to change. How do you address that?

1:00:21 Or do you just leave it and people need to see it themselves? Yeah, to a degree. People learn when they're ready to learn. Um people act when they're ready to act. There's nothing that I can do to to Propel them forward if if they're not ready to pro but sometimes we can talk through If you expose

1:00:37 why people don't want to change or what the benefits you change are or expose that people are benefiting from this this issue. Um, I remember going to a large organization once. Um, there were like um eighty six different mediums for communication in this organization. We were working with the person that was in charge of all of them. And one of our advice pieces of advice was well, first they needed to really narrow them down. They needed to create a little bit of a communication council to control them and have a common message. Um, they needed to vet the messages with the executive team and you know, all common sense stuff. Nothing nothing that's surprising. And he got honest with me one day and he goes, Okay, that's great, you do some great work, we're not gonna do any of it.

1:01:15 And and I said, W what do you mean? He goes, If I do what you're suggesting, the the the communication of this organization will get tremendously better, but I won't control it. I uh it won't come from me. it it'll come from lots of other people and and right now Our messages are powerful because I'm the I'm basically the editor.

1:01:33 I'm I'm the one that controls all eighty six mediums and so So you're right, but you're wrong. And so I'm not going to do anything. We're going to keep it exactly the way it is. That's a perfectly a great example of this idea that I benefit from this problem. And so I'm going to keep this problem the way it is. People wanna stay in power. They wanna stay in control. They wanna they wanna have influence. They want they wanna be paid uh as much as as they can get paid. And so they do things that are not just self-interested, but they do things that are in the interest of maintaining those things.

1:02:04 Um, even when it's not obvious. And a lot of times that's just subconscious too, right? Like they're not Yeah, sometimes. Yeah. Yeah. Uh sometimes. Let's talk about some of the behaviors that we can use to inspire others. Do you have a favorite one? Well, can I talk about fairness first? Yeah. Can we get into that? Yeah, yeah. So inspiration motivation. I I know of very few leaders.

1:02:25 who think they're too inspirational or too motivational. So, and it's such a big part of leadership. It's such a big part of being a great parent and a great team leader, a great CEO, a great anything. I'm a great instructor. being able to inspire and motivate people. Now let's talk about the difference between those two things first. So motivation is generally not by my definition academically thought to be anything, any action that compels other action.

1:02:50 So when a leader does something that makes it so that you do something differently, then I've motivated you to do that different thing. So that motivation isn't is a compulsion to do things. So It's an action that compels action. Inspiration is lighting the fire itself. It's inspiring you to want to do better, to do different things. To achieve and to excel.

1:03:11 And so it's just a larger term. Омост евіньо та сагрі із мотивational. На all motivational things are inspiration, so for example. I might offer you a disincentive. Um that is, if you don't do something, I'm gonna give you the cold shoulder.

1:03:28 I'm gonna not talk to you, I'm gonna act out of sorts. Най мотив you. to do what I've ever asked you to do, but it doesn't inspire you. doesn't it doesn't light your fire in any way. In fact, you're just you're just complying and you're and you're being motivated to this thing in w in order to avoid my my distaste, my pain that I'm giving you by giving you the cold shoulder. Right. Not all things motivational, inspirational.

1:03:51 But most things that are inspirational are actually motivational to some degree. But I don't bandy the terms about because I use them kind of fluidly, um, because I want leaders to be both light the fire as well as to get people to act. You know both, right? Now We have a lot of good things in our head, but it all comes from that psychological view. It all comes from individual difference. And those things are are really, a lot of them um very compelling. So you know, we know that you know what motivates one person inspires one person isn't what inspires somebody else.

1:04:22 that I give one person uh high standards, a a really big challenge, a high bar, a swift kick in the butt, uh, you know, some fiery rhetoric, and it motivates them to do more. somebody else, I give them an exact same message and it actually demotivates them. They feel singled out. They feel as if I am don't have confidence in them. They they feel as if that challenge uh undermines their ability to to to concentrate and focus. I mean, so people are really different. One person I I offer praise, I give some recognition, they'll do anything for my recognition, somebody else.

1:04:55 It's like they were a force field bounces off them as if like it has no effect at all. People are really different. So the first thing that we normally do is we try to size people up. And we know that we have to understand what motivates people and inspires people differently. And so there's a fairly tight list. Um, there's some that are more popular than others. If if you uh read somebody like Daniel Pink or where you read the people that wrote uh Prime to Perform, which is a really good book, or something else, they'll they'll tell you that things like mastery. is is something that really inspires and motivates people that investing in you being better.

1:05:28 Especially with w in the in the newer organizations, right? Um, the idea of of of having a higher purpose. you know, the the ability to to answer the why question, what why are we doing this and and giving people higher reasons. That's motivational and inspirational. They they will say, which it w which is all correct, by the way, they will say um things like um autonomy, control, responsibility. Right, that giving people more autonomy, more control is very inspirational. Although those are very different things because I'll tell you that there's some people don't really care about the higher purpose. S some people d aren't trying to master anything, and other people

1:06:06 that will, for the most part, if you give them responsibility, they will run from it. So so even though they would say that those are things that more contemporary leaders do invest in, and I agree a hundred percent, people are really different. Now Let's add to that list. We know that incentives play a big role. Especially organizationally and motivating and inspiring people. So and incentives can be not just be compensation, that can be affection and time and resources and knowledge. There's lots of ways to incent people. In large organizations, I've been in financial services and coaching a lot of leaders there for a long time. I mean, there are some people that are really coin operated. You know, they only do things for the coin. They compensation drives everything for them.

1:06:44 And other people not so much. Right. Um we know that some people really like to belong, to have status, to to have a certain title, to drive a certain car, to go to a certain university. They're very motivated and inspired. to to achieve those kinds of desires, other people not so much. You and I both know that in addition to praise that that sometimes it's just relationships having watching somebody that we admire, respect.

1:07:08 and wanting to be like them, be around them, um, gain their respect, um, and have their their recognition implicitly is a is a big influence on whether whether we'll do what you know, what what we should be doing or like lighting our fire, right? But but people are really different. So the deal is what happens is Most of us try to become more inspirational by sizing people up and then deciding, you know, you need more incentive and this other person needs more con autonomy and control, and somebody else needs more mastery. And by the way, praise will never get you in trouble. And so so we try to adapt and flex.

1:07:42 And what we realize is that life is really much more emergent than that. In in the ongoing conversation that happens all day long with many people and all these relationships we have, it's almost impossible to adapt and flex like that. That even with our kids that we see all the time, or with a spouse or with you know, a good portion of the time, it's really tough to to size up every situation and know exactly what motivates and inspires them, and then to react in in in the emergence. of of the meaning that transpires between us in conversation and in action for us to actually pull that off. So so what most leaders do in defense is in in a very calculated way, every once in a while they'll sit down and try to do something that's inspirational, motivational, but generally they have a go to. And their go to is whatever inspires them.

1:08:24 So if there's somebody that's inspired by praise, they generally offer a lot of praise just about every And if there's somebody that really is inspired by uh the idea of influence and empowerment and control and autonomy, then they give that to everybody. And they they kinda say and so they they have a go to. Which means they're missing some people completely. And other people it depends and the like.

1:08:43 And so Lo and behold, we go off and we're not as inspirational, motivational, because we just have a hard time becoming skillful and masterful at this thing of inspiration, motivation. Right. And and that's where we kind of are. But when we started studying leaders a really long time ago, what we learned was there's actually universal. of motivation inspiration. One that everybody on the planet, independent of culture, gender, age,

1:09:06 um experience. Everybody wants it. that that um everyone desires it. And in the process of that, if we can master that thing, it doesn't mean we don't do the other things. We should be doing those too. But that if we get good and skillful at this one thing, Then it becomes the game changer of how you really how the best leaders really motivate and inspire. That's where I want to go.

1:09:28 So the way I like to to to uh offer the frame of this, or the way that I like to introduce this idea. is by offering a frame because we've been able able to identify 40 plus behaviors of inspiration motivation. um that are all about this idea. And I'll maybe cover, you know, one or two of them with you right now. But in the process you can figure out the rest of them if you have the idea in your head. So what's the idea? So so I want to tell you a story. 'Cause'cause golf has always been an important thing to me. I don't know if you've ever played golf, but I played in college and I I competed it for a long time and I I love the game and love what it represents and the like. And and so I've been a big um fan of an aficionado of golf. And so so I want to tell you a story about Tiger Woods.

1:10:08 So so in two thousand five. Tiger Woods was at the height of his prowess, way before the nine iron went through his windshield and all the uh the different um unseemly things came out and his life fell apart and things changed. Right. But in two thousand five he was he had he had the skills that nobody had ever seen on a golf course. Um, and he he was doing things that nobody could ever even imagine that he could do.

1:10:30 Especially um in competitive under competitive pressure. And so in in that particular spring of two thousand five, he's at Augusta. He's playing in the Masters Golf Tournament. Something we you know we all know about that, unless we don't watch television. And one of the majors of golf. It's the fourth round, the fat last round, the final round.

1:10:47 And he's on the sixteenth hole. He's got a one shot lead. It's par three over some water. Okay, and he's hit his shot. Okay, um right on what's considered the collar. of the fairway and the rough.

1:10:58 Which means there's Two or three or four inches of rough right behind where the ball is sitting, and then there's clip grass. So w that means that when the ball when the club face comes through the ball, it has to it has to cut across that High grass first, which takes spin off the golf ball and is very difficult to hit the golf ball squarely in that regard. It's a very difficult golf shot in any shot, much less. um in that particular moment.

1:11:21 And the broadcasters, you can watch this on YouTube if you like. The broadcasters who are are commentating are talking about how difficult a shot this is, how if he tries to get tricky and get it close to the hole, it's liable to drift off into the bunker, that this is really, you know, something that um is is very, very um Uh hard to do. And so Tiger Woods, though. Height of his prowess does something that most people can't do. He and his caddy pick out a spot about twenty feet away.

1:11:45 The size of a dime. And he is able to take the club back steep enough and in a way. Where he's able to put spin on a shot. in that particular spot hits the Caddy later admits hits exactly the dime spot. Not sort of close to it, but exactly the spot.

1:11:59 rolls up into the side of the hill. Stops and checks because it has spin. And then it starts to trickle back down toward the hole. It's moving directly toward the hole. And the people around that that green can see what might happen. They start to freak out. They start to jump and scream and clap and and and and yell and hoot and holler.

1:12:20 And so that ball gets slowly and slowly toward the cup. And the volume continues to go up. It gets about the foot of the cup and the volume even increases. And then it sits on the edge of the cup. For two point two seconds. Now think about how long that is.

1:12:34 Right? One second. Two second. Right. The Nike logo is not perfectly, but pretty closely and framed on camera. I'm not even sure what that was worth. Because that was on his golf ball. And then it makes the final revolution and drops into the cup for what's what's considered a birdie two.

1:12:51 He's now got a two shot lead and he goes on to win the golf tournament. One of the more amazing golf shots in competitive history. If you're an aficionado of golf, it's always in everybody's top few. Right. It's my it's my favorite one, but um it's always near now. Why do I tell you that story? Sports writer, major sports writer standing on the side of that green watching all of this.

1:13:12 Had been to every major sporting event in the in the world. So that When that ball started trickling backwards toward the cup. In the amphitheater of what that ground did with the trees and and and the grass and everything else, there were about five thousand people there. He said he had never heard or seen anything like it.

1:13:29 that the enthusiasm for that shot was unequal. And when it got closer and closer to the hole, he said people were making so much noise. And that they were so enthusiastic about what happened. He said everything was moving, the ground was shaking. He could feel the vibration up to his thighs. So he so he wrote the next day in in it in the newspaper.

1:13:47 That that ball made the final revolution for one reason and one reason alone. Because everybody around the green wanted it to go in. Not because they thought they could make it go in. They didn't think they could collude to that. But but their enthusiasm for that shot is the only reason it made the final revolution. He wrote, There was no way that ball could sit on the edge of the cup. Everything was moving, the ground was shaking, it was like an earthquake. Okay. Can I tell you that that is the universal of all motivation, inspiration?

1:14:14 Because here's something that everybody on the planet wants. They want the people that they respect. That they admire. that that they that they look up to. They want them rooting for them. They want they

1:14:26 They want them clapping. Cheering for their ball to go in. And what that really means is they want them to say and do, we'll talk about that. And prove that they're a fan. And that they would do anything for them to succeed. And that's the universal. And there's no exception to it. You have that and I have that.

1:14:46 And everybody we're ever gonna lead. has that same desire to have those people, maybe they respect us. I hope they do. But they have those people that they respect. They want those people rooting for them.

1:14:58 And it's not enough to simply tell people that you are. You have to prove it every day. So we've been after for a really long time because we learned about this way before Tiger Woods' uh story. That's just a story that helps illustrate it. We learn started learning about this universal almost 30 years ago. And in the process, we've been able to identify all kinds of behaviors. And you'll be able to figure out any of the behaviors if you simply ask and answer one question. In this given situation, What would a fan do? What would have fitted. Now most of us are

1:15:27 Decent fans. With good news. Most of us When when the report card comes back and they have high grades and the team is achieving their results and the sales are up and revenues up and and when when marriage is in a good spot and not having strife and most of us can be Decent fans.

1:15:46 We can root, we can cheer, we can be positive. But the deal is the best leaders say no no. I have to be a fan all the time. Good news and bad news, because it's not it it's not Um

1:15:56 uh dependent on whether I offer. hard feedback or hold you accountable and have difficult conversations. It's not about your performance. It's about my leadership. And I can choose to be a fan consistently all the time. I it's not about giving people mixed messages. It is about saying my thanness And that's the term I want to use that my fanness, which is really what the idea is.

1:16:17 Has to be consistent. And it has to be with everybody that I lead directly. And I have to prove it in my ongoing behaviors. And so I have to ask myself. What would a fan do? And when you study the best leaders, what you're gonna find is they're great fans of everyone.

1:16:32 of everyone they lead. And they prove it on an ongoing basis behaviorally in ways that you and I have never heard about that we can easily master. What would a fan do? Because what most of us do is we celebrate that good news. appropriately to the event.

1:16:47 We have a dinner or we call somebody out in a team meeting, or we acknowledge somebody, or or we simply t tell somebody that we're proud of them or we can't believe that they've achieved that result and it's been spectacular. That's what most of us do. But what a fan really does. is and only a fan would do this and no one would ever ask somebody to do this on purpose.

1:17:07 A fan keeps that great news alive. They actually stun it in time. They take that accurator, that that that wonderful uh outcome. And and they don't keep it alive forever, but they keep it alive for longer. So that you as as a person that I lead has the ability to benefit and bask in that.

1:17:24 in that accolade for longer. And and and by the way, everybody loves it when leaders do that. So how do how do they do that? They document. that piece they They take a photograph of it and frame it. They they make a screensaver out of it. They make a t shirt from it. They write a letter about it so that you can reread it, uh, that letter. They decide to to to share with you an inch of scotch every every month for for a year. They, you know, they celebrate it in different ways, but they keep that. They need they name a conference room after after you temporarily. They name a sandwich in the in the lunchroom after you for that accolade for three weeks. Not forever, and not inappropriately keeping it alive.

1:18:01 But keeping it alive longer and extending it in time. Only a fan would do that and it inspires and motivates people like crazy. By itself. Not not enough, but consistently, if you're somebody that extends and and expands and keeps great news alive, you'll find that people Respond differently to your leadership.

1:18:21 You add to that lots of other behaviors and like third party praise. And now all of a sudden you have somebody that you would do anything for. Because they're doing things that you would never ask for. But that make you feel differently about yourself. That's what it means to be a fan. And fannness is something we could all master. where we can all work harder at. And there's nobody that isn't already a fan. Sometimes the question is to purposefully go after that and figure out.

1:18:47 What would a fan do in this particular moment? I like that a lot. I th I think it's sort of like if you're the employee or the the person I think of it as sort of the difference between having a job and being all in. Right. When you have a job, you show up from nine to five, you do what you're told, you go home, but when you're all in, you're constantly thinking about it, you want them to succeed. You wanna succeed with them and you wanna do everything possible to make that happen. Agreed, and by the way, that's the way to get them all in.

1:19:14 Yeah. Right,'cause that's really what the outcome of inspiration motivation is all about. You light that fire, so they want to excel. Makes your job a whole lot easier too, by the way. What we found is that when you're a fan, people will be a fan back. I I love that conceptualization, sort of like being you know, the people that you care about the most and being their biggest fan. I think that that's a really good way to frame it. How how like it seems easy when everything's positive. How how do you deal with um bad news and still be somebody's fan. Like how do you have a tough conversation with your

1:19:44 your spouse or somebody at work when you want to be their fan, but you know the the end result is gonna sort of Not be what they want. Yeah, you're not being a fan in that moment. I mean, you're being a fan generally in the sense of if I look at the composite of our relationship, is is the composite the tenor of our relationship is it one where you're a fan of mine. Can I tell by all your behaviors? That doesn't mean that you're trying to be a fan when you give me hard cre feedback, or that when you're holding me accountable, or when my performance has really been in the basement and you have to have that conversation with me. I know of very few people that can be a fan when when we're having those conversations, but the question is, at the end of those conversations, Where is it that, you know, I can feel about our relationship and what's the composite in my f do I feel your fanness most of the time? So I would just have to tell you that again, leadership has different functions. Being inspirational, motivational as an example is a really important function, but it's not all of leadership.

1:20:38 If the only thing you were was inspirational, but you couldn't make great decisions, you couldn't hold me accountable, you couldn't elevate my performance, you didn't offer me good feedback so I could get better, you weren't able to establish a connective relationship with me, well, then your inspiration motivation is not horrible, but it's not enough. What I find is the opposite, though, that more leaders are better at making decisions and offering feedback and elevating performance, but a lot of them. are really um have shortcomings when it comes to inspiring and motivating because they just don't know what to do. But this is what to do. They they can instantly become better fans of people and and ask the question, what would a fan do? What I think is the harder question is well, what happens if you're somebody that reports me and I don't like you?

1:21:21 your personality or your style, you're just hard to work with, or you know, you're arrogant or you're petulant or whatever else. And I if I had my druthers, you wouldn't be on my team, but you've I've inherited you. I can't get rid of you. Um it wouldn't wouldn't be good for you or for me. You produce great results, but I I I mean a fan, I don't even like you. Like what what do I do about that? And the and the answer is you have to find different behaviors. You have to have to find different things to celebrate. You have to do it in different ways because'cause your job as a leader is to inspire and motivate everybody. It isn't just to selectively decide who you like and who you don't like and inspire only them. I mean, heaven forbids if we did that, we'd have some inspired children and others not never inspired, right? Because, you know, like if you've ever had a teenager, that's not a simple thing to go through and always be a fan, but that's your job.

1:22:07 Your job as a leader and it's kind of thankless and it requires a lot of of creativity and thought, but that's that's the job. And and some of us are better at the job and more committed to the job than others, and that's the point. The point is Even with the people we don't like or or identify with or feel comfortable with, we still have to figure out a way to show fairness. We'll actually show it differently. um uh easier to to introduce somebody than create a a different kind of conversation.

1:22:34 To somebody that isn't as comfortable to you, but you might say to me, Well, listen, I don't want to even be around those people. You got to suck it up and really decide, do you want to lead or don't you? And and I think your choice should be to lead, but that that's an individual choice. But all of us can do that anytime we want. We all any of us can be a fan of anyone and and uh and choose to lead in that way. What does it mean to to lead during a crisis? Is there anything different about that than leading during Status quo time.

1:23:01 Yeah, I think so. We know lots about when leaders I I always call it when things go wrong. Because all crises are when things are going wrong, because it kind of encompasses w tragedy crisis. Um, I had both uh the the the privilege as well as the um disconcernation of of leading a lot of senior leaders in New York City. uh during or and right after nine eleven.

1:23:23 And so that was a h a horrible time, and I learned a lot. From that in terms of that, that was a different kind of crisis. crises like the social injustice uh things that are going on contemporarily, that's a different kind of crisis. But anything that's changing reputations of people and leaders is crisis. So you can have a crisis with a given client. And that's equally real. I mean, if that's a significant client that's been longstanding in the firm and they're changing their reputation about

1:23:49 You know, our reputation in their minds because of something we've done. Or they at least perceive we've done that, that's real crisis for us. And so what do you do? What do the best leaders do in crisis? And I I I you know, I could regale you for a long time in terms of just the behaviors that we've identified, but maybe the one that matters the most is this. It's not the actual act that defines you, it's always your response. It's the response that defines your credibility in every case.

1:24:14 People will eventually forgive you. And forget About or hold in less saliency. The actual incident or act. But they will never forgive you for the response.

1:24:26 The response has to reek of competence. Integrity. And sincerity. You have to think about What's my response?

1:24:35 And that means there are certain kinds of rules in a crisis. Number one, I don't respond in little pieces and then change my mind. I wait until I get the facts and then I respond as quickly as I can. Right, that I do so in a transparent way. That I do so from a set of values and character.

1:24:51 That I respond in a way that I think produces remedy. that a that isn't just apology, but produces remedy. Um, there's a lot of things in the response, but I always tell everybody, you know, write this down in like your notebook and when you have a crisis, like remember it. It's your response that defines who you really are in other people's eyes. It's not the incident. As bad as the incident is, you get fired for the lying, for the cover up, for the response. You don't lose your lo your career.

1:25:18 or your marriage for the actual thing very often, you lose it for the response. And if your response is consistent with who you've always been and who you really are. People will forgive you for the incident. And so so you are always the larger context. But you know, so Paul Bear Bryant, the old Alabama football coach, had a sign over his desk for years and years.

1:25:39 that I love. I have a little picture of it in uh one of my notebooks that says, Don't try to hide behind anything or anybody. They're going to find you anyway. And what that means to me is the truth always comes out. Okay. And so your response needs to reek of that truth early on. I don't want to find out later that you knew more than you told me.

1:26:00 that you weren't as as forthcoming as you should have been and and the like. That's what I I have see over and over again. And once I don't I don't trust your response or I don't believe in the integrity response. I can never trust you again. That that I can I can forgive you for an incident. I can give you for the event. I can forgive you for X, but it's the response that defines

1:26:20 Who we are and what we are as leaders. And to me, that's the most important one of all to keep in mind. It's not a behavior per se, it's many different behaviors. um that make up the response and there's, you know, there's standards inside, but it's the thing that I think of most when I when I work with leaders and think about crisis. I love that. I I do that with my my kids now, which is when I when I sort of catch them lying or I think they're lying. I sort of say like your choice right now is gonna make this better or worse.

1:26:48 Sort of like just indication that you can you can dig this hole a lot deeper. Um, or you can sort of like tell me the truth now and it it's gonna be a lot easier. I love that. Ha ha what lessons have you you try to teach your kids and not just behaviors, but what lessons have you tried to teach them from Not only your exposure to a world of amazing people who've accomplished so much, but sort of like all of your learnings about leadership. Yeah, you know, it's interesting. I have one son, uh, he's older now, he's uh in his late twenties, and um, you know, he's he's uh he's a different kind of kid. He's very independent, he's somebody that needs to be self sufficient. So he's I don't I didn't have the failure to launch problem that a lot of other people have. Uh he's very creative, he's he's wickedly smart.

1:27:33 Um, but that also means he's a handful. Right, he was a handful growing up and he was you know, he's been he's still a handful. But the thing that I think that you uh leave your kids more than anything else is not just the lessons you learn, but the values you hold. And as long as you hold them consistently in and it's you leading by example, and I don't mean on on an every moment basis of every action. But you know, if your kids don't know what you really stand for.

1:27:55 What would values really matter to you? Um uh and by the way, there were some that I think he he knew that I held that it it took him a lot a long time to come to come to those values. Um, I think he holds most of them w same values that I hold now. based on his own experience and the like. I think, you know, you have to talk about them um explicitly. You have to act on them and and live them. And it should not be something that people it shouldn't be Obi-Wan Kenobi, like I don't know what that really is. Um that's a mystery to me, uh, you know.

1:28:25 You shouldn't you shouldn't need slogans for them either. You you should be able to be transparent and like this is what I stand for. I'm not saying you have to stand for that. Um this is what our family stands for when you're younger, that you don't have a choice at a certain point, but then you do, you're an independent mind and and think, and this is what I value. And I think that's the thing that we leave our kids more than anything else, because at the end of the day, it's the values that underline uh and guide their their actions. They're the principles by which they form, you know, their choices. So when you said listen when you say to your kids, listen, this is, you know, you could you can make a good choice or a bad choice, you're really thinking like, think about where that comes from. Like

1:29:02 By what value Are you going to make that choice? And you've seen me, you've watched me, and you kinda have a sense of what what choice I would make, not based on just the choice, but on the values that would drive that choice. And the more you're transparent about that with kids, the better. How how would you answer that question? Are family values? Oh, I I think every family values different things, but at a certain point, I think when kids are young and and they're very impressionable and they haven't had peer big peer influence yet, and education hasn't hasn't decided to take our parenting from us and and so forth and so on, I I think it's important that they have a common sense of what the family stands for. Um, one of the most common things that family stand for is the family comes first.

1:29:44 Uh, that's a very common value that we you know it's about us first. We stand together. We we have solidarity as a family. We're all is here for each other. We have unconditional love, which is another value that's part of that. I think that's a common one. But there's no right set of values. But I think it's uh early on while the kids are younger and they don't they don't have the ability to form their own values or or have their own experiences where they can generate their own independent views. You've got to have You gotta say this is what we all value together right now. You'll be able to make up your choice on your own soon enough, but for right now, that's who we are and what we stand for. And and by the way, you you and I both know that it has a tremendous influence on what eventually shapes their own their their independent values.

1:30:24 That's a great place to leave this, Randall. Thank you so much for the time. This was an amazing conversation. I appreciate you taking the time um and and engaging. Um, is there any chance that we can talk a little bit about our course? Yeah, do you want to I know that's the recording, so let's do that. Okay. Great. You know, we've invested a a tremendous amount of time over the years. We've we've been coaching senior leaders and have a fairly large firm. We try to stay low profile about it.

1:30:47 But uh we've had a tremendous amount of success. And for reasons that I can uh be very brief about. because of having larger influence and in wanting to influence Thousands of people instead of hundreds of people. And and as well as as it's time for some of this information.

1:31:03 uh to to not be lost Um, we've decided to put together a digital leadership course that includes and describes and and teaches people a lot of these behaviors. And I know you you've spent some time inside of it. I loved it. I thought it was one of the best things I've I've done ever. Oh, that's wonderful. I'm thank you for that. And and so we picked ten modules of of leadership. um that is functions of leadership feedback and change and and time management and so forth. And and then we took ten behaviors inside each one. We explained those behaviors in ten minutes or less in a video that involves a bunch of people and we have outlines and examples and we're excited as as as all get out about

1:31:43 being able to to put it to the world. And we think it's it's gonna have a big impact. It again, there's not many exemplars of a behavioral view. I'd have to go back to Dale Carnegie, uh, and then maybe uh Ken Blanchert. Um, but there's not many, uh most most leadership uh works, courses and books and and seminars operate either from an individual viewpoint or from a principal viewpoint. And by the way, both are good. Principles uh are guiding uh guiding values in essence. These are they're also universals in many cases. But they're not the specific actions of behavior. So These are all very a hundred very specific actions. We chose a hundred out of a a set of, you know, several hundred.

1:32:23 Um, we're kind of proud of it and and we hope that it'll have bigger bigger uh input. It's the reason I I decided to, you know, offer and and come on a podcast because I've been trying to be anonymous for the last thirty years and have done a fairly good job. I was gonna say you've done a good job. I I didn't really find any interviews or anything when I was doing research. Exactly. And and and it's on purpose because I I I'm a big believer that leadership is about other people. Uh, that we're supposed to be in the background, not in the foreground. That Bob Dylan was right when he said when you're on top, you're really on the bottom.

1:32:54 Uh, that doesn't mean you have to be a servant leader, but I think you have to think in the mentality of this is not about me. So we're excited about this thing we called admired leadership. And we the landing pages of Marleadership dot com. there's a couple of things that'll change your view about leadership that you can anybody can access. And so I'll leave it there, but

1:33:13 Uh would love it if your audience went to admired leadership.com and checked it out. We've definitely linked that in the uh the notes to the on the show page here. Thank you so much, Randall. My pleasure, Shane. Thank you for taking the time. Uh Um Hey, one more thing before we say goodbye.

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