#855: Tim Ferriss — How to Quiet the Ruminative Mind, Avoid Traps of Self-Help, and Focus in a World of Promiscuous Overcommitment

0:00 Well, hello, boys and girls, ladies and gents. This is Tim Ferris. Welcome to another episode of the Tim Ferris Show. I'm recording this one on my iPhone because I was inspired actually by the episode you're gonna hear. The person in question, Dan Harris. And I am now at a secluded mountain retreat to sit and stare at a wall doing meditation. I'm going to share more on that another time. But this episode is gonna be a little bit different. I am in the hot seat this time. Dan Harris, more on Dan in a second, interviewed me for his show, the 10% happier with Dan Harris podcast. And I thought it would be worth sharing here. We cover a lot of things that have been on my mind in more than one way. So for instance, my most recent brain stimulation protocol. And this was born initially of conversations with the late Nolan Williams. And there's been a lot of trial and error. with different doctors, different researchers, and I think I've ended up someplace very, very interesting with noninvasive brain stimulation. But putting that aside, I've also been thinking for a while, meaning decades, but it's taken me

1:05 quite a bit to actually ferret out. The traps of self help, the dangers of optimization, and these are persistent. Almost tectonic plates, I would say, that are elements that you need to nudge in the right direction, or you can end up going Very much in the wrong direction. Dan is a wonderful interviewer and we really got into the zone. So I thought, you know what, why not share this? He is also the best selling author of Ten Percent Happier and Meditation for Fidgety Skeptics, a 10% happier how to book. He's done a lot more. He's also been on the Tim Ferriss show, so you can hear him in the back catalog. But I will stop there. You can find Dan Harris and certainly his podcast and everything at danharris.com. That's D A N H A R R I S dot com.

1:48 And without further ado, please Enjoy. Optimal minimal. At this altitude, I can run flat out for a half mile before my hands start shaking. And then also. No se.

2:03 a cybernetic organism, living tissue over metal endoscal. So Tim Ferris. Welcome back to the show. Thank you, sir. Nice to be back. Nice to see you.

2:21 Likewise. Let me ask you a ridiculously basic question. But I think maybe deceptively Simple. I actually never know how to say is it deceptively complex or deceptively simple? Anyway. My question really is, how are you?

2:33 How you doing these days? Mm-hmm you've publicly kind of gone on a ride talking about your own stuff. Some of it quite heavy. I'm just curious, how are you? That is a both deceptively simple and complex question. My answer, thankfully, is really straightforward. Better than ever. I feel absolutely fantastic. We could dive into

2:55 How and why that's The case. If you'd like. But I would say keeping it short and sweet.

3:02 For the moment I would say Fantastic. Better than ever. Mind, body, soul. psychoemotionally. Musculoskeletally

3:12 Uh really feeling uh holistically very good, optimistic. We could keep going. So I'll let you Take that anywhere you'd like to. I love to hear it. Seriously, I really do love to hear it and

3:25 I would be curious to follow up and hear from you like what has brought you to this point. Yeah, I'll say a few things. So one of the Risks of personal development, or let's just call it more broadly, self help. is that it can very easily become self infatuation or self obsession.

3:45 Yes. And The Counterbalance to that. The Bet that offsets it is

3:54 Dun dun dun. It's very simple. Relationships. Really doubling down, tripling down on relationships. We are evolved to be a social. species and whenever you are in isolation, physically or simply in thought loops in your own head, that tends to Catalyze or worsen tremendously any type.

4:14 of instability or O C D or depression or anxiety or a fill in the blank psychiatric condition. So My policies that which were already in place last time we spoke that I have really continued to

4:32 invest into are Doing a past year review every year. Looking at my top relationships that are nourishing, energizing, energy in as opposed to energy out. And then

4:46 blocking out time in advance for the entire year for extended periods of time with those people. Now extended will depend on your circumstances. For me, that could be anywhere from a long weekend to a week. spending, say, five days in the wilderness in Montana with some of my oldest, closest friends, et cetera, et cetera. That's will do not to denigrate therapy in any way.

5:10 But Sometimes Talking more about your problems if it were to solve all of your problems would have worked already. There's a place for talk therapy, but It is not

5:22 Nor does it need to be the only tool in the toolkits. So it's simply spending time around your Silly dumb Amazing friends and laughing, whether it's around A bottle of wine or a meal or a campfire. really, really goes a long way. So that's one piece of it.

5:39 Second piece. Is to hit a familiar thread is very consistent meditation. Typically twice daily, ten minutes, very, very straightforward.

5:53 In my case. And then also if we're going out to the edges a bit. Technologically speaking. There is something that some of your listeners may have never heard of, which is accelerated TMS.

6:07 TMS stands for transcranial magnetic stimulation. It's a type of brain stimulation. that has existed for decades, but the hardware and the software Everything about these technologies has improved dramatically in the last five to ten years, particularly in the I would say the last five years. Thanks to certain researchers like Nolan Williams out of Stanford, who sadly passed away in the last six months, and others.

6:33 But What accelerated TMS looks like. Is Typically. Up to let's just call it maybe one or two years ago.

6:42 Accelerated TMS takes what you might do in conventional TMS over several months where you go in, you have this paddle put against your head. It produces a magnetic field. That just to keep it very simple, either Excites or inhibits

7:01 Certain parts of your brain. Certain Types of circuitry. And that can be applied to Depression, it can be applied to neurodegenerative diseases, in fact, in some cases. it can be applied to anxiety OCD and so on, depending on the target where you place these coils.

7:19 And In the case of accelerated TMS, you're taking what you might do over three, four, five months and you're compressing it into one week. So Every hour on the hour. Ten hours a day for one week.

7:31 You're going in and getting Let's just call it a few minutes, three to nine minutes of pulses on your brain, and then you take fifty minutes off, you go back in, you get hit again. And that has been referred to at least in one format the Saint protocol, S A I N T.

7:50 They've shied away from it, but it was developed at Stanford. And the Saint protocol in many let's call them patients produces seventy, eighty percent remission of depression. Mm-hmm. That is quite durable.

8:05 It's not one shot. You're done. typically people will let's just say do a five day sequence, then they might go in and have one to three day booster Sequences three months, six months later.

8:21 And This technology has tremendous effects. I've experimented with this over the last handful of years. The first time I did it, it had near miraculous. Results. I went from having

8:35 Severe And I've been officially diagnosed. So this is not just throwing it around loosely, but moderate severe O C D. with lots of rumination. I'm not flipping light switches or washing my hands, but I have these ruminative loops that I get caught in. People, I'm sure some listening can identify with this, where you just can't turn off these kind of compulsive thought loops. Could be a grudge, could be a fear, could be something you're planning for, could be a conversation you need to have. It just loops and loops and loops, which causes insomnia.

9:04 Which causes fatigue and just general wearing down of the system, which leads to depression. I've realized that's my sequence. It actually starts with anxiety, not depression out of the gate. And I was having let's just call it

9:19 Seven, eight out of ten symptoms when I went in. to the first treatment I did of five days. That's really severe for people who are Not clear. Like it's really, really severe. Like it's affecting every aspect of my life.

9:33 Had the treatment. There was a delayed onset, and even the scientists most involved with this don't really have a great explanation for how or why this would happen. But nothing really happened for two, three weeks. And then Flipped a switch and had

9:46 Basically zero anxiety, zero rumination for let's call it three to four months. I've never experienced anything like it. And that includes psychedelic assisted therapies, which I know very well. And have supported a lot of science. Underlying. This is a bit of a long answer, I realize, but for people who are interested, I really recommend the conversation I did with Nolan Williams. Then there are different types of hardware. But I tried it then with boosters several times afterwards, null effect.

10:12 Zero. Didn't work. Mm-hmm. And I started to Lose hope again because I thought this was gonna be a replicable reliable tool that I could use. I was so excited.

10:25 And Did a Hail Mary kind of last ditch? Round with the accelerated TMS recently. I did this in Northern California. Instead of doing five days, so keep in mind it's like let's just call it three months of TMS gets compressed into five days.

10:42 Instead of doing five days, I did one day. But I pre dosed. with something called D cyclusarian. E C S as it's sometimes referred to in the literature.

10:55 Is in many ways an antiquated antibiotic that used to be used for tuberculosis. and sometimes urinary tract infections. which affects the NMDA receptors in such a way I think it's a partial antagonist. It might be an agonist, so don't quote me on it. But the point is this

11:14 Little drug. that is not typically used anymore. is a catalyst for neuroplasticity. And when you take this beforehand. You can do

11:28 something like one day of accelerated TMS. And sometimes the results are better than what you previously, let's just call it seven years ago, would get from three, four months. And I did one day And Dan. This time around, it was just like a switch. Basically the next day, and it has now been two or three months. And

11:49 I don't want to set expectations that it'll be this way for everyone. It seems to be particularly effective. Yes, for depression, but it seems to be particularly effective in a very small sample size at this point. for anxiety and O C D.

12:05 And It's just a different life. It is a different life. So all of those things in combination Plus the basics, right? The kind of basic macronutrients of health. Exercise. Et cetera, et cetera, et cetera, diet and so on.

12:19 are just doing their job together. The last one I'll throw in and then I'll shut up because I realize this has turned into a TED talk. is um Yeah. Intermittent. Ketosis. So the ketogenic diet.

12:33 And ketosis overall, which can be achieved a few different ways, which I'm in right now. Is absolutely phenomenal for addressing a lot of psychiatric pains. Psychoemotional pains.

12:47 That are failing to be treated by medication. And there's something called metabolic psychiatry. Chris Palmer out of Harvard and other have looked at this very closely. All right.

12:58 Thanks for coming to my Talk. I just want to assure you, Ted Docs are welcome here. You're a podcaster. But you know long answers are fine. So please delete that sheepishness from your mind. All right, we'll do. I have a million follow up questions. Let me just say just high level. A different life, those three words. really

13:18 I did make me very happy to hear that. That's What's going on for you? Dan. Yeah it's It is impossible.

13:26 To overstate the difference. Between An eight out of ten of nonstop ruminative Monkey mind with a fixation on Things that are anxiety producing.

13:40 to getting to like a one or two out of ten. Those are two different lived experiences. They are so far apart from each other. It's really remarkable. So you mentioned transcranial is it magnetic stimulation, TMS? Magnetic stimulation. Mm-hmm. I will drop a link in the show notes for people who want to listen to Tim's conversation with Nolan Williams.

14:02 With the caveat of course that you're not the researcher, the world's leading expert, you're more of the guinea pig and the patient, but Can you Tell us a little bit more about Is TMS widely available? Is it a th thing that average people can access? And also like

14:17 How strong is the evidence? All right. I'm happy to tackle that with, as you said, the disclaimer I am not a doctor nor do I play one on the internet. But I do

14:30 Spend a lot of time. in these waters. So what I'll say is that the evidence for TMS broadly, they're decades. of evidence with different applications of TMS. As we look at accelerated TMS, there's actually I would say very compelling body.

14:47 Of evidence. Once we get into the Vanguard, which is always risky, right? You don't necessarily want to be one of the first hundred monkeys shot into space, but in this particular case the pain was great enough that I decided to opt in. Then you're getting into the bleeding edge, which is this decyclocine. D C S

15:08 plus TMS. That's very much at the outer reaches. I would say At least based on the clinic that I went to. And maybe overall, for all I know. I am one of perhaps

15:21 Sixty. Patience with O C D slash generalized anxiety disorder who have been treated that way. So it's a very small number. In terms of accessibility, there are let me start from the top.

15:35 in no particular order, but I'll just say that There's a hardware stack. So the two companies that I'm most familiar with, which make hardware that I've used myself. Our brains way. That's one company. And then another one is Mag Venture.

15:51 The hardware Or Different. I know people who have responded very well to both of them. Right. So you can Vet certain providers, I would say

16:02 Not saying this is the only way. I'm not saying it's fair. Perhaps there are other technologies out there, but As you would expect. There's a fair bolus of flyby night operations that are promising miracles and offering quote unquote TMS that is actually not following any protocol whatsoever. I think that's very important.

16:22 Unethical. But Brainsway. Mag Venture. Are two types of hardware. And then you really want to look It is available is the short answer. Accelerated TMS is available in a lot of major cities.

16:35 It is not as widely distributed as I would like. because it is generally not covered by insurance. Accelerated TMS is generally not covered. TMS Let's just call it conventional TMS is often covered. buy insurance depending on the indication. But accelerated TMS where you're basically taking a week off work and just getting your brains up 10 hours a day for five days straight.

17:01 Typically not covered. And Part of why I'm so excited about the implications. If the data scale and are robust and show

17:12 comparable or superior results with this pre-administration of this drug. is that the ability of Anyone. Whether they are average Less

17:23 kind of financially stable or very well healed. Of taking one day off of work. is not only logistically so much easier If they're able to preadminister with this DCS. But it should be.

17:38 Much less expensive. And so I'm hoping even if people have to pay out of pocket. That's these breakthroughs, hopefully they're breakthroughs with combination therapies of TMS, accelerated TMS, and Dcyclosarine will really make it much more widely available.

17:55 That's my hope. Mm. It's gonna take a little while, but it it is available. I know there are clinics in, for instance, New York, I know there are clinics in California. and Chicago that are credible.

18:06 They may exist in other places as well. The other thing you mentioned in terms of Having a different life is your focus on relationships. And I saw myself in that answer. There was a kind of desertification or desertification, of I don't know how you pronounce that, of my social life for many years because I was

18:23 such a careerist and such a workaholic and And in recent years have really turn that around and I see such a massive difference in my mental health. I'm curious, like you you mentioned that in recent years you've

18:36 at the top of every year you kinda make a plan to see the people who To use the cliche fill your cup. Had you gone through a period like I did where there was a a certain amount of isolation or inattention to this lever. Oh, for sure.

18:52 There were a few different reasons for that. I don't know if hindsight's twenty twenty, but I think it's easier to see from my vantage point now. And it's a balancing act because there is compulsive socializing because you are Incredibly.

19:06 uncomfortable or afraid of being Alone or with yourself? Yes. Right, there's compulsive socializing to distract yourself, like protect yourself from yourself. Which is problematic. And then there's compulsive isolation, and I would say I probably leaned far

19:26 more towards the compulsive isolation. And there were two reasons for that. One was Work haulism. Back in the day, for sure. And I just

19:38 felt like I was more effective, able to produce, more able to focus on business, finances, whatever it might be. In isolation, and there might be some truth to that. Then I would say. There was also this

19:50 Belief. That I think at the time was really implicit I don't think I explicitly grasped it, which was I've written this incredibly long.

20:03 essay that maybe I'll publish at some point. But talking about some of the dangers of self help and one of them is the following, which ties into what we're talking about and leaning towards isolation. this implicit belief or explicit that You need to work on yourself and fix yourself and quote unquote do the work, and then you'll be ready to interact with other people and have a significant relationship and engage with your family if that is an option.

20:34 Or you want it to be an option. Et cetera, et cetera. So in effect the analogy that I've drawn for some friends is You wanna play soccer. But first.

20:46 You're gonna read all the textbooks and get a master's degree and PhD in soccer. And then you're gonna practice dribbling and penalty shots and so on by yourself. And you want to become as perfect a player as possible by yourself before you ever actually get on the field and play the game of soccer. And you can start to believe. that you're playing soccer by yourself. There's always more room for improvement.

21:10 You're never going to be perfect. And if you get caught in that trap. Which is the partial trap of self help. You're always polishing this self.

21:23 And it can become this real recursive dangerous trap, this fixation on the self. And you never actually fucking play soccer. And at a point you start to believe that you are, but you're not. You're simulating by yourself. life, but not actually engaging with life. And

21:46 I have Who knows? Maybe this is a function of getting older. I don't think so. Necessarily, but for so many decades I was interested in the cutting edge, the cutting edge of everything. And I still am. But I've become interested.

22:01 equally in things that have lasted millennia. Or more than millennia. And

22:10 I recommend if you're Trying to learn how the latest LLMs differ from one another, et cetera. You also spend some time looking at evolutionary biology and studying the things that we have Evolved.

22:23 to optimize for. to experience and Man, it's just like Think it was regonomics, right? It's the economy stupid. It's the relationship stupid, right? If you don't have like physical contact with people, if you don't have these in real life physical experiences.

22:41 If you model that in animals, they become a complete disaster. They exhibit. the same types of behaviors that we now see. Spiking in humans. Anxiety. Depression.

22:53 Lethargy sitting in a cage not doing anything. We need this type of contact. So I'd say that I've offset the bleeding edge with the very, very super dull edge. Mm-hmm.

23:08 Amen. Coming up, Tim talks about the perils of self optimization. And the secret to what we actually should be optimizing for the ketogenic diet. Using AI

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26:54 Unpublished essay about the dangers of self help. But you mentioned the word optimizing and then Some ways I kinda think of you as like the proto optimizer, you know, four hour work week and Sure.

27:06 I'm just curious where you are on self optimization Now. I would say that I still

27:17 Focus on certain to optimize. I still pulse certain lovers and What I would say I have become

27:28 much better at and it takes practice. It's gonna sound so rudimentary. is asking Simply What are you optimizing for?

27:39 Before you optimize. Why are you optimizing? And It's easy I would say, particularly if you are being shaped by social media, which seems to basically offer you The seven.

27:57 deadly or cardinal sins on a silver platter. You get to pick your poison. If you're being shaped by that, then you can end up optimizing without a direction necessarily or questioned. You haven't interrogated the direction. And that could be because you're following Someone online who's a multi-billion dollar real estate developer, slash serial entrepreneur, slash fill in the blank. And The chase for money is on. But that never really gets interrogated. I think the four hour work week does a good job of breaking down

28:30 kind of work for work's sake and money for money's sake. So for me I have three relatives right now. With Rapidly progressing Alzheimer's disease.

28:39 Including those who do not have the Genotype. If we look at say Ape O E status, right there, Ape O E three three. Whereas I'm Ape O E three four, so that's scary. There are other

28:52 factors to consider for Alzheimer's. I am doing things to Try not to die from something that is hopefully preventable from the perspective of cardiac health, cardiovascular health. And then also trying to mitigate my risk of neurodegenerative disease.

29:10 And That's why I'm in ketosis right now. For instance. And you know, jury's out on some of this, but very plausibly there are mechanisms by which going into ketosis on a fairly regular basis for a few weeks at a time. Let's just say in my case, two or three times a year.

29:29 May have Neuroprotective effects, also anti cancer effects. And people can listen to my interviews with Dominic Dagostino. who's a researcher out of Florida or other people for the science behind this. And it's also an intervention, and this comes back to your question about optimizing.

29:47 That is very, very well studied. In the sense that I have very high confidence that the downside risk is low. And very manageable. Whereas if you're just mainlining GLP1 agonists,

30:02 Amazing. results that we've seen in the literature so far, but have we had anyone on these for ten, twenty years? No. At least not twenty years. Maybe some of the first monkeys shot into space like me with the accelerated TMS and the DCS has been on for that period of time. That doesn't mean don't use GLP one agonists, but understand that there are a lot of unknown unknowns. With the ketogenic diet, it's like look

30:25 A ketogenic diet in its modern incarnation using heavy cream or other types of Fat. was designed for epileptic children. And this goes back probably a hundred years at this point, if not a hundred years close to it. And humans have the metabolic machinery to go into ketosis and have had that machinery for millennia upon a millennia upon millennia.

30:49 That would be an example of something that passes the test for me. Uh. seemingly credible upside potential, even if we don't understand all the mechanisms. limited downside potential.

31:03 uh that I can offset with certain prescription drugs, let's just say, because I'm a cholesterol hyperabsorber. And Okay, great. We're gonna do that. Intermittent fasting would be another one. During ketosis or outside of ketosis. The one thing that has most dramatically changed.

31:21 My Blood tests. With respect to specifically Insulin sensitivity. and avoiding pre diabetes, which runs rampant in my family, intermittent fasting.

31:34 In my case, that means I'm eating within an eight hour window each day. Might be even a little shorter, like two PM to Eight PM? That's it.

31:43 I just don't eat until two PM. Or three PM. And for some folks, it's arguably better for you if you do like a Twelve noon to eight PM. Kind of.

31:53 eating window. It's also called time restricted feeding. There's a lot of good science for this. not just in animal models, but in humans. And The results I've seen from that are just Absolutely incredible. It's so simple.

32:08 Because you don't actually need to change what you eat. You're just changing when you eat. Mm. So those would be two. That

32:17 people might think of as optimizing. And then I'm taking a handful of prescription drugs to offset the Cardiovascular risk. Because It doesn't matter if I am eating an all fat diet.

32:30 An all protein diet. A vegan diet, a fill in the blank diet. There are certain biomarkers that are just trash. They're so bad. And that seems to be just straight from the code, straight from DNA. And for that reason I'm like, ah, I'm no spring chicken anymore. You know what?

32:50 I think I'll just bite the bullet and take some of these. And when, for instance, I talk with my doctors now. The first thing is if you have a blood test. And something is out of range. My recommendation would be before you get on twelve different drugs to deal with it. And if it's an emergency, it's an emergency.

33:09 But if it's not an emergency, right, like your triglycerides are Hi. All right. Well, it's probably not gonna kill you in the next week. My recommendation would be

33:19 Talk to your doctor. Replicate the test. Do the test again the next week. Maybe on a different day. And

33:27 See if you can replicate the error. Because for instance, if you had a heavy weekend of drinking or a fatty meal the night before and then you do your blood test eight AM the next morning fast. Well Mm-hmm.

33:43 You might look like you're on the road to having a heart attack in two months, but actually it was just behavior and diet. So replicate, replicate. That would be number one. Don't base The outcome of

33:56 the basketball match on one photograph. Like try to get tested more frequently. And pay attention to when you're getting tested. So if you're, for instance, coming back to the example I gave, if you're taking your test, your blood test on Monday mornings Make sure your next test that you're comparing it to is also on Monday morning. If it's Wednesday morning, it might be completely different. By the way, if it's something like cortisol, testosterone, et cetera. These things have diurnal cycles.

34:23 they really fluctuate throughout the day. So if you get a test At Eight AM. I've seen this with friends of mine, male friends, who get a test at like eight AM And I have to interrogate how they did things for them to

34:36 Sherlock home this, but they're concerned about their testosterone levels or the free testosterone. They take a test at eight AM. Looks great. three months later, six months later, they do it at eleven AM. And it's Two hundred points lower.

34:50 Looks crazy. And It's not crazy. They don't actually in this case this guy had no problem. He was about to get on all sorts of hormone replacement therapy and all this stuff that is pretty powerful. And I said, Go back.

35:05 Do it at eight AM again. Two weeks. Let's see what happens. Guess what? It was the same as the first test. So that's step number one. And then when I'm looking at possible interventions. For me, again, I'm not a doctor, don't play one on the internet, but the way I approach it.

35:20 And people get very little guidance on this. Most doctors are overstretched, right? They get eleven minutes per patient. the easiest thing for them to do is say, look, this guy has a problem or this gal has a problem. If we throw these three drugs at it, it's probably gonna fix it. My job, as far as I'm concerned, as far as my time allows, is to keep this person from dying. Okay. Start these three drugs.

35:43 But what I have tried to do, and I did this with my own particular cardiac situation. And I think Boston Health is the testing that I did to get a more granular understanding of things with a little higher resolution. But Since I'm a cholesterol hyperabsorber.

36:01 that informs the type of drug I might take. Doesn't necessarily have to be something like a statin. And there were three or four drugs that I was suggested to take. And I said, What is the longest studied of these? With the best side effect profile. That is the most innocuous that I can start with.

36:19 And we can do another test in two months. This is not an emergency. I'm not about to have a pulmonary embolism or Yeah. Heart attack. Don't have any arteries blocked. What is it? And it was in my case, not everybody, something called a Zetamib. Otherwise known as Zedia.

36:35 Very well studied, very well tolerated. I said, let me try this in case. I am a hyper responder. 'Cause sometimes you can be a hyper responder. Or a non responder, but I was like, let me just try it out. And

36:48 Statistically very unlikely that I would be, the doctor said. None the less, tried it. Two months later, retest. Guess what? I'm a hyper responder. So I was able to Use the minimum effective dose. for medication and ultimately added one more thing.

37:04 But How many decades of possible side effects did I just spare myself? By doing basically like one and a half drugs instead of starting with four or five and doing that indefinitely from that point forward. When you're dealing with your doctors, to what extent do you consult A I I have found personally

37:24 That Talking to A chat bot. has been incredibly helpful. Now with the caveat. that they hallucinate and they fuck things up all the time and

37:33 So I'm not taking it as gospel. Because your chat bot doesn't get bored of you and doesn't have a an eleven minute window to talk to you. So you can really spend a lot of time. And then what I found is that I can then run what I've learned. By my doctors. Is that an experience you've had?

37:52 For sure. And uh I do use AI. And these L L Ms a lot. What I would say is that If you're gonna do something like that, my recommendation would be

38:04 And I'll give a shameless plug just'cause I'm involved with this company. I think they're doing great things, but You could use something like a chat GPT, but there's some tools that are designed for learning. Like there's one called Obo. O B O E dot com Get some basic literacy, just the ABCs of basic medical terminology. that would be helpful for understanding things like blood tests.

38:28 It's like a hundred words maybe. two hundred words perhaps at the very, very tippity top if you want to be an overachiever. Develop an understanding of the basic vocabulary. so that you can also discuss these things in shorthand with your doctors.

38:44 So once you develop basic medical literacy. You could also use that to Learn how to Read studies.

38:53 Learn how to read a scientific abstract and study. That would be one of the best investments you could ever make with your time. spend an afternoon doing that or two afternoons. Holy shit. The ROI on that is unbelievable. Like the number of medical problems averted, the number of medical procedures averted, the number of non-obvious solutions found that my basic

39:17 Literacy has helped. to Solve for? is unbelievable. It doesn't take very long. So I would use the tools to kinda do that first. That'll help you with prompts. The answers are only going to be as good as your prompts.

39:30 Once you've done that. Then I use I use AI all the time. And there's an expression which has been helpful for me. Yeah. I can run pretty hot. I think that's chilled out a lot, but I can run pretty hot. I'm I'm typically very impatient. I have been since I was like a toddler.

39:46 And The expression is don't attribute to malice what you can attribute to incompetence. Right. But it goes further than that. Just because doesn't some you know, somebody doesn't reply to you doesn't mean it's a personal fraud. Just because someone does something stupid and they answer one of your questions out of the three you emailed them, you can be like ah. Uh, you can get really wound up.

40:06 But I would go further than that, which is don't attribute to malice or incompetence what can be explained by a busy schedule. People are busy. Everybody's busy, but What you can do. Is you can after developing this basic literacy, you can go in And then you can ask questions that your doctors may not have time for.

40:26 I am always checking for contraindications between medications and also Supplements. Because doctors will miss these. They will miss them. They might not miss the most obvious, but there are some that are not as obvious.

40:42 For instance. Like there are sleep medications like Trazidone, which really affect the serotinurgic system. It's effectively this is an overstatement, but it's effectively a failed antidepressant. So if you don't know that And it's not technically exactly an SSRI like a Prozac, but there are some similarities. If you don't know that

41:03 because you're quote unquote taking a sleep medication and then you go out and take something that's contraindicated for this entire class of serotonin specific antidepressants, like you can get yourself into trouble. So I will regularly check for contraindications. That's one thing I do. I have friends who have uploaded their whole genome.

41:23 Two some of these LLMs and asked for insights and they've identified some remarkable things. The risk in doing all of this. is that you may uncover issues that if you are prone to anxiety

41:40 For a lot of reasons I'm kind of inoculated against this with medical stuff because I've spent so much time in the medical and scientific world. But Give you an example. Another thing that I do once a year Or twice a year.

41:51 is a full body M R I. And there are companies that do this. I think Biograph is the highest level. Pre Nuovo is also pretty good, but I've seen a couple of people have cancers missed, which isn't great. So If you get a full body MRI and you are over the age of forty

42:09 You're gonna find something. You're probably gonna find some type of internal cyst. You might find you had as a friend of mine did like a small brain aneurysm, like you're probably gonna find something. And the question is Mm-hmm.

42:25 Can you handle that? Can you handle Either doing something about it, which is Presumably while while you're doing it in the first place. Or Can you deal with

42:35 the overwhelming likelihood statistically that the doctor's gonna say, Yeah, we found X, Y, or Z. You don't need to do anything about it. We'll just keep an eye on it. Are you going to be able to handle that with without becoming a stress case who's combing through LLMs and Web MD all day, making yourself crazy? Anyway, I'll stop there.

42:54 But yes, I use these tools all the time. If you're gonna use one tool use another tool to fact check it. So if you get something from chat GPT absolutely have that thing cross examined by Claude or another tool.

43:09 Do not trust. These tools with their first answers. Just on the pan scan thing, the full body M RI The ultimate This is a bit of an aside, but

43:19 I have figured out the ultimate Health hack, which is marry a doctor. Because uh she can't get out of here. And I ask her a lot of questions. But she is really against these PAN scans for the very reason that you just stated, which is You will find something and it may stress you out or it may put you in the market for a procedure you don't need.

43:39 Yeah, so it's interesting the the differing POVs on this. One of my favorite quotes is be suspicious of what you want. That's a Rumi quote going way back. It's like you we think that we want all of the health information we can possibly get. But you should be a little sceptical and suspicious of that. If you've never dealt with a huge amount of health information.

44:00 at high resolution. So yeah, it's a very personal thing. In my case Yeah, psychologically this particular type of data overwhelm them pretty good with. So I asked before about where you are with optimizing now and you you said you're more surgical now in how you optimize and you listed a bunch of areas including

44:22 How you eat. You did put out a podcast in August of two thousand twenty five talking about some of your rethinking of optimizing. I just be curious, like where are you at with that now? I think that optimizing

44:36 is the how. Right, broadly speaking, how you do something. Much more important than how you do something is the few somethings that you choose in the first place to do. This applies to learning quickly. This applies to making a lot of money. This applies to getting in great shape. Like.

44:55 What you do. In a sense, matters a lot more than how you do. Anything. You can get very, very, very good, very optimized, very efficient at doing something unimportant that does not make it important. just makes you very good at doing something that you probably shouldn't be doing in the first place.

45:12 modern productivity porn is Indiscriminate. In how it applies optimizing to everything and everything, right? There's some very funny morning routines that are these YouTube videos that are like four or five hours long, right?

45:28 Of people going through their day. There's a point at which your morning routine just turns into like A five hour warm up. For life. Each day.

45:38 That's obviously a really extreme example, but for me If you were to have a nanny cam, like hidden in a little stuffed Yeah. In My house, my office.

45:49 This Airbnb where I am right now. And you watched me on any given day, you would just be like What is this guy doing? I mean, it's like a a poorly programmed Roomba. Like I don't Is this like Blair Witch project? Like It doesn't seem to be doing much work. Like what is he doing?

46:05 And Part of the reason I can get away with that. Is that I think I am Very good. at measuring twice and cutting once. In this context, what that means is

46:18 I'm spending a lot of time. looking at doing eighty twenty analysis, asking myself, you know, what can I do? That is not easily replicated by someone else. that I find easier to do than other people, which is kind of a shortcut to finding things that you're good at. That you will also have the endurance.

46:37 Four. Because you're kind of It's easier for you or you're obsessed with it. Okay. What am I obsessed with? What am I doing in my off hours? Okay. Let me try to find a Venn diagram of that. And then focus on those things, I'll test it for a very short period of time.

46:53 to see if number one, I can sustain it if I am actually as good as I thought I would be. I need to be the best in the world, but better than average. Then over time as I'm throwing a lot against the wall. And then I'm looking back and saying, Okay. I tried these three things or I made these four investments. I had these assumptions at the time. Did they pan out?

47:12 Why or why not? And then course correcting. There are actually very, very, very, very few things you have to get right. in my opinion, to have an incredible life. You don't need to be great at a lot of things.

47:28 is my perspective. It's like look, I remember talking to Jerry Seinfeld And uh One of his conclusions was If you lift weights and do transental meditation, that'll solve pretty much all your problems. And I'm paraphrasing, but it wasn't too far from that. He's like if you lift weights and do TM, it will solve most of your problems.

47:49 I like that because I think there's a whole hell of a lot of truth to it. That distilling down? And It makes life seem much more

48:02 Manageable. If people feel like they have to win the super ultra decathlon of life, where instead of ten sports, there are a hundred and fifty sports you have to be good at. Who's gonna actually surmount that and cope with it well? Nobody. So for me it's like look. If I had to just pull a rabbit out of a hat right now to pick a few, I'd be like, read nonviolent communication.

48:22 Like figure out how to talk to people. Without Sounding. Overly defensive or aggressive.

48:30 Like a life. Unless we're gonna be A monk of some type or a nun. And even then probably there's some crazy internal politics at the Hamlet in China, if you want. You know, the abbot. You're gonna have to deal with that abbot.

48:43 Uh so work on your communication. take that very seriously as like the connective tissue for everything. Don't invest in things you don't understand. It's like when in doubt. Read a few books on like

48:57 Low cost index funds in the S P five hundred. Like go look at the graph. Over the last Five, ten, fifteen, twenty years, you might have some hard Dips here and there, but if you're trying to get fancy and invest in like individual AI stocks, like Wow, maybe you'll pick Amazon and Google out of all the trash there is right now, but

49:15 Most of us won't. I don't think I can do it. Lift weights. Try to do some zone two training where it's like you could speak in single sentences, but you don't really want to do that for like Thirty to Sixty minutes a few times a week.

49:29 And then like don't eat processed crap. Michael Pollock rolls, right? If your grandmother wouldn't recognize the ingredients, don't eat it. Try that. I think you'll do pretty well. Hard to argue with any of that. Coming up, Tim talks about why we need to say no more often.

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51:28 One of your current projects is called the No Book. And the book As Tim has pointed out, may come out in ten years because he's working on it slowly, but he has released a couple of chapters online and I've read at least one of them.

51:41 And it's really interesting. So Before I say too much, maybe you could describe What is the notebook and

51:48 Why are you writing it if Only slowly. Yeah, yeah, I have an eight hundred page draft right now. So it's gonna need to get whittled down a little bit, but The notebook started something like Boy, six years ago.

52:02 where I noticed a lot of people in my audience, my listeners, my readers struggling with focus and saying no. The road to where you want to be in life. Is

52:18 Wizard of Oz, Golden Brick Road. Is saying yes to a few things. A few things. There are just a few things you have to get right. That's the yes road.

52:28 And it's very few things. The guardrails for that or no? You have to say no the entire Way. I was writing this book, I reached out to a bunch of my friends. These are very accomplished friends. In this case.

52:41 To ask them for their recommendations. I thought they would help me write this thing. And they were like, Oh my God, are you kidding me? This is the biggest pain in my life. please send me an early copy when you can. So my friends were there were a few who were actually very helpful, but the vast majority were like, Oh my God, I thought that life was going to get easier. It has only gotten harder. With respect to saying no. It just became this massive project. So I put it on the back burner. And then

53:05 A friend of mine, Neil Strauss, some people might recognize that name. He's written something like ten New York Times bestsellers. And he's terrible at saying no, it turns out. And he was busting my balls about not writing this book. And he kept harassing me about finishing it. And he was actually kind of creating a kerfuffle over a group dinner after a few drinks. And I was just like, Neil

53:28 If you want to read this book so badly, why don't you just help me finish writing it? And I thought that put it to bed. And then the next day when he we all sobered up, he was like, You know, if you're serious While we talk about it. At the same time, I was noticing with social media, certainly, with AI, it's gonna get a thousand times worse. First of all.

53:47 The external forces that want to distract you. R Almost. Unbeatable. It's incredible how sophisticated they are. Secondly.

53:55 The way that enables self interruption and distraction. Is something that humanity has never seen before. There is this incredible pain. in terms of paradox of choice, right? What should I do? Who should I listen to? What should I watch? What should I pay attention to that

54:14 is fracturing the psyches of people. And this, by the way, does not discriminate. Geographically does not discriminate. economically, it's like up and down the chain, left Right.

54:25 front, center, everywhere. The problems just seem to be getting bigger and bigger and bigger. So wrote this book with Neil basically as the The student And what's fun about it, I think it's my most

54:39 entertaining and hilarious book in a way because I'm giving Neil these assignments and then he'll try them, but it'll be like passive aggressive and it'll screw one up or like will he'll actually not do fifty percent of the assignment and then I'll follow up and it he'll have all this guilt. But we have real examples of like emails he tried to send. Text messages he's trying to send. He's trying everything in the book.

55:04 And learning as he goes. And I would say There are a few people who have proof read the whole thing. And they'd proofread it like a year ago.

55:15 They've come back and these are fans of my stuff who've read my other books and they're like, This book has had a huge impact on my life. And they still give me examples. So to then answer the question of well, what exactly is the book talking about? The book is talking about How to say no?

55:33 In a world. Uh Compulsive. Yes. But what's important to note about this

55:40 Is It's not enough to just have a couple of index cards. Or templates. For doing exercise, for saying no. If that's

55:51 Would have worked. It would have worked already. Sure. I can give examples and I give tons of examples of lines that are helpful for saying no. Like Martha Beck, who is like Oprah Winfrey's life coach and is an amazing woman in her own right for a lot of reasons. She turned me down for something. And I include these real No.

56:12 declines and rejections over ten years and and so you share a bunch of them. And she said to me I really wish I could, but I can't do the life Tetris. Due to life Tetris and I was like, Wow, that is so good. You're not explaining, you're not defending, you're not giving a bunch of stuff that someone can try to negotiate around.

56:33 It's just like, Hey, I really wish I could. I just can't do the life Tetris. And so I give examples like that, but that is not enough. Once you start really digging into why people have trouble saying no, it's not Only because they lack templates. It's because of certain Core beliefs.

56:51 Which are thoughts we take to be true. Byron Katie. And philosophies they have that they're not even aware of that make it almost impossible. To say now. And that could relate to FOMO. It could be related to a very scarcity minded

57:08 limited number of opportunities, a belief that you can't generate opportunities yourself. You have to wait for things to come as inbound. And I hit these very early on. And actually I think they're in the sample chapters that people can get. If people go to Tim Dot blog slash no book. So Tim.blog is the actual URL slash No book, one word. I think it's like

57:29 thirty or forty pages of the book. that will get into this. What? A lot of folks will say, I'm too nice for that. Okay, we unpack that because there's a lot there.

57:39 Right. Must be nice for Tim or fill in the blank. Because they're already successful. I don't have that luxury. Right. Okay. Well let's actually double click on that and start to interrogate some of these beliefs.

57:52 And On and on and on. So saying no in a durable way, like really developing a toolkit. Which, as far as I'm concerned, is a self preservation necessity now.

58:04 When I first started it six years ago, I was like, if people really want to get ten X results in their life. And continue to apply the things for the four hour work like like eighty twenty, et cetera. they really need to have. a reliable tool here for saying no, but now looking at

58:20 social media AI, social media enabled AI. Blah blah blah blah blah, what it's gonna do to inboxes, messaging, et cetera. with personalization spam. you fill in the blank that are indistinguishable from humans. This is like knowing how to breathe, as far as I'm concerned. You have to have a toolkit like this, you're you're gonna be a roadkill.

58:39 I think. That sounds probably very dramatic, but it's like I'm sitting in Silicon Valley right now for my first trip here. For a few weeks. in duration in like eight years. I'm telling you guys, the stuff that's coming is gonna be amazing.

58:53 It's gonna be incredible. It's also just gonna be Catastrophic for A lot of mines. that are unprepared with the proper toolkits. So Seg no is important.

59:04 Agreed, and it's a s huge struggle for me. You have a beautiful phrase in your book. promiscuous over commitment and I um I'm really, really guilty of that. There's another nice phrase, you say the book will help you build a benevolent phalanx, uh, protective wall of troops. to guard your goals.

59:22 We don't have time to talk about all of the tools in there, but is there a tool in particular you think that would be very, very powerful for people? Yes, absolutely. A lot of folks have perhaps heard the apocryphal story of and I think I give proper credit. In

59:39 the book and this is one of the chapters that people can get. So there's plenty of value that people can get from the free stuff. But I mean, I'm not even selling it yet, so maybe I'll give away more. One of the Culprits.

59:50 One of the biggest causal factors for why people have trouble saying no. Is they don't have big enough yeses. to defend. Mm-hmm.

1:00:00 And For instance, if you had A brand new child. If you had Or someone you loved, God forbid, had a serious cancer diagnosis. If you had

1:00:13 Tiger by the tail and knew that you were working on a business. I'm using an extreme example on purpose that could be worth billions of dollars. You would not have trouble saying no to things. Yeah.

1:00:24 Okay. So then like we go back to the other end of the spectrum. It's like, well, if you don't have really clearly defined big yeses. That get you excited. that have the potential for huge payoff, not necessarily financially.

1:00:40 And your Kinda searching around your inbox. For things to answer. Right, when people Send you an invite to

1:00:49 a dinner or they want to have coffee to pick your brain or It could be anything. A costume party you don't want to go to. That's a real example from Neil, actually. And You're gonna say yes. Because

1:01:06 What's scarier? than having lots of little or promiscuous overcommitments. It's a big void. Mm-hmm. So the apocryphal story that I was hinting at is the story of the professor who comes in and I wanna say this was from originally

1:01:22 Stephen Covey or maybe Stephen Covey adapted it. The seven habits of highly effective people. Believe was the book. It might have been in his teaching and not in the books themselves. But The story is along these lines. Professor goes in.

1:01:36 And he puts out on the desk in front of the students. Like a large mason jar. A handful of Big rocks. Three or four.

1:01:45 A bunch of gravel. And then a bunch of sand. And He challenges the students. Ask them first how they would fit.

1:01:53 As much as possible. Into the The mason jar and they try different approaches. So if you put in the sand first, then you get a little bit of gravel in. Can't fit the rocks. Well Ditto if you put the gravel in first.

1:02:05 Then you put in the sand. Maybe fit one rock. Okay. And ultimately The lesson is you have to put in the big rocks first.

1:02:15 Then the gravel fits around that. And then you can fit in the sand. In the version that I tell I make a modification to that and I say No matter what they do, there's still sand left over on the table.

1:02:30 And I think the lesson is If you're looking at this In terms of commitments, right? The big rocks are those kind of life changing yeses. The few things you need to protect on that golden road to get. really where you want to be.

1:02:43 Then the gravel. To me are like the smaller but critical things you need to do. Gotta file your taxes, gotta do A, B, or C. And then the sand is all that extraneo stuff, mostly distractions. You can fit some of it. But if you schedule all that stuff first. It's gonna crowd out the gravel, or it's certainly at the very least gonna crowd out all the big yeses.

1:03:06 So in the sample chapters I just walk people through how I do this past year review. And like how I actually pick the big yeses because the book on No Yes.

1:03:19 Equally a book on to answer the question how the hell In a world of Infinite options. in a world of temptation around every corner. Do you pick a few?

1:03:34 Things to focus on. that are really high leverage. How do you do it? That seems like a simple question, but it's actually a very hard question to answer. So I would say that if you're having trouble saying no. Underneath that.

1:03:49 Probably. Is the fact that you don't have a big enough yeses. that are worth defending. And then there's a lot that leads from that. How do you commit to a yes and insure against

1:04:02 renegging. Or something else. This is intended to be, hopefully like all of my books, a very practical book. So what happens when you screw up? There's an entire chapter on how to renegotiate commitments. after you have already overcommitted.

1:04:18 Because guess what? If you have that tendency, you're going to overcommit. You're going to look at your calendar. for the next few weeks or a month and say Good. Lord, I'm screwed.

1:04:29 And then What do you do? You're gonna have to have some very Potentially. uncomfortable conversations. So we're learning to

1:04:37 Renegotiate. Commitments is also an art form that is gonna be included in it. But fundamentally it's

1:04:45 Big yeses worth defending. I would say. is another one. And sure, there are lots of things that you can do that You can do today. You don't have to look at any of these chapters. I have not had social media on my phone in three years.

1:05:00 Mm. Why? Because I feel like you are bringing a Butter knife to a gunfight if you have. These tools on your phone.

1:05:11 And If it's too scary to unplug for Three years. You don't have to commit to that. I didn't in the beginning. It's like Do a one or two week social media fast.

1:05:23 At least on your phone. So I can still access social media if I need a hit of the Heroine. I can still access social media through my laptop, but it adds enough friction that I'm not gonna end up looking at Instagram while I'm on the toilet and wondering why I can't feel my legs. Forty minutes later. Right. It's gonna avoid that type of thing.

1:05:42 Or the compulsive sort of dopamine scratching whenever you have free thirty seconds jumping into social media. This is not good for your ability to focus. It's not good for your ability to single task. It's not good for your mental health when you always have that escape.

1:05:59 I mean look, I'm telling people things they Probably agree with, but perhaps haven't implemented, right? So you can do something like that. You can use an app like Freedom. There's an app called Freedom. That you can use to block. certain things for certain periods of time. I mean there are these

1:06:14 technic tools that you can use. But At the very base. You can't use more window dressing technical tricks. to fix like fundamental problems with

1:06:27 Goal selection. Big yeses we're defending. And core beliefs. If I say no to this person, there something bad is going to happen. And

1:06:39 they're not going to like me. They'll stop inviting me to things. Like if you have these And that is going to what, right? You have to ask. And then what? And then what? I'm gonna end up alone. Okay. Well These are sort of Rubicons you need to get comfortable crossing in the sense that

1:06:54 My experience is this is also Neil's experience. He had Tons of fears, as did I in the beginning stages. It's like When you start to stand up. for the things that are important in your life.

1:07:06 I think this is a doctor Seuss quote, but it's like the people who mind don't matter and the people who matter don't mind. You actually do a lot of pruning in your life. that you should do anyway. And it's a forcing function for that. This is so interesting. It really is about courage in the end.

1:07:24 It is, and you can train that. You can train that. It's not something you are born with or without. That is something through actually understanding. what your fears represent. And like what's underneath them. It could be from childhood. It doesn't necessarily have to be, but when you start to actually examine them.

1:07:45 There's an exercise people could do today also they can find. I did a TED talk on this called fear setting. You start to do fear setting around these fears. You defang them, and guess what? suddenly you have this thing that others might call courage, but what it is, is it's clarity. It's clarity around the actual downside.

1:08:05 which is limited versus the upside. of protecting these big yeses over a year, two, or three. And I will say not to continue to be this dead horse, but with all of the noise that is here, but that is coming with AI, it's gonna be 10, 100, a thousand times worse within two years. If you can single task on important things.

1:08:28 For Not even four hours a day. Two hours a day without interruption, you are going to be from the perspective of let's just say an attention economy in the top one percent of performers. It's never been easier and it's never been harder.

1:08:44 In a way. Yeah. I'm gonna lose you in nine minutes, so I do wanna make sure I quickly ask you about Coyote. Another of your projects. This is a game that you've

1:08:54 design. Can you what is it and why? Yeah. So Coyote It's a tiny little card game that I designed with Some of my friends at Exploding Kittens, which people might recognize. They have a lot of very, very popular games. And

1:09:09 It's a fun family game. It's something like if you could imagine Charades meets. hot potato meats brain teaser, something that I hope uh at some point I'd actually like to do a a clinical study on this, but It makes you just a little bit smarter. The people who play.

1:09:25 It is a um Casual card game you can learn in a few minutes. Each game lasts about 10 minutes. And the reason I created it, I always wanted to make a game, number one. And This is actually a good illustration of some of the stuff that is in the book that'll come out in a hundred years, but people can apply it today. Which is

1:09:44 I choose projects. Based on Which projects will allow me to win even if they fail. What does that mean? I assume that any project could fail for reasons totally outside of my control. It's happened before, it'll happen again. Happens to people every day.

1:10:02 So How am I then choosing things to commit to? Well, generally I'm doing all these two week. experiments on various things like the diet and this, that and the other thing. With projects, it's kind of like a six month commitment. I'm looking at like a six to twelve month project where I really go all in. By the way, that makes

1:10:18 it easier to say no to things. when you're doing a sprint, as opposed to a very slow walking marathon. So I'm committing to something that I think will be six to twelve months. And I am optimizing for What I will learn, right? The density of learning.

1:10:35 and also the relationships that I'll deepen or develop. So it could be with new people, could be with people I already know. With the belief that those relationships and those skills or knowledge Well transcend that project, even if the public hates it, even if

1:10:53 In my case, for instance, China tariffs. for a nine the game that sold for nine or ten dollars. coming from China, that just kills the economics. Not that this was ever a money making thing for me, but it's like there are things that came up. That made this suddenly much harder.

1:11:10 From a kind of business perspective. And Thank God I checked those other boxes because uh fortunately it's got like nine point seven or nine point eight stars on Amazon and it's available everywhere. It's doing really well. But

1:11:24 What I really care about. is like Alan Lee, who's the co founder and CEO of Exploding Kittens. Has become a super close friend. He was a good friend beforehand. We're even closer now. This guy's one of the most amazing polymaths I've ever met in my life. Awesome, hilarious guy. And I have learned so much about mass retail, the Walmarts and Targets and so on. I've learned so much about how you have to play the politics and the game of thrones with that. I've learned about overseas manufacturing. I've learned about

1:11:52 You name it, right? I've learned so much. And those are the reasons for me picking this. And if you look at, for instance, there's a blog post people can find for free. Angel investing. Like investing in early stage companies, which is like ninety percent of my net worth, which I started well before I could quote unquote afford it. There's a blog post called creating a real world MBA.

1:12:12 Which explains kinda how I approached it. Which was the same way I approached this. Learning. And relationships that I think will transcend that project. And

1:12:24 snowball over time so that it's very hard to lose long term. But coming back to the game itself. If you've got Kids in between the ages of Let's say.

1:12:35 I it says ten on the box, but really it's kinda like age eight. If your kids are pretty smart like age fifteen. This is kind of a no brainer. Like the game works really, really well. Adults also really like it. So it's not just for kids, but If you've got some kids around. Or adults who don't care being a little goofy.

1:12:53 Then uh I think it's a really simple fun game that hopefully does something cognitive for folks as well. That was kind of the goal. Coyote game, you can find it everywhere. It is always an enormous pleasure to talk to you. Tim, and uh I know you say no to most shit. So thank you for saying yes to this.

1:13:13 Yeah, I love what you do, man. I love what you do. Uh one of my very close friends who's a professor at a very well respected university had Pains in his body. This just Horrible.

1:13:26 pervasive pain in joints in his body for years and years started using ten percent happier, meditating every day. And it was like boom within four weeks, pains went away. Crazy. I have some theories on that. I think it's actually might be synchronized breathing and vagus nerve stimulation, but that's a separate conversation. And I just think you put a lot of you're very thoughtful and you do a lot of good in the world. And I just enjoy hanging out. So it's always a a pleasure to connect. Thank you. I really appreciate that. Immensely.

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