Why You Can't Manifest With an Old Identity | Jim Curtis

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0:48 I can't manifest anything. I'm not manifesting the life that I want. And it really isn't about changing things. It's being happier. and more aligned in flow state despite everything. This framework that I've used with so many people that breaken them out and transform them into a life, um, starts with Please.

1:08 He is a transformational coach, author, and one of the leading voic blending neuroscience, hypnotherapy, and spirituality. Please welcome Jim. Curtis. I want to change let them to forgive them. Because once you forgive yourself first. And you say I am going to forgive myself for not achieving, for not manifesting, for letting myself down. Put yourself immediately into more of a flow state.

1:33 For someone who feels like they've tried everything around manifesting. They've tried journaling, therapy, affirmations, visualization, hypnotherapy. What's the very first thing that you'd have them do today that's different from everything they've tried? to allow them to start manifesting better. So here's where I start to try. You can't manifest a new life with an old identity. Why is that?

1:58 I love this question. Um mostly because I see people trying to change their behavior, being changing their behavior to make more money, changing their behavior to be better in love, um, while protecting an old belief of who they are. They're I am. So an old belief, an old story, or what is that? Yes, it's the identity that we say that we are, the the patterns that have created who we believe that we are, what we're capable of, uh our likes, our differences. So our identity is really what creates our reality. And and the way that we look at things. So to step into a new life

2:36 We have to be flexible on who we become, who we believe we become. Behavior. But we don't change the identity. Then there's gotta be something that's out of alignment, is that what I'm hearing? Yes. Meaning you're constantly trying to shave your behavior, right? I want something new, I gotta act differently to have it. But if you're not changing your identity, what's protecting and creating the true behavior then you're stuck in a repeating pattern of wanting something and never quite manifesting it.

3:07 So if you're more disciplined, you're more motivated, you're waking up earlier, you're eating healthier, you're more disciplined with sales calls, whatever it is in your financial journey. Yeah. But you're still holding on to I'm not enough. Or I was abandoned or abused in something, or you know, I'm never gonna find love because I was hurt before. Or is this business thing really gonna work because I'm not good with money? Whatever it is, if you're tail if you're doing the discipline actions, yeah, but you're holding on to the identity and the belief that you're still not enough. I'm hearing you say at some point. you're gonna be in burnout, breakdown, or something bad is gonna happen. Absolutely. Absolutely. And so it is this. It is

3:49 our conscious mind, the five percent of everything that's happening, fighting against the subconscious mind. I've heard a lot of your guests talk about this, but it's the five percent that is the willpower, the go, the get'em, right? And it's so powerful, it's heavily weighted in those that five percent is a strong five percent. But in the ninety five percent is who we believe we are, all the things that you said, but there's more. There's this idea of, you know, maybe I'm a creative person. Maybe I'm not good at math. Yeah, that someone who's not good at math, they always say, Oh God, I'm not good at math or I'm not a good reader. Right? That's part of your identity. Anything with I am

4:29 Anything that comes next is your identity. So if you say I'm not good at math or I'm not a good reader Then chances are Your finances are gonna suffer. um or you're reading, you're perhaps you're not you're gonna be more on TV or more on social media. And so when you try to change those behaviors You fizzle out, you burn out.

4:50 Because the identity says I'm not good at math. If someone is unable then to manifest what they want. I've heard you say it's because of hidden programming that stem from childhood or some type of past experience. Yeah. Can you explain what that programming looks like for us? Yeah, this programming that builds

5:09 Everything that we believe in and protect. So the programming in our subconscious mind based on past experiences. Often that programming's from, you know, zero to seven years old. As we're developing. But also programming comes in from really emotional times in our lives, times that we were broken up with, times that we got ill, times that we, you know, were driving a car and almost got into an accident and you know that it becomes I'm not a good driver.

5:35 Yeah, so those programming goes into your subconscious mind and it quietly Under the covers. Runs your life. Yes. When we start to release Those programming. Yeah.

5:49 becoming aware of them and then changing the program. We start to align with what we want. Right, getting into blissful alignment with it or falling in love with what we want, blissful alignment. And then we can become it By reinforcing the identity of of the person that has it.

6:09 And so there are a number of tools to be able to do this, right? Release a line become that's a framework that you talk about in the book, the book of possibility, release. a line become. Can you share this three step framework for us. Yes. So if we're feeling stuck in our life for feeling like man I'm working harder, but I'm not getting the results. And I'm experiencing frustration and anger inside of me. Yeah. How can we use your three step framework release, align, become?

6:35 To start. Attracting The future we want. Mm-hmm. I've experienced this with thousands of people now. And if you've noticed probably there are so many people who are feeling stuck. And they're calling it stuck. Or I can't manifest anything. I'm not manifesting the life that I want. Or um Maybe I'll be single forever.

6:54 Or, you know, I'm y I'm not good with finances. Always be broke. Yeah, I'll always be broke. So it's all these beliefs or issues in life. Right. And it really isn't about changing things. It's being happier. and more aligned in flow state despite everything. So release a line become this framework that I've used with so many people that breaken them out and transform them into a life, um, starts with

7:21 Release. And the release says What are those hidden beliefs in my subconscious mind that have been quietly controlling my life? have to build awareness of it. Because without awareness, you can't release anything. You're in a cage, uh an invisible cage. And then when you start to become aware of those things, oh, it's because this happened. Oh, this story of what my father said to me when I was a child, or

7:47 Now this belief started to make me feel not enough or that I wasn't good at something, then you can start to see the cage. Yes. And then the release comes So that be through a process of journaling or Yeah. Writing down these beliefs or these things that you've been holding on to first so you can kind of see them and separate yourself from them. Yeah. Yep, we go through this in the book too. It's okay. A process it's three step process. Release the line become, and then within each process is read. Right, listen.

8:16 So the way that the book is written and the way that I work with this book is the closest thing to a one on one With me. I can't accommodate everybody now, so I wrote this book. So the way that it's written is first we read and it's written with neurolinguistic, cognitive behavioral therapy, and as a hypnotherapist. And so we Read the text. And it starts to oh.

8:37 start to change our mindset a little bit. And then we write and really profound questions that will Get your subconscious mind to think, to speak. Uh and somatic exercises like the mirror exercises or cord cutting exercises. So we start to become more aware of what needs to be released and then listen to the hypno meditations that I've created in the free companion app so that we can change that program within our own mind through visualization, through guides. Uh, and so that's the release part. Okay.

9:07 The alignment is okay, people say what they want, and some people say I don't know what I want. Or I understand what I want, but I just can't get it. And so how do we create a vision for what we want and then fall so in love with it? become so clear with it. Because I think alignment and love is the same thing. It's blissful alignment. fall so in love with it that we know exactly what we need to do.

9:31 becomes so clear. And so excited about it. And the next part is Become. So

9:40 How do we change our our homeostasis. The homeostasis in our body keeps us from Getting too hot, we sweat. Keeps us from getting too cold. We shiver. And so how do we s change the homeostasis of what we believe we're capable of. So if we go back to it, we'll do Reading?

10:00 writing and listening exercises for each one of those steps so that it naturally, like a seed growing in earth, it naturally, quietly, organically just starts to change until there is a blossom. And then you say, Oh wow, how did all this change? How does someone know when they truly have become versus just performing a new identity. Yes. Oh that's a that's interesting question. So you know that you become because things get easier for you.

10:30 Yeah, there was um There is a woman that Stop me on the street. She gave me a big hug. I thought I knew her. And she said, I was in one of your workshops. And I said, Fantastic. She said, I loved it. My life has changed so completely. And I said, Really? What happened? And she said, Well, I got a divorce and lost my job. And I said, I'm so sorry. And she said, No, the best thing happened to me. You know, I finally realized I was worth more. And she said, I want to introduce you to this man that I met. And she introduced me to the guy she was with. She said, Love of my life and by the way, I'm now making twice as much. Wow. And so you know that your identity has changed when the results in your life have changed. When you are worth more.

11:14 when you are re is receiving, you know, more love, more wealth, more flow. Yeah, more freedom. Yeah. You're not fighting against something. You're kind of flowing through the world with effortlessness. Yes. Yes. This is not about fixing you, it's about freeing you. What does someone do when they don't know what identity is actually running them right now? They can start to ask the subconscious mind, What age is this belief coming from? You can ask your subconscious mind to you have this magical well of information within the subconscious mind. Some believe it's even the bridge to the quantum itself. Right? If so you can start to say if you're experiencing something, it takes a lot of awareness to say this is an uncomfortable feeling.

11:59 What just happened there? Oh, okay. Some of my shadows are coming up. And I hope we talk about shadow work. But some of my shadow come up. I just felt um like I wasn't good enough. I got uh envious. I got um spiteful, I got angry. And we could say, Okay What age of the person We can ask subconscious mind, what age of the person is reacting within me now. Right. And sometimes like oh it's that twelve year old self that had this experience where they got turned down in love and needed to protect from From there on So you can start to say

12:32 What parts of my identity, what ages of development. are now making these decisions. And Interesting.

12:44 is the part of your identity from the past. that you feel still blocks you sometimes. The Part of my identity that still blocks me, I find, is am I going deep enough? Am I detailed enough? Really? Detailed or deep enough? Not deep emotionally, detailed enough. Detailed enough. Yeah. I from my childhood it was always um have you done the work? Yeah, my you know, like g uh have you studied enough

13:10 Have you figured it out enough? Have you suffered enough? Have you done the research long enough? My father had a doctorate in English. I had a s we weren't watching sports, we were studying vocabulary. Yeah, and so I always found that If I had didn't do all the research, all the studies, all the things that That perhaps I Yeah.

13:29 Wasn't going Deep enough in my knowledge. And so even planning for today, I was like, Have do I have all my points correct? When I realized something. Right. And I stop myself. I said.

13:42 I'm not the guy that's gonna go, although in this book I write so much about the science, I've studied, I have degrees, and become a certified coach, or certified hypnotherapist, I've run businesses, right? So But I'm not the guy that's going deep. I'll let Joe dispens another deal. Yeah so What I do act as and is very valuable is I'm a reminder. I'm a reminder for you that this stuff is so achievable.

14:06 that your emotional regulation could be the key to everything that you do. That your own forgiveness Is the most powerful asset that you have, and that your gratitude Can change your life.

14:23 And those are things we all know. And you don't have to go in although there's studies for each one of those things. You don't have to go Into them. To know intuitively.

14:33 That's true. So I just said I love myself and I forgive myself for getting worried about that and I walked in And of course you're a gracious host and um and it was alleviated. Another tool that I've learned is from a friend of mine who said it's hard to be nervous when your heart's on service.

14:55 And so when you're thinking about how am I gonna perform? And how am I gonna look? And I hope I sound funny or interesting or philosophical enough for this show or whatever it is, or a stage or an event or something, an interview. Instead Yes, it's important to prepare and do the best you can to be ready. So you're not underprepared and winging it. Right.

15:18 But at the end of the day, you've got to be thinking, How can I just show up in service and give my best and not beat myself up so much? Or be so overprepared that I'm so anxious. And then when I'm in the interview or on stage or whatever might be. And I forget something and then I'm holding on to that oh I forgot this thing and I'm not perfect. So it's preparing, but then also Let it go.

15:44 And being present to what's what's in front of you. Yeah. So I love that you said that that forgiveness is one of the most powerful tools you can use. And for me That really means forgiveness equals freedom. And when we can forgive ourselves or others,

16:00 It gives us a sense of peace. that we haven't had. And and when we can lean in freedom Or when we can lean in forgiveness and gratitude. It creates more appreciation for what we have as well. One hundred percent. Yeah. In fact, there was a study done

16:16 Um that I read about in the book that showed But when U Um lean into forgiveness when you actually forgive.

16:25 It has incredible effects on the body. It lowers inflammation. It increases immunity. People with HIV they studied when they were able to forgive themselves and forgive others, they had their immunity shot way up. It lowers cortisol. And when all those things higher immunity Lower information, lower cortisol. That naturally emotionally regulates you. And then in that

16:51 There's another study that gratitude When you're in the gratitude mindset. People were less likely to make foolish decisions around money. They were less likely to take out a loan and spend it instead of saving and spending. Right, where they then didn't have the money and they had to pay.

17:09 It's rooted in science, right? But It's really just intuitive. And so Two phrases I really love. is let go and let God.

17:19 And I am divinely guided. And it just settles your nervous system. Th you don't have to worry. Yes. It's all working out. I think if someone can say that over and over again throughout the day is that I'm divinely guided. You're gonna be more in alignment and in tune. With

17:36 decisions and actions you should be taking. to support that belief that you're creating and and declaring. either internally or externally, when you say I am divinely guided. And what you said before in a previous interview is like whatever you say after I am, is you are manifesting. One hundred percent. So if you're saying I am divinely guided, you are manifesting that the more consistently you say it. Obviously you want to be in alignment with it with your actions.

18:04 You don't want to say it and then go completely against it. 'Cause then you're not gonna be backing your belief. But I think if you're backing it through conscious actions and saying Look. There's another vote of what I just said. I'm actually voting for it by taking that action. Yeah. Anything after I am, you are.

18:21 Yeah, after I am, you become. Yes. And so I am divinely guided. It's hard to take a d wrong action after that, right? Because it what it does most is I am divinely good it lowers even if it looks wrong, yeah like no, that was meant to happen for something else greater. Right. It's like so not there is no mistake. I use it all the time to settle myself. Yes. I am divinely guided. It lowers fear and allows me to make good decisions. Because fear is lying to you. Mm-hmm.

18:48 Yeah, it you don't have to believe Your fear. Was there ever a time in the last you know, six months or the last year where you said, I'm divinely guided, but then something bad happened. Mm.

18:58 quote unquote bad happened, or it seemed like They didn't that didn't feel divinely guided, you know, that that person I met who lied to me or that you know opportunity that didn't work out or that investment or whatever it is, like Was there something you were like, huh? I thought this was meant to be

19:15 A good thing and it didn't work. Always with health. Always with health with me because I have physical issues and so I see, you know I'm divinely guided. What's meant to be will be. And then there's a new pain. And so I'm challenged. Frustrating.

19:34 Why is why am I How is this divine guidance? Yeah, and then we're saying, Oh okay. If I can just settle back into emotional regulation and then forgive my body. Forgive myself for getting upset. Forgive the shame of

19:49 Yeah, maybe having that pain or that illness. And then I realized that okay. You can breathe again, I'm divinely guided. And It makes it easier every time. Yes. So it doesn't necessarily remove all the issues and challenges from your life.

20:04 But it just settles you enough where you can be back on the path. Yeah, yeah. For someone who feels like they've tried everything around manifesting. They've tried journaling, therapy, affirmations, visualization, hypnotherapy, and nothing worse for them. What's the very first thing that you'd have them do today that's different from everything they've tried to allow them to start manifesting better? They should go to a better hypnotherapist. Exactly. Um so here's what I would start to try. One is forgiveness. Right. We talk about forgiveness. We've written books about forgiveness. We've listened to Instagram reels ad nauseum about forgiveness, right? But I want to change let them to forgive them.

20:44 I just want to change let them to forgive them. Because once you forgive yourself first And you say I am going to forgive myself for not achieving, for not manifesting, for letting myself down, for you know, shaming myself for not doing any of that stuff. Right. You put yourself immediately into more of a flow state. And now I want you to look

21:05 and others and say, Oh, I've been holding anger and resentment towards a number of people in my life and that's been keeping me at a low vibrational frequency. I'm gonna forgive Mom and Dad. They were doing the best they could, even if they did horrible things, right? They were corrupt. I'm gonna forgive all those people growing up. Right. And it's not to say that you're gonna put yourself in harm's way. It's not to say you're letting them off the hook. Marou said this, it's like the best gift you can give yourself is to forgive. You've got a quote in your book, the book of possibility on page ninety three that says if you hold on to anger and blame

21:40 Dwelling on how things should have been, you're living in a low vibration that can physically harm you. Your stress rises, your mental health declines. Unforgiveness. Places a burden on your Heart.

21:54 And I think You know, at the essence of a lot of your work and what you're continually going through with physical challenge. Yeah. It sounds like If you don't have forgiveness in your heart

22:07 Nothing good will come. It sounds like if you hold on to anger. Rage. Or blame, or dwelling on th how things could have been from your past. I wish my parents did this way. I wish I'd made this opportunity. I wish I didn't get hurt from this divorce, whatever it is. Yeah, because it keeps you in an identity of abused child, um, you know, person, you know, divorced person that has been injured, the trauma of this, right? The wound. It keeps you in this survival mode. Uh and through that survival mode that that

22:38 tending and surviving and healing. Right. It doesn't allow you to step out and truly experience like the bliss of being. Yes. Uh so when you Start to say

22:50 I forgive all that. And I'm it It's it really says it's time to move on. Mm-hmm. From that old identity, that old story that you're holding on to. Yes, right. Because I I'm no longer tied to you. I've cut that cord through forgiveness. You know, we we do cord cutting ceremonies too, but uh I cut that cord through forgiveness. The science shows it, right? And now emotionally, I cut that cord to forgiveness And therefore I can now

23:15 move on without the tethers into my new way of being, into my new identity, which is more powerful, more loving, and a much higher frequency, which Guess what? Lower inflammation in your body, more oxytocin, more endorphins, and which Sends you on a path. Yeah, so I always say that neuroscience and science is really changing the mind. And spirituality.

23:40 Is healing the heart. Mm. That's beautiful. Because unforgiveness places a burden on your heart. And if your heart is being weighed down. physically burdened in a cage

23:53 And Reflecting towards the past pain. Right. It's hard to create a vision. of a future possibility of manifesting what you want. When you're always

24:03 Burden by the past. Mm-hmm. I've heard you say that people would be surprised. who they need to forgive first before anything else can start to shift. So who is the person we need to forgive first? And why does everything else stall until that happens? I know that people listening saw an image in their mind.

24:21 Or the person they need to forgive first. Mom, Dad, the husband, the wife, whatever. Yeah, yeah. Yeah. And now I want you to look in the mirror. Ooh. Right? Oozing. Ooozing. Look. In the mirror because you are the person you need to forgive first. Wow. You've been s you've been Terribly difficult.

24:41 You've been terribly hard on yourself. You've been yeah. You're feeling that you've been telling yourself you're not good enough. You've been shaming yourself for those decisions you made. You've been wondering why you just can't get it right. You've been so angry with yourself because your body's broken. You've been so with withdrawn because you feel stuck. Or you or you're

25:05 Yeah. your depression has you, right? And so first of all Just stand in front of the mirror. Look yourself in the eye and see that beautiful soul that's within your body. That's you. That's your conscious awareness of the soul. And just say, I'm so sorry.

25:21 I forgive you. Thank you. And I love you. And just feel yourself transformed. You are the first person that you need to forgive anybody that's listening. Again, unforgiveness places a burden on your heart. You say that in your book on page ninety three. Yeah. When you forgive yourself. And then you forgive others. It's like you create a sense of peace in your heart.

25:42 Your s your heart starts to mend. And hopefully that sends a signal. of healing energy throughout your body as well. The heart. has a higher electromagnetic frequency than the brain.

25:55 And that's what they talk about, your heart going into coherence. Yes. And your heart can't go into coherence if you're holding on to anger and um Resentment. When you look at your eyes and you Own it and believe it. It's like receiving Someone else's apology.

26:12 the truest sincerest apology and what that feels like. Sure, maybe for the first moment you might be like, yeah, but you should have apologized a year ago or you shouldn't have done it in the first place. But when someone truly apologizes to you, It kinda releases the tension as well for you. Yeah. So imagine doing that for yourself. And I want everyone watching or listening to To try this today, tonight, right now, find a mirror.

26:37 and sit with yourself whatever you need to let go of, whatever you need to release. And align and become, I'm telling you, forgiveness. It sounds so simple. It's extremely courageous and vulnerable to do. And so hard. And so hard, but it is such a simple

26:54 tool right that if you learn to forgive others. By forgiving yourself first. and receive the forgiveness you give yourself. And then doing it for others. You at least create peace and harmony alignment in your body.

27:07 And that goes a long way. Goes a long way. Now it doesn't mean you let go of boundaries. It doesn't mean you bring people back into your life. It doesn't mean you hang out with people. Or or do harmful things to yourself again. We go into the science of forgiveness. We go into the exercise of forgiveness. I love the idea of doing that exercise. We talk about the mirror exercise, and I do this with a lot of the groups, and it's staring at yourself in the mirror, right? And then listening. First you take off all your clothes. Getting a full length mirror.

27:40 And you stand in front of the mirror. Get close. So you can see the wrinkles. You can and so the insecurities and the insecurities, boy, why's one hip higher than the other? Why's my stomach so big? What's what are those veins? What are those wrinkles? Um and you listen to your Mind. So

27:57 Judgment. Judge. Shame. All those you're too old, you're too young, you're too fat. Um Some people come back and say, You know, I had the nicest things to say about myself. It was a That's beautiful. Majority of people don't. And then the next step is to apologize to yourself and forgive.

28:16 For each one of those terrible things that you had. Thought of and said. It becomes, like you said, like the story, a really cathardic moment. Yes. And within that energy shift. You Raise your frequency.

28:30 To be more in a frequency of love. Because what that is is compassion for yourself. Mm-hmm. And that compassion for yourself. Puts you in a loving Frequency.

28:41 one of the highest frequencies that you can be in. And through being in that love frequency, Everything changes. Take me for example. I Wouldn't go out. I you know, wouldn't do many things that uh if I had to be in front of an audience.

28:57 Um or Um, definitely not on any kind of Yeah. public T V appearance or anything like that because I was incredibly

29:09 self conscious and shameful the way that I walked. Really. Yeah. Yeah. And so now I had pain in my body and then I was creating even more anguish by like you know, I'll never be loved if I'm walk this way. If I can't hike up a mountain then you know every you know woman that I ever wanted, you know, probably doesn't want me. Yeah.

29:29 Turns out that not every woman wants to hike up a mountain. But it wasn't thank God. But it wasn't until I truly accepted and loved myself and apologized and forgave myself. For Being so mean to myself. That my life

29:45 Dramatically. dramatically changed. More love, more wealth. More success, more ability to contribute to the world. My friend, I hope you're enjoying this episode. And the School of Greatness drops new conversations every Monday, Wednesday, and Friday around money, mindset, healing, manifestation, and relationships. And if you're not yet following the show, then you're missing all of them.

30:09 please tap the follow button right now and you'll get notified the moment every new episode drops because the next one might be exactly what you need. Now let's get back to the conversation. On a scale of one to ten, ten being the worst, one being the best. How mean were you to yourself most of the time. Ten being like

30:30 I was the meanest you know, a hole in the world to myself, one being like I was an angel to myself. Yeah, I I was the meanest. Really? Yeah. And and I didn't even think I realized it. Because until you do the exercise of really listening to your thoughts It just plays.

30:46 And so this is what the release part is, is building awareness around What you're saying to yourself. Because what I realized when I was building awareness is I was restricting myself. I was embarrassed of myself. I was shameful of myself. I wasn't allowing myself to have fun. I wasn't allowing myself to fall in love. I wasn't allowing myself to feel safe or I wasn't allowing myself to be vulnerable. And I think that is

31:10 Terribly mean. Mm. Right. And when I did allow myself to do all that stuff. You know, because I forgave myself and then on top of that I started to say I love you. I love you, part of that prayer.

31:23 I love you. The whole world opened up. My body release the pain, but it didn't release the physical limp. But my entire world changed regardless.

31:35 So the belief And the identity of who I was instead of being shameful and guilty and bad. I became a Yeah.

31:44 Someone who was trying to help in the world and through my own pain. you know, driven and mission oriented. And so My world changed.

31:54 Just by changing. My belief. And but to do that, as we talk about in this book, the tools it's about getting beyond Yeah. the mundaness of forgiveness and gratitude. For example

32:07 Water is mundane. Except for the people in the part of the world that are listening to us that are in water scarce. Right. They have no water or it's polluted or whatever. But in the majority of the world, right? It's abundant. It's abundant, right? It's like uh it's kinda boring, right? You're like, uh no, I want yeah, I want a drink. I want like whatever it is. Something, you know, we're always putting like Flavors in water. Right. But water besides air is the only thing that you can't go very long without without dying.

32:37 It is literally we're made mostly of water. It has all of our intuitive, innate wisdom within it. You know the It is not only functioning on an intuitive level, but on a physical level. And so I believe forgiveness and gratitude are the same thing. We start to

32:54 Take it for granted, but when we really dig in Those things can change your entire life. So what is the prayer then? The process that you were just talking about, the thank you, I'm I forgive you, I'm sorry. It's called the Honopono Pono Prayer. And the Honopono Pono Prayer was Um a prayer that was the as the story goes, it was an energetic prayer and That had the process. It's more of a

33:19 besides don't think of as words, think of it as a code, a frequency that you're expressing through the tone of your voice. into the world. Right. And the story goes that the The man who kind of Created this.

33:32 was praying over pictures of inmates in a very violent prison in Hawaii and When he did this the violent crime within the prison went down so dramatically, most of the prisoners were transferred into a lower security. Really? Yeah. He was doing a remote prayer. Remote prayer. And so This prayer was the first thing when I started to do it the first time. I would break down in tears. Wow.

33:59 And it's you don't need to focus on where it goes. It can it will go to the place it needs to. And You center yourself and breathe. And you simply start to repeat as a mantra. Do it ten times, twenty times.

34:13 I'm sorry. Please forgive me. Thank you. I love you. I am sorry.

34:20 Please forgive me. Thank you. I love you. Make it a mantra. Keep doing it. Keep doing it. Mm. Certain.

34:30 It's gonna crack something. Yeah. Would you say that this is the ultimate prayer for manifesting? I think it's the ultimate prayer for forgiveness, but you can't manifest without your own forgiveness anyway. So it's the starting prayer for it. Exactly. Okay. That's interesting.

34:46 We're talking about Creating a new identity, letting go of the old identity so you can step into the new identity. How can someone start to rewire their identity then to Attract, create, manifest abundance. And

35:02 wealth in their life. Mm-hmm. Good. So we're talking about A couple of things.

35:10 One is How do we release that old identity, which we just talked about? We release that old identity by forgiveness, by awareness, by really bringing to light those limiting beliefs within the subconscious mind that need to be released. The second part is how do we step into a new identity that is more abundant. Yes. Right. And I call it the three Gs. Three Gs. The three Gs. And the three Gs are Uh

35:38 Grounding. Giving. Ingratitude. Right. And this gets into a subconscious and conscious. It hits on both levels. It hits on the neuroscience of it. And it hits on the spirituality of it, which are really the same thing. Quantum physics is showing that uh

35:58 really neuroscience and spirituality are the same. We can get deeper into that. But um so the first one is grounding. emotional regulation from a place of a grounded, emotionally regulated stance, you get out of fight or flight, you get out of freeze and fawn, and you're able to make Decisions. That are clear. And not focus focused on panic.

36:24 You make decisions that are clear and they're not anxious. They're not worry driven. They're grounded here and now decisions and they become more powerful and clear. Right. So from that place of grounding, emotional regulation, you're not gonna be in scarcity. If you're not in scarcity, then it's okay to save. Mm-hmm. You don't need to buy all the material items now. You don't need to take a loan that it may not be behoove you. You can just save for what you need.

36:54 Knowing that you are abundant and you don't need that now. We're talking about money. The second part is giving. When you give money to a charity, when you give money I had a teacher and he said you can never give it all away. It comes back to you.

37:10 You become in an abundant frequency that says I can give. I have more than I need. And so some people will say That's not true. Like I can't give money. I don't have enough. Find an amount.

37:24 Mm-hmm. And it will come back to you. It is the ultimate Frequency of abundance.

37:32 When in doubt, focus out. Give. The third part. is Gratitude.

37:39 So There have been studies done on gratitude, and we're not even talking about the frequency of love and feeling good towards yourself. There have been studies that shown that when we feel gratitude, we are in uh High vibrational state. Allows us to make the best decisions, lower our material need. Increase our ability to wait prolonged need for something.

38:02 And so that allows us to save money and to do. And so we start to say Okay. If I have a gratitude practice every day For what I have. Then I am in a state to

38:15 Where more will come. I am in a naturally abundant state. Right. And the last part is I always I wrote about it in my book. I wrote about your book. Because it really affected me. It says if money was someone at a party How would you treat them? Yeah. That really goes to your identity. Yeah.

38:33 It goes to your identity and I remember I remember thinking, How would I treat money at the party? How would you? I think now or there's before I would um I would I put them on a pedestal and try really hard to be nice to them. Depress them or yeah, yeah. Yeah. Yeah. I remember hearing Gabby Bernstein talk about it. She'd be like, Money be my best friend

38:55 I'm like, that's what I need to do. And so that's your identity. What are you worthy of? Mm. And so we can use somatic exercises, we can use neurolinguistic programming and hypnotherapy in the read Right. listen format of this book.

39:12 That will Change that. that will start to open up and create new neural pathways and new ways of being. I've heard you say you can't attract a life your subconscious doesn't believe you deserve. Exactly. So if someone doesn't believe they're are deserving and worthy of love.

39:29 of abundance of health. And they're trying to take all the actions to create them. But there's a gap. Or maybe they Create them, but then

39:40 They still don't believe they're worthy of them. They have them and they don't believe they're worthy of them. What typically happens next? So you can't create a life that your subconscious mind doesn't believe you deserve. Exactly right. So even if you hustle and you get it. You'll sabotage it. Yeah. you will sabotage it. Uh and so you that's why you see people that had everything had a man that had the relationship of his dreams and then he cheats. Um or someone that gets their job and then they that they always want and then they get fired because they just can't get to work. And it's like

40:15 Okay. If your subconscious mind Isn't In line with what you want. It will sabotage until you lose it.

40:23 Mm. And this is yeah. Both with the fear of failure. And the fear of success. And so we have to really go in and re envision, reprogram. And yeah.

40:35 who that child is, we all have these childhood wounds. Then we have to go in and re experience Those experiences are I think within a transcendental state, a trance state. So that we can retrain in the best possible light.

40:51 For example, I have a client. She was very successful at business. Um and never got into a relationship. Now she sold her business. Wants a relationship.

41:04 can't find one is also having an identity crisis because she's no longer running a big business. Right. Well, I don't have my identity around my business, where I was leaning on. Now I don't I don't have a relationship. I don't have my business. So now I consciously want a relationship, I can't I can't hold one down. And also a new business now. Right. Should I start a new business, but Yeah, uh I don't have my business. I don't really want to start a new business, but I feel like I'm not good enough without a big business that I've started.

41:32 And so what we got to was All the way back. She was riding in a car with her father at a young age. And the father said something like No one's here to take care of you.

41:46 I'm not gonna you may have a silver spoon in your mouth now, but I'm not gonna take care of you forever. And yeah, one day if you don't take care of yourself, you'll be homeless and then maybe I'll take care of you. Right, right. And so that in her little mind said. I need to take care of myself. Hyper independents, hyper success. And if I'm not making money, I'm not worthy. And also no way I'm gonna rely on someone else, be vulnerable enough to rely on a partner.

42:12 To help me? And so we had to unravel that. What we did is we went into state of hypnosis. And we re experience that, except for I guided into the state of her father saying something completely different. She was crying, crying, crying. And then when she came out of it, she felt as though The world has shifted. Wow.

42:32 Yeah. And so we start to say, Oh, we need to start to do the inner child work. We need to do Shadow work and inner child work. Both such important pieces. to becoming who we want to become. What is shadow work?

42:46 Shadow work or all those shadows, those monsters that lurk within all of us. That were created to protect our child. So As a child.

42:57 Right. We have all these experiences that we don't understand, or emotions that are hurt. No way of really expressing And the shadows are those Things that

43:10 We're there to protect us. But now come out in ways that we're not proud of. Like our anxieties are Anger. our jealousies, our sabotaging others, our resentments, right? That all those negative ways of being. And so what we do is we hide those shadows.

43:28 We don't want anybody to know. Well the funny thing is we all have them, so we're all hiding the same sh We're all hiding the same stuff. Mm-hmm. And so we don't want anybody to know it. So we think we're hiding it, but the more we hide it, the louder that monster gets. You're only as sick as your secrets, as they say. Or it'll explode at some point. Right. Exactly.

43:48 So Shadow Work says I'm going to recognize That I just reacted in this terrible way. Out of jealousy. I did something terrible to that person. I went out and you know, wrote something online about them because I was jealous of them. I'm gonna recognize that I did that. I'm gonna recognize that it

44:09 was probably from a pain or hurt as a child. And I'm gonna forgive it. And I'm going to integrate it within me with love. This part of me. And Carl Young said we're you know

44:22 Shadow work is the only real way. To expand our own being. Otherwise we're just lying to ourselves. And so the through shadow work we're able to Integrate. Both sides of us, even those ugly things, and love it.

44:39 And with that start to do the inner child work that heals all the guilt wounds. The guilt wound in inner child work is children that have been abused or Um Yeah, I come from difficult families and then Now they're always like

44:53 Wondering if you didn't text them back because they did something wrong. Or someone who asks you, Are you mad at me? Often that's the guilt wound from childhood or Yeah, the anxious attached wound or those different wounds within childhood. These are all the inner child work that we can start to do to change it. So interesting.

45:13 When I reflect back on on childhood stuff like I really struggled with I didn't really have any friends. Or at least that was the story I was telling myself. And

45:23 I remember I still Like something changed in high school. Like I started to not be like so tall and goofy looking, you know, I started to like fit in my body. Right. I became more athletic. I was like, Oh, I'm you know a starter on the sports teams and the MVP and I was like, Oh, now I'm getting attention Yeah. For the thing that drove me to try to get attention, which was all right. No one's my friend. I can't get attention from girls. Like no one wants to hang out with me. They're all making fun of me. So let me be so good.

45:53 that people want to be around me. And it worked. The strategy protected me and s it helped me survive, right, in like school. To the fact that I was like, Oh, now I'm like The the big man on campus.

46:06 Right. But I didn't know how to navigate that. I didn't know how to like navigate having friends and people wanting me a part of their ecosystem now. And so

46:17 I was almost like afraid of it. And I almost was like hyperbilligent like is everything okay and I'm am I doing the right things I want to make sure I don't lose this. Yeah. Now that I've got it, I don't want to go back to being alone. Yes. And having no friends. So that's where the fear is and the attachment. What do you need? How can I be here for you? Ah can I be the funny guy and then this guy or that that's another one people pleasing. All this stuff. I gave Every strategy of survival I I wasn't even aware. I wasn't conscious of it. I was just doing it. So I didn't

46:44 feel like I was alone and had no friends again. But you became con How did you become conscious of it? In my late twenties, it was like right around before I started the school greatness. I was like starting to reflect because all these things were breaking down in my life. You know, uh intimate relationship was breaking down, you know, business partnership was breaking down, friendships were breaking down. And that was the common denominator of everything. Yeah. So I was like Oh, I can't just point the finger that everyone else is wrong. Because I'm involved in all this wrongdoing. So there's something I'm bringing to the table.

47:16 That is also causing these things to happen in this relationship. Isn't that powerful. And or I'm attracting these people that are bringing this on to me. Maybe I'm not doing anything wrong, but I'm attracting something. I'm staying in relationships. I'm not creating boundaries. I'm I'm giving too much, whatever it might be. And I was like, Oh, I need a lot of reflection. And so there was the time before I had a lot of ego where I was like, everyone else is bad and wrong. I'm not gonna change. Like, why should I change? They're the one who did this. Yeah.

47:44 And then A number of instances made me feel So kind of overwhelmed and like stress that I was like I think there's something wrong with me, you know, it's like I think I'm the problem.

47:57 Or part of the problem. Yeah. And why am I attracting people in this way? And why am I allowing this to happen? Why does this keep happening? Let me take a look in the mirror. Psychologically. And that's when I started to go to emotional intelligence workshops. I started to get coaching. Kind of emotional coaching.

48:13 Um And really started to just dive into Inner childhood wounds. And the stories that I had attached my identity to. Everything you're talking about here in the book of possibility.

48:27 Right had I hadn't released The old identity. I carry the old identity into an adult body. Right. Still carrying

48:40 Energy of scarcity of fear of not enoughness of Um survival. Mm-hmm. In adult scenarios. Yeah when I had had millions of dollars at this point in the bank. When I had

48:56 You know. lots of relationships with successful people that I knew, when I had an audience, when I had a business, all these things. But I didn't have peace. I didn't have I didn't have love for myself and I didn't have

49:10 Three them. And That was a beginning. It was around thirteen years ago when I started the show. Was the beginning of a healing journey.

49:21 That will continue forever. But it's been So many uh that first kind of unlock. released a lot of forgiveness from the past. But it's been an ongoing, you know.

49:33 thirteen year journey of unlocking different layers. It took that awareness. Yes. Right. And then without that pain. You know, people often think that their pain is the worst thing that ever happened. And the truth is that pain is the biggest catalyst you could have if you're willing to be aware of why it's happening. Yeah, and You know, I'm grateful that my ego finally let go.

49:55 Because for A long time. Ten plus years, my ego is like No, I'm just gonna win more. I'm just gonna make more. I'm gonna like. grind I'm then not sleep until I'm like showing everyone it was like

50:08 I show them I'll just become even more powerful. Exactly. And it worked. But it left me feeling more sad and stressed and overwhelmed than ever. Like I got the external results, but I had no internal freedom. That's why these things aren't bad or good. Yeah. Right. They're they're you know, there was some good. Yeah, the strategy works to get external results, but not internal freedom. And it got you to a place where you felt secure enough where you can then do the deep emotional work. Exactly. Right. And you know, I had that Same kind of scenario with romantic relationships. Really? Where I was

50:44 At one point I had to say, Okay, now I've been in a lot of failed romantic relationships. And uh I can't I can no longer say that it was This small thing about so and so. Um and I had to take a real look at myself and said, Okay.

51:02 Oh, is this my avoidance? Is this my attachment? Is this my inner child wound from you? m my father being abusive and yeah, the guilt of Yeah, the child that always feels like they did something wrong when they don't understand why their father's so mad at them. Um

51:20 And so That allowed Yeah, meat. In relationships.

51:27 And then when I realized that that was my wounding and that was my shadow, I had to make a change. You work with a lot of top entrepreneurs, public figures, creatives, artists. What's the most common subconscious pattern that you see running. for high achieving individuals.

51:47 Confidence, low confidence and imposter syndrome. Really? Yeah. That's yeah. The most common subconscious pattern. Yeah. For high achievers, successful individuals is I'm not enough. Yeah.

51:59 Really? Yes. Yes. I see it with people that you would say, No way. But they're feeling like You know, They have to go more. Proved more.

52:10 Because Don't they already have it all? They're celebrities and businesses and billionaires and success and Yes, exactly, but fame. But really they're all um so many people are wondering When Are they gonna figure me out? Really? Yes. And then the comparison to others.

52:30 Right. The comparison to others of but this person may have done it better if they have more. And so that becomes So Difficult. And just being happy.

52:43 When you're always worried someone's gonna find out that you're an impostor and perhaps you'll never have what this person has over here. Who do you think is more unhappy? People that make over a million dollars a year. Or people that make Less than fifty thousand dollars a year. Less than fifty thousand dollars a year. I do I think there's a point where like a an amount of wealth doesn't accumulate to more happiness, but there is definitely a point where you're like, Okay.

53:11 Um this has definitely changed my life for the better. Yeah, yeah. Now the question is how are you spending your money? Because if all of a sudden you went out and like bought the best BMW and like the fancy house and your million dollars is gone and you know whatever it is. Yeah, and and so I think It all it goes back to your behaviors and to holding on Not sabotaging yourself. So a lot of these individuals, not everyone. Uh, but a lot of these individuals who are high achievers.

53:37 They feel like they aren't enough, or they're comparing themselves to someone else in their industry who might be doing it better from their point of view. So if you could speak to every high achiever Celebrity Uh

53:50 you know, multi millionaire, billionaire who On the outside, most people would think they have it all, but on the inside They look themselves in the mirror and they feel like they're a worthless piece of crap and they Aren't smart, aren't funny, aren't talented. And they're not enough, what would you say to those individuals right now? I'd say it to them and I'd say to everybody listening, You're not your body, you're not your pain, you're not your job.

54:15 You are nothing that you can identify as an object, like this glass, this body This this job. Your accolades, your followers. And instead you were something far more worthy. You are your conscious awareness. You are meant to be here. Right? You're meant to shine your light.

54:34 You don't have to worry about anything other than that. The more you shine your light in terms of your joy and your love then The more that you'll have. And so

54:45 We can release the worry for a minute. Right. We can just be here now. And in that here and now Knowing that we are inherently worthy. Inherently enough, inherently deserving, and we don't have to prove it.

55:00 That's what I would if I could Get everybody to feel and believe that. Then Lives would shift. You mentioned something before.

55:11 that neuroscience and spirituality are the same. Love it. Why Is neuroscience and spirituality the same? Well, Yeah, we are we need both of them.

55:25 Because we are not just spiritual or human. We're a spirit having a human experience. So to to not focus on science would be missing out on a big part and not focusing on Spirituality would be missing out a big part. So you know the science is or the neuroscience is really shifting of the mind, whereas spirituality is healing and shifting of the heart.

55:50 And so It is so Conjoined. Like that. However, now start to look at what's happening in science today.

55:59 We have quantum physics. that is talking about this idea that With our own observe observation. Things shift. And then

56:09 Those things are shifting in a large void. Yeah. Of nothing. Until we actually see it. So this quantum field. The void. Right. And so spirituality has been talking about God, the universe,

56:25 Yeah, has been talking about the universal mind. Forever. So the Dao used to say everything is the Dao and the And the Dow is everything. Same as Yeah, the Sufi

56:37 Text would talk about so above is below. Now quantum physics is talking about This idea that we are all entangled and connected. So the more that we get into science, the further we progress,

56:51 The more we realise that It's always been speaking the same language of the Of the mind and the heart. Forever. If someone watching doesn't believe in God

57:01 What would you say to them? Believe in science. Mm. And if you don't believe that God is the creator, then you know, we have this funny thing that says You know, there is this field.

57:13 And quantum mechanics, quantum computer, and quantum physics has proved that it exists. And you can't see it. It's invisible. It's invisible and you need to actually have the just faith that it's there. And doesn't that sound a lot f familiar? Yeah, yeah. Yeah. So if you don't believe in God or any of the stuff that I've said today, all the woo woo stuff. Um Just look to science'cause it's all proven.

57:38 Yeah. How old are you now? Fifty. If you could go to sixty. And give herself

57:45 Three pieces of advice now. And just quantumly leap into the future. You're sixty and you're seeing yourself now. What three pieces of advice would you give yourself? I'm giving my fifty year old self advice.

57:58 Have more fun. It's not always this good. Right. Right. Have more fun is not always as good. Appreciate your body. It's only getting worse. And stop worrying so much.

58:16 Yeah. It's all working out. What do you worry about the most? My body. Yeah. Yeah, my body or whether I'm gonna be on time.

58:23 I'm gonna be in traffic. Right. Yeah. With this work that we do, it doesn't say that warrior is stopped. It's a natural way of being. It's just to say that you can settle yourself down. A lot quicker.

58:34 Yeah. And those lessons that worry's trying to teach you can go away much faster at a snap instead of Getting stuck in the overthinking mind. Your new book is called The Book of Possibility. Release A line. Yeah.

58:51 If you guys want more on how to transform your life and your mind and feel peace, harmony, make sure to check out the book. Get a copy for your friend as well, the book of possibility. You got an event around it that people can get access to. uh if they go to jim curtiscoaching.com or if they follow you on Instagram, Jim Curtis One. on Instagram they can get more content, learn more about the launch.

59:15 get access, things like that. Uh and I'm sure you'll be doing other things as well around it. So if they follow you. and uh subscribe, they'll be able to get access to all that stuff. Who should be getting this book? And what do you think is available for them on the other side if they actually go through it? And apply the principles. I wrote this book for people who are

59:35 ready for a change, who know there's something more and are wanting to be freed to do it. Those people that have been feeling stuck, those people with chronic pain or an illness, those people that want to manifest in a more powerful way. It comes with a companion app. So you actually listen to the hypnosis, so it changes your mind. So those curious people who know that there's something more to life and want to wake up happier and go to sleep easier. Most of the people say that one of the things from this work is I can just go to sleep. I don't worry anymore. Yes. Um, and if you want to step into the most powerful version of you, that's what this book is for, despite all the challenges around. That's beautiful, man. I'm gonna peop sure people get the book. The book of possibility. I asked you this before, but I'm gonna I'm curious your

1:00:21 what your three truths are again. So imagine you get to live as long as you want. uh but on the final day you have to take all of your work with you. The book, this content, everything has to go with you. And you only get to leave behind three lessons to the world. I call three truths. What would those truths be for you? You're not doing it wrong.

1:00:40 You are living life. It's supposed to be challenging. All these issues that come up, your reactions, poor, good, whatever. You're doing it exactly right. That's one. The second one is

1:00:52 Kindness towards yourself and others will go Much further than you could ever possibly imagine. And you can't give it all away. The more you give And money and time and life. The more you receive.

1:01:07 Yeah. Just don't give it all away at once. Right. Yes. I think it's a great distinction. Jim Curtis, thanks so much for being here, man. Thank you. Thank you again. My friend, I hope you're enjoying this episode right now because we are on a mission to impact 100 million lives every single week. And every follow here on this podcast helps us reach more people. Make sure to hit the follow at the top of this show's page right now. It's the single biggest thing that you can do to support the show and the impact of us reaching you every single time we have new episodes. I appreciate you.

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